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Rude or no big deal? Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6465 posts
9th Mar '13

Would you consider it rude to regularly call your child "boy" (or "girl") instead of their name?



I don't mean occasionally saying it, because I know most people do it. But using it frequently. "Boy, go clean your room." "Come here, boy." "Stop, boy." "Boy, what are you doing?"



Not going to name the circumstances specifically, but it just kinda grates my nerves whenever I hear that. From this person specifically, because it's so often. Like I said, I know people do the occasional "What in the world are you doing, boy?" But 85% of the time?



Thoughts?

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
9th Mar '13

I would see it really as no big deal, almost like a nickname. That's just me, though.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15005 posts
9th Mar '13

I rarely do it, in the context that you described, like "What are you doing, girl?"



But it annoys me when done all the time. They have a name. Like when someone calls their SO "Baby" all the time. Hey, occasionally is fine, but they still have a name, you know...

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8735 posts
9th Mar '13

I think it greatly depends on the tone of voice and the intention behind using it in place of the child's name.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
9th Mar '13

Annoying, yes. Rude, no.

laura+3.0 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 14725 posts
9th Mar '13

My nephew is 19 and we still call him boy. That's just what my sister nicknamed him...kinda a weird nickname now that I think about it, lol.

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
9th Mar '13

If its used in excess, that's annoying. If its used in a negative tone, that's rude. If its used occasionally like a nickname, that's fine. :)

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 19809 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" I rarely do it, in the context that you described, like "What are you doing, girl?" But it annoys me ... [snip!] ... name. Like when someone calls their SO "Baby" all the time. Hey, occasionally is fine, but they still have a name, you know..."


:!:



I call my kids "child" a lot of the time lol

{tamz} Due September 2; 1 child; Maryland 2518 posts
9th Mar '13

My only issue with using it constantly as a nick name or something is that I can't seem to say it without that, "you're in trouble" tone.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15005 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" :!: I call my kids "child" a lot of the time lol"

Haha my kid's smarter than me I think. I called her Child, joking around about something. A few minutes later she says "What are you doing Old Lady?" I was like :shock: shithead, you win lol and don't do it anymore.

MiniVanMafiaMom 67 kids; Newton, North Carolina 538 posts
9th Mar '13

my dad called me SON and BOY the whole time i was growing up....and George. it was his way of joking because i would always ask if he wanted a boy instead of a girl. lol. and he knew it got on my nerves and he loved to get on my nerves. haha

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7212 posts
9th Mar '13

I call my daughter girly all the time.. I don't even think its kinda rude.

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
9th Mar '13

I call my nephew kid, boy & child. So no, not rude. It may be annoying but its not rude. Then again, not my kid so not my choice or place to say anything. I call DS baby boy. I'd get kinda pissed if someone said anything about it lol he's almost 4 months old but when he gets to where he actually responds to his actual name I'll use it

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 19809 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Haha my kid's smarter than me I think. I called her Child, joking around about something. A few minutes ... [snip!] ... A few minutes later she says "What are you doing Old Lady?" I was like :shock: shithead, you win lol and don't do it anymore."


haha my kids have never done that. DS1 and DD will look at me and grin like they think it's funny when I call them child. I usually only say it when they are being weird or silly.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
9th Mar '13

I don't think it's any different than any other nickname.