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gone.... 1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
9th Mar '13

Ok guys I guess I am SOL them thanks anyway :cry:

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
9th Mar '13

You're going to need to be a little more specific.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
9th Mar '13

It will help you when you are divorcing. Just make sure that everything and anything in that report is 100% true.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
9th Mar '13

If you are talking about domestic violence, once you report that...someone is going to jail.

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7401 posts
9th Mar '13

If its assault or whatever, I *think* you can file a report and not press charges. It's always good to have it in an official report, and it may help you in the divorce but unless he has been violent towards his child it probably won't hugely affect his custody rights.

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
9th Mar '13

Yes the state can press charges even if you decide not to; it becomes out of your hands. The only instance I've heard of this happening is with assault, ESP domestic, because so often the victim will recant their story.



I assume this varies greatly by state.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
9th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Captain Obvious:</b>" If you are talking about domestic violence, once you report that...someone is going to jail."</blockquote>
No not always unfortunately.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15816 posts
9th Mar '13

Yes the police can most definitely charge someone even if you choose not to press charges. This is especially true for domestic violence cases because so often the victim backs out.

Take me as I am 18 kids; Wyoming 1669 posts
9th Mar '13

I would file, and when it comes to abuse you don't always make the call of being arrested and charges files agents the other person, if its a man 99% of the time the police will go ahead and charge him. I hope that helps and abuse and being convicted last forever if not convicted I don't think it hold on the record but I could be wrong, good luck and I hope all is ok

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
9th Mar '13

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taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49130 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:



it depends because there is a statue of limitations if it has run out ur SOL u may want to call a lawyer to find out how long it is for DV in ur state

♥K + G Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Dildo, 33084 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Yes the police can most definitely charge someone even if you choose not to press charges. This is especially true for domestic violence cases because so often the victim backs out."


:!::!: This just happened at my work the other day. This guy was pushing his girlfriend around in the parking lot so we called the cops. She refused to talk to the police so everyone at work had to write extensive reports so they could continue with the charges.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:"


I already know they are a year here and it hasn't been a year.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" ."


my DH is a police officer. if someone calls the police because of DV, someone is going to jail. it is not worth the risk of leaving everyone at home and later getting the call that the person is dead because the cop didn't take them.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15816 posts
9th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:


Oh hun, I've never been in your position before but I know leaving is not an easy thing to do and takes quite a bit of courage. I commend you for beginning to take steps to do that I hope very much it all works out for you. Perhaps there is a social worker or advocate you can speak with regarding this.