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Single Army mom? Love what it is.. 1 child; Vidalia, Louisiana 1415 posts
6th Mar '13

I been thinking really hard about joining the army,although i don't know what position I would want and I know nothing about the army.. All i know is im a single mom and working at the Fish Fry isn't gonna help much.. Im wondering if any of yall know how things go being a single mom and all.. Can you join? Can the kid come with you? Where can i look into all this at?
I would really appreciate help and advice about this.. I just want to give my baby boy a good life..

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
6th Mar '13

Military policy, except for National Guard, prohibits single parents from joining the service. You would have to give up custody of your child to someone.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
6th Mar '13

To join as a single parent, you have to sign custody over to someone else. You can enlist, if you're willing to choose the military over motherhood. They CAN sign custody back over after BCT/AIT, however, you run the risk of being kicked out since you didn't enlist as an active parent.

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29607 posts
6th Mar '13

Speaking to a recruiter would be my first step advice

Stefan Salvatore Due March 29; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Fort Hood, Texas 11679 posts
6th Mar '13

You will have to sign the rights to your daughter over to someone while you are in training IF they even let you in.



I know the army has been really strict about who they let in lately because of how many people are trying to join.

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29607 posts
6th Mar '13

You do not sign your rights over! It's alled a family care plan and they temporarily watch your child if you were to have training, deployments etc

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" You do not sign your rights over! It's alled a family care plan and they temporarily watch your child if you were to have training, deployments etc"


Yes, you do. The Family Care Plan is for people already IN the military.



http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/enlsingparent.htm
https://forums.goarmy.com/thread/219851

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
6th Mar '13

Generally they don't let single moms join unless they give legal rights of the child to someone else, due to training a and deployments. Not to mention with budget cuts they're not really accepting much of anyone right now.

Stefan Salvatore Due March 29; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Fort Hood, Texas 11679 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" You do not sign your rights over! It's alled a family care plan and they temporarily watch your child if you were to have training, deployments etc"


My sister just talked to a recruiter a week ago and they told her she would have to sign her rights over to a family member.



I am pretty sure the family care plan is for people who are already in the military.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" Yes, you do. The Family Care Plan is for people already IN the military. http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/enlsingparent.htm https://forums.goarmy.com/thread/219851"

:!:

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29607 posts
6th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" Yes, you do. The Family Care Plan is for people already IN the military. http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/enlsingparent.htm https://forums.goarmy.com/thread/219851"</blockquote>



I know it's for in the military and if you join then you become in the military. Yes obviously someone would hve to become the child's temporary guardian but not in the sense that thy would sign their rights away and not get their child back

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29607 posts
6th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stefan Salvatore:</b>" My sister just talked to a recruiter a week ago and they told her she would have to sign her rights ... [snip!] ... sign her rights over to a family member. I am pretty sure the family care plan is for people who are already in the military."</blockquote>




As in temporary custody not signing your rights away like it sounds.

Stefan Salvatore Due March 29; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Fort Hood, Texas 11679 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stefan Salvatore:</b>" My sister just talked to a recruiter ... [snip!] ... who are already in the military."</blockquote> As in temporary custody not signing your rights away like it sounds."


Well I know that. I wasn't saying she would have to sign them away forever but while she is in training she will have to.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
6th Mar '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" <blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" Yes, you do. The Family Care Plan is for ... [snip!] ... become the child's temporary guardian but not in the sense that thy would sign their rights away and not get their child back"


No, the single parent signs away custody for the duration of their enlistment. After their enlistment is up, they regain custody.

Love what it is.. 1 child; Vidalia, Louisiana 1415 posts
6th Mar '13

Well his dad is in his life but i was just hoping i could bring him with me.. I really don't want to go weeks or months without seeing him but I want to make his life good :( I feel like it would mean more for me to be here with him everyday but I know I have to put food on the table and what not.. His dad sees him just doesnt pay child support or anything.. I only work 50 hours a week making minimum wage (7.25) at a fish place.. I want to raise him better then this :'(