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gamer husband?? M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; South Carolina 7574 posts
8th Mar '13

Idk what to do anymore im going crazy dh gets off about 7 and plays his game till midnight goes to bed and wakes up work repeat.




Im going crazy I feel like im his mother we hardly talk he thinks im just hear to clean up after him



He just has an adictive personality.



Thankfully hes spending the weekend with me and dd with no games but im just so mad I just want to be angry towards him. :(



This is just a vent. Ugh

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
8th Mar '13

I am a gamer and if I didn't have self discipline and a million other responsibilities I would probably play for ten hours straight. All you can do is explain to him that you would appreciate it if he played less and spent a little more time with his family.

Aman dua Bremen, Georgia 575 posts
status 8th Mar '13

My husband is a gamer too. It gets so frustrating.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
8th Mar '13

...have you talked to him about it?

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15299 posts
status 8th Mar '13

I'm the gamer in our relationship. I certainly know how addictive it can be. He's going to have to make a conscientious effort to play less and spend more time with you. Have you tried sitting him down and talking to him about it when he's not playing?

user banned (girl); TTC since May 2008; Pounding Mill, VA, United States 3612 posts
8th Mar '13
Quoting Maebaby2012+1:" Idk what to do anymore im going crazy dh gets off about 7 and plays his game till midnight goes to bed ... [snip!] ... the weekend with me and dd with no games but im just so mad I just want to be angry towards him. :( This is just a vent. Ugh"


Just talk to him, that's all you can do.

** 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Conway, Arkansas 3579 posts
8th Mar '13

I agree with other ladies..let him know his real life is going to slip by because of his pretend one, worked on my hubby

Jessica + 2 34 kids; Texas 7364 posts
8th Mar '13

My husband is a gamer, he started off well with not playing it too much. Recently he had been playing it alot more and i was sure to point that out. Talk to him bout it, tell him you would rather him spend time with his family. These precious years with our kids dont last forever and he will be sad if he misses it.

M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; South Carolina 7574 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mayhem.:</b>" ...have you talked to him about it?"</blockquote>




Of course and he cut back for a while and now hes back.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13923 posts
8th Mar '13

DH works from home and he is a gamer as well. He sits in his computer chair all day every single day. I just see the back of his head all day. :roll:
I clean I cook, I even mop the floors under his feet while he's at his desk playing :roll:
He wouldn't eat all day if I didn't make something, at least not till like 9pm he finally stops for food.
For me personally, we're not doing anything but watching tv anyway. Unless we're going somewhere idc how much he plays.
If I asked him to sit with me he would, or to play a board game he would spend time with us.



It's the cleaning I can't seem to get him to do..

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, OK, United States 5335 posts
8th Mar '13

That's what my husband does too. He wakes up at 5-6pm, plays until worktime which is 10pm, then leaves. He comes home around 7am, plays for the next 2 hours, and then sleeps. The weekends he will wake up earlier and play all day long. I use to be a gamer, but I don't have time now that I have 2 kids. It frustrates me that I can sacrifice for my family, but he can't even spend an hour or 2 with us. :/

M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; South Carolina 7574 posts
8th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vivian [♥]:</b>" DH works from home and he is a gamer as well. He sits in his computer chair all day every single day. ... [snip!] ... sit with me he would, or to play a board game he would spend time with us. It's the cleaning I can't seem to get him to do.."</blockquote>




Yea he is good about going to do things with us except grocery shop.



He always seems to add more money to the bill anyways but I hate going alone and I wont leave dd with him because I dont feel like he will watch her well enough. :(

~Mommyof3girls1boy~ Due October 5 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
8th Mar '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" DH works from home and he is a gamer as well. He sits in his computer chair all day every single day. ... [snip!] ... sit with me he would, or to play a board game he would spend time with us. It's the cleaning I can't seem to get him to do.."


You just told my life story, except DH works away from home and we don't watch much tv! It's sad actually. Stupid games.

IvansMum Alberta 40 posts
9th Mar '13

I relate. My SO wakes up at 6am to play games then works 8am-6pm and plays games until midnight. I dont really care about that part because I just do my own thing I find the annoying part is his gamer attitude.



By that I mean if hes playing a game he automatically becomes bitchy. If you say/do something that requires a break in his concentration from the game he gets right rude, it doesnt matter what it is. It happens with our son too, like if our son asks him "daddy can I have a chocolate milk?" he will ignore him until my son is right in his face then he will be like "WHAT son?! Im busy!!!". Its totally annoying and a pet peeve of mine.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
9th Mar '13

My fiance' is a WoW nerd, he pretty much has the same routine as your SO. Wakes up, goes to work, comes home and jumps on the computer. Luckily for me, I have my own laptop and find ways to keep me entertained. I know you can't exactly do the same considering you already have a child to care for, but maybe you should find something that interests you that you can do while he's gaming..