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Non violent disipline ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
8th Mar '13

I posted this in the non violent discipline support thread but I need quicker responses. I'm having one if those days when it's just tough being with the 2 year old I babysit and my 1&1/2 yr old son. They keep fussing and fighting with each other and normally I am very patient and tolerant and help them get along. Today I am like going crazy! So what do you do on those days when it's really hard to acknowledge your child's feelings? Help!

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
8th Mar '13

I just ignore anything that isn't life threatening.

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I just ignore anything that isn't life threatening."</blockquote>




This!



Can't be the mediator all day long. They have to learn and deal with each sometimes in their own.

Hailee's Mama + 1 1 child; 1 angel baby; Georgia 13140 posts
8th Mar '13

My niece and son fight like brother and sister I will out them on two different couches for a few minutes to seperate them and calm down, or if it's just one acting out I do use a time out chair.

ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
8th Mar '13

Haha thank you for all the suggestions. I need more!!!!! Ahhh! If I don't mediate they start hitting each other and pulling and pushing. The 2 yr old is super possessive and it makes everything into a fight. I am taking all of this advice though. I also put my iPod in and I'm tuning them out for a bit to gather my sanity.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" Haha thank you for all the suggestions. I need more!!!!! Ahhh! If I don't mediate they start hitting ... [snip!] ... a fight. I am taking all of this advice though. I also put my iPod in and I'm tuning them out for a bit to gather my sanity."</blockquote>




Is there a diff activity you can engage them in? Like get them dancing or play hide and seek? Or can you guys go outside and play?

ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" Haha thank you for all the suggestions. ... [snip!] ... there a diff activity you can engage them in? Like get them dancing or play hide and seek? Or can you guys go outside and play?"</blockquote>




Yeah I took them outside that was a good outlet. I'm finally home but go back again tomorrow. I hate saying "no, no, no!" all day. I feel we have a more productive day when I get down on their level and emphasize with them. It takes a lot if patience and energy and today I just didn't have it, PMS wins again!

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" ... [snip!] ... on their level and emphasize with them. It takes a lot if patience and energy and today I just didn't have it, PMS wins again!"</blockquote>



I feel ya. I teach prek and I have 18 4yo 2 3 hr sessions a day. It's tiring and takes a lot of patience. We use conscious discipline with then and honestly there's some days where if nobody is hurt or bleeding I just have to let some stuff go.