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THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20052 posts
status 9th Mar '13

i've gone back and forth on how i felt about it from the time DD was 3 months. was totally against it at 1st. then i started liking the idea when DH suggested them as a kind of Christmas present (he like's getting jewelry for his girls. :D). she was 7 months old on Christmas Eve. we actually got her ears pierced 2/28 and she's done great so far, doesn't even notice them or mess with them.

mama1821 Due July 2 (girl); 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 1265 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" I am not trying to put you down, please don't take it that way. I just feel like what others do with ... [snip!] ... getting stuck to something and possibly tearing her earlobe. I personally waited for DD who is now 3 to ask for it to be done."


sorry, it may be the hormones making me touchy. thanks for your explanation. like i said after hearing someone elses thought that it was child abuse, i decided to think about it a lot more. sometimes people say things that make you see things in a certain light.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
9th Mar '13

Meh.. I don't think it is child abuse but it doesn't really matter whether a child has their ears pierced or not. I have never looked at a child and said, "Why are their ears pierced ?" Or, "Why haven't you gotten her ears pierced?" That seems kind of random to bring up.



To be honest when my daughter goes to get hers done (Depending on her age of course) I am going to request they do them both at the same time.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20052 posts
status 9th Mar '13
Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:" Meh.. I don't think it is child abuse but it doesn't really matter whether a child has their ears pierced ... [snip!] ... my daughter goes to get hers done (Depending on her age of course) I am going to request they do them both at the same time. "

if i'm not mistaken, they won't do individually here, if you plan to have both done, you have to come when 2 ppl are there.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting mama1821:" sorry, it may be the hormones making me touchy. thanks for your explanation. like i said after hearing ... [snip!] ... child abuse, i decided to think about it a lot more. sometimes people say things that make you see things in a certain light."


:D

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" I am not trying to put you down, please don't take it that way. I just feel like what others do with ... [snip!] ... getting stuck to something and possibly tearing her earlobe. I personally waited for DD who is now 3 to ask for it to be done."


That's what I figured I would do when it comes to Alyssa getting her ears pierced.



She has been wanting to get it done though but, Aaron doesn't seem to think it is a good idea even though he and I agreed a long time ago that it doesn't matter how old she is.. When she asks to get them done, we will get them done.



I think he was expecting her to ask when she was a little bit older.

mama1821 Due July 2 (girl); 2 kids; Tacoma, Washington 1265 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:" Meh.. I don't think it is child abuse but it doesn't really matter whether a child has their ears pierced ... [snip!] ... my daughter goes to get hers done (Depending on her age of course) I am going to request they do them both at the same time. "


im a random type of person, lol

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" if i'm not mistaken, they won't do individually here, if you plan to have both done, you have to come when 2 ppl are there."



That makes perfect sense. I don't see how 1 person could operate 2 guns at the same time and also get them even. I just think it would make for a better and easier experience for a child who is younger to have both ears pierced at the exact same time rather than them piercing 1 ear, and the child freaking out and not wanting them to touch the other ear. Ya know?



I am not saying that's how it should always be done. I was just saying that would be my preference on how I would want it done on my daughter depending on her age and whether or not I think she can handle 1 piercing at a time or not.



ETA: I totally misread what you said. So I apologize for that. Please excuse my moment of stupidity.



Is that a policy thing or a preference thing for the shops? I honestly wish I would have gotten Alyssa's ears pierced when she was 3 months old because her doctor would have done it for her.



The pediatrician actually preferred that he pierce his patients ears because at least then he knew it was sterile and what not. (There were a lot of shady places when it comes to piercings and tats in the tri state area).

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting mama1821:" im a random type of person, lol"


I know how that is. I can be pretty random too. haha

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
9th Mar '13

I wouldn't call it child abuse and I don't have anything against piercing a baby/toddler's ears either but it's not my kid, so my opinion doesn't matter.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8737 posts
9th Mar '13

Babies would totally play with earrings if they had them. Maybe not every baby, but probably most, especially when they're teething and pulling on their ears all the time. DS makes his ears bleed a lot and immediately rips anything off his head or face when he feels it touch him (hats, sunglasses, toys, etc.) He would find the earrings when fiddling with and scratching his ears and he'd rip those things out and crying would ensue.



I do think it's wrong to make that decision for your kid. No, piercings aren't permanent but there can be scars left over from where they were should the child wish to go piercing-free later on down the line. I have a couple myself and know plenty of people in the same boat.



It's just not something that I think parents should choose for their children. I think it's best to wait until the kid is old enough to be able to care for them and not wind up with an infection (like I did when I was little), and wait until the kid knows for sure they want it done. Not run out and get 'em pierced the first time they mention it, because it could just be one of those fleeting interests. If the desire does not go away and they're an appropriate age, I see no problem with it. I love piercings. I just think the person getting them should have a say.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting mama1821:" did she ever pull on them as a baby and hurt herself? just asking because many others think that the ... [snip!] ... the final decision to pierce my daughters ears. these are things i have not thought about before. thanks for your feedback!"


no, she never even noticed them till i started changing them to match her outfits...as a baby she was just used to them...
Only problem we've ever had was my husband like pulling off her shirt, they have popped off, so be careful with tighter collard shirts pulling on and off... we don't use the safety backs anymore since about age 2ish, if shes playing around and the earring comes out, its fine i can replace earrings, earlobe, not as easy lol

loving little luna 1 child; Stavanger, Norway 835 posts
9th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama1821:</b>" I was having coffee with a girlfriend yesterday and her dil brought over her grand daughter. I noticed ... [snip!] ... as they wont know they are there. Can you guys give me feedback please? I just never heard someone call it child abuse before. "</blockquote>




it's not mandatory that a child have their ears pierced at a certain age so it baffles me why you'd be concerned enough to ask another mother why her daughters ears aren't pierced.



I wouldn't call it abuse...but it's definitely not pleasant. ESPECIALLY if you go somewhere like Claire's to get it don e, where they use piercing guns.



if a mother has a toddler without pierced ears, she doesn't need to be questioned on it. my daughter won't be getting her ears pierced until she's older and wants to. it's not my body to be putting holes into.



when you think about it...you're injuring your child for YOUR benefit. just so you can put cute little earrings in.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8737 posts
9th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loving little luna:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting mama1821:</b>" I was having coffee with a girlfriend yesterday ... [snip!] ... into. when you think about it...you're injuring your child for YOUR benefit. just so you can put cute little earrings in."</blockquote>




:!: Truth.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
9th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting loving little luna:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting mama1821:</b>" I was having coffee with a girlfriend yesterday ... [snip!] ... into. when you think about it...you're injuring your child for YOUR benefit. just so you can put cute little earrings in."</blockquote>




Very true.