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michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I think it is incredibly stupid to ttc at 16, regardless of nationality."


and I agreed to that no one I know is doing that either at my age here ... I was a good student and stuff before then which is what I wanted to go back to



Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting michelle_217:" and I agreed to that no one I know is doing that either at my age here ... I was a good student and stuff before then which is what I wanted to go back to "


So are you not trying to have a baby?

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" *shrug* Different cultures. I wouldn't encourage it but people around the world have very different ideas of when women should marry/become a parent. "</blockquote>




But in those other cultures, the women are forced to marry and have children young for the most part. In more developed areas where women have choices, marriage and motherhood are set aside for later. In the most advance places, such as Sweden, the average age of first-time motherhood is 29.



It would be different if those young women had choices, but in most cases, they don't.

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" So are you not trying to have a baby? "


I stopped trying and went to see a psychiatrist and got on meds ... she bitched at me about that -___- I just found out I am pregnant and the meds are not pregnancy safe... so stopped trying alil too late



now I have to find a way to deal with my mental health and find a medication that is pregnancy safe (sorry do not know the term for this)



I have been on lots of meds in my life

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting michelle_217:" I stopped trying and went to see a psychiatrist and got on meds ... she bitched at me about that -___- ... [snip!] ... and find a medication that is pregnancy safe (sorry do not know the term for this) I have been on lots of meds in my life"


What medicine are you on? How far along are you in your pregnancy?

Piecey. Due May 13; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 64447 posts
status 12th Mar '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Piecey.:</b>" I live in Germany. Lived in a small village. We ... [snip!] ... 30s."</blockquote> Thirties when they started having kids? How old were you when you had your first, if I may ask?"


Yep. Most of our neighbors and those around were much older than us with much younger kids. That's not to say all of course, but that was our experience with it. I remember reading somewhere that the mean age for a first child is or around 30. We had our first when we were 17.

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" What medicine are you on? How far along are you in your pregnancy? "


due nov 11 -5 weeks



I am on topamax

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting michelle_217:" due nov 11 -5 weeks I am on topamax"


If you need the medication right now, is termination of the pregnancy an option? Because Topamax is Class D.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Piecey.:</b>" Yep. Most of our neighbors and those around were much older than us with much younger kids. That's not ... [snip!] ... with it. I remember reading somewhere that the mean age for a first child is or around 30. We had our first when we were 17. "</blockquote>



That doesn't surprise me. Europeans in general are holding off on the baby making or skipping it all together (I'm looking at you, Italy! ).

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" If you need the medication right now, is termination of the pregnancy an option? Because Topamax is Class D. "



The whole thing is stressful just came on to see if any other ladies had any success stories on the medication :( I love this medication it works but I know I will not be able to stay on it



my mental health got worse because of my miscarriage, so a termination or abtreibung would be horrible to me



the Dr has to come up with a plan the only good thing is I am on a low dose

Piecey. Due May 13; 3 kids; K-Town, KL, Germany 64447 posts
status 12th Mar '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Piecey.:</b>" Yep. Most of our neighbors and those around were ... [snip!] ... me. Europeans in general are holding off on the baby making or skipping it all together (I'm looking at you, Italy! )."


They definitely are, despite the governments offering up awesome incentives trying to raise birth rates.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66665 posts
status 13th Mar '13
Quoting michelle_217:" I stopped trying and went to see a psychiatrist and got on meds ... she bitched at me about that -___- ... [snip!] ... and find a medication that is pregnancy safe (sorry do not know the term for this) I have been on lots of meds in my life"


You said you have no interest in stopping THOSE medications. Plenty of women said there are OTHERS that can help you, and you said no. That you'll take your chances with this specific medication.

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting kthx.:" You said you have no interest in stopping THOSE medications. Plenty of women said there are OTHERS that can help you, and you said no. That you'll take your chances with this specific medication. "


OMG you do not listen I have been on plenty of medications you only read what you want to read ... so there is no point I have a very serious mental condition you do not play with, my Dr knows I have been on lots of meds



you do not know what you are talking about when you have something like this you do not take chances of being unhealthy which is what was happening again I will be closesly monitored and Drs will come up with a plan which happens anytime a woman gets pregnant on these meds I just found out so do not have the answers yet



I just love how well these meds worked and am scared of manic episodes and or psychosis comng off these meds while I am pregnant



you just need to stop judging people really...

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66665 posts
status 13th Mar '13
Quoting michelle_217:" OMG you do not listen I have been on plenty of medications you only read what you want to read ... ... [snip!] ... of manic episodes and or psychosis comng off these meds while I am pregnant you just need to stop judging people really..."


Right :lol:

michelle_217 Bremen, Germany 342 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting kthx.:" Right :lol:"


You can say right all you want.... you bash younger women on here say nothin to the older ones, or the ones that have been on here a long time



plenty said stuff to you, you said nothing when younger females come on here for advice you are on their ass!



I am just glad I found this thread :D miss I have two nice cars and my own apartment -__-



I have issues atleast I can admit that, you get online and lie your ass of to strangers