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S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18556 posts
7th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Rachael +2:</b>" My thoughts on it, if a man truly doesn't want to be a dad he should wrap it up. Even if he thought you ... [snip!] ... and if he doesn't, well he doesn't get to blame you. It takes two to make a baby. Don't do anything YOU don't want to do."</blockquote>




Nevermind...

malibu. 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 6312 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting Lady GooGoo
ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
7th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting My boys=My life~8weeks:</b>" Why is it soley her resposibilty to prevent pregnancy? We aren't talking about a disease here.. She didn't go into thinking about trapping him or planning it behind his back."</blockquote>




Because she was having sex with him under the understanding she was on BC. If she couldn't use it correctly and didn't tell him to use condoms it's her fault.

malibu. 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 6312 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" Keep it if you want but what you did was very fucked up now this poor guy has a child to pay for for ... [snip!] ... to pay for for the next 23 years. Good going. An abortion this early is just pills to induce a miscarriage. Not bad at all"


Not bad at all? Yeah, if you're a cold hearted b***h.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66643 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting My boys=My life~8weeks:</b>" Why is it soley her resposibilty ... [snip!] ... him under the understanding she was on BC. If she couldn't use it correctly and didn't tell him to use condoms it's her fault."

:idea:

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
7th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting malibu.:</b>" That's my thoughts exactly. He's already said he thinks he'll resent me and the baby. But in the same ... [snip!] ... same sense, I feel like I have a gun to my head and I will end up not only hating myself in the end, but hating him as well."</blockquote>




Don't abort then. Abortion is something you should be committed to, and you want a baby. You just may have to do it alone. I would rather parent alone than hate myself.

malibu. 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 6312 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting kthx.:" That's another point. I hope you wouldn't go after him for child support, OP....."


Absolutely not. He's not the kind of guy that would just walk out on his kid completely. Even if he decided not to stay with me, I know he would provide what he needed to for his child.

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting malibu.:" Not bad at all? Yeah, if you're a cold hearted b***h."


If you keep this baby and he chooses to leave then so be it, At least you didn't do anything that would make you hate yourself.

If you abort and end up hating yourself and him, You guys won't work out anyways.


If you keep the baby and he comes around to the idea, then everyone is happy.

malibu. 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 6312 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting My boys=My life~8weeks:" I don't.. Sex leads to babies.. She didn't do it to trap him. Sure it wasn't a smart move, She thought ... [snip!] ... a smart move, She thought it wouldn't happen before the IUD. He had sex with her, He is JUST as responsible for this baby."


Thank you. He was aware I wasn't on BC for months before I got on the pill and still did nothing to prevent. I suppose that's why I wasn't so eager to tell him that I stopped taking it.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66643 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting malibu.:" Absolutely not. He's not the kind of guy that would just walk out on his kid completely. Even if he decided not to stay with me, I know he would provide what he needed to for his child."


Good. Then do what you feel is best for yourself.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting malibu.:" Not bad at all? Yeah, if you're a cold hearted b***h."


:)

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting malibu.:" Thank you. He was aware I wasn't on BC for months before I got on the pill and still did nothing to prevent. I suppose that's why I wasn't so eager to tell him that I stopped taking it."


Yes you stopped taking it, but with the intention to get an IUD right?

Do what you feel is right, Don't let anyone make you feel bad for making a mistake with your BC, it happens. Hell babies are concieved when people are taking their BC properly. If he was willing to have sex AT ALL then he needs to step up to his responsibilty, Would he act this way if you were taking your BC properly?



malibu. 2 kids; Grand Rapids, Michigan 6312 posts
7th Mar '13

Thank you for all your advice, ladies. I think I'm going to distance myself for a few days to allow myself to think without having his opinion in my ear.



He is a wonderful boyfriend and I think he would be a wonderful dad as well.. but I really would hate to do something that he isn't on board with. I don't want to ruin our relationship over my stupidity.

❥Cummins★~★ Due February 24; 4 kids; Woodhull, New York 5930 posts
7th Mar '13
Quoting malibu.:" Thank you for all your advice, ladies. I think I'm going to distance myself for a few days to allow myself ... [snip!] ... but I really would hate to do something that he isn't on board with. I don't want to ruin our relationship over my stupidity."



good luck! i really hope he changes his mind...what if you get rid of the baby and down the road he breaks up with you...that would kill me but thats my opinion. eiyher way good luck hun

SweetBabyKate 3 kids; Texas 223 posts
7th Mar '13

I haven't been in your exact situation but I did have a surprise pregnancy with my ex SO. He didn't want to parent and wanted me to abort. Our Daughter is 6 months old now. He has not ever laid eyes on her. I decided that if he didn't want to be there it wasn't my place to try to force him. He and I are still friends. I've never regretted keeping her. She is the love of my life.