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BD is puking... Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18835 posts
status 9th Mar '13

He keeps pushing so I finally told him that I don't feel anything towards him anymore. I love him, we've been together for over 6 years but I'm not in love with him anymore.
I don't want to hurt him. But how can I live the rest of my life unhappy so that others can be happy?
People/family has been telling me that we need to break up for the last few years. The fights get out of control, we never talk and we haven't even had sex in over a month.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him and the fact that he is so upset that he is in the bathroom getting sick about it is killing me.
But I just want to think about me for once...

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 121004 posts
status 9th Mar '13

You've been under a lot of stress lately with everything going on. Are you sure its not just that talking?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
9th Mar '13

You did what you had to do, mama.

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
9th Mar '13

Did he care as much about making you happy, as he cares about you walking away?

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
9th Mar '13

Honestly, I think you need this. You need time to focus on you and your girls after all the shit you have been through recently. A fresh start, I guess you could call it.

thisunrest India 10364 posts
9th Mar '13

:-(. I'm sorry mama. You've been through so much recently, I think it's essential that you take care of YOU right now. It's never easy to break it off with a good guy, but when it's completely over, it's got to be done.



But. It. Sucks.




Hugs.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18835 posts
status 10th Mar '13
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" Honestly, I think you need this. You need time to focus on you and your girls after all the shit you have been through recently. A fresh start, I guess you could call it."


I thought breaking up was supposed to be all screaming and throwing things. Not crying and begging. :(

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I thought breaking up was supposed to be all screaming and throwing things. Not crying and begging. :( "</blockquote>




Not always.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I thought breaking up was supposed to be all screaming and throwing things. Not crying and begging. :( "</blockquote>




Not always.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18835 posts
status 10th Mar '13
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I thought breaking up was supposed ... [snip!] ... up was supposed to be all screaming and throwing things. Not crying and begging. :( "</blockquote> Not always."


I just hate it. He keeps asking me why I don't love him anymore. And I really don't have an answer for him. Yes, all the stupid ass fights have contributed to it, the fact that we're nothing alike but that's nothing different than what it was 6 years ago.
He says he love me just the same as he did when we first got together but here I am just feeling numb to him.
I don't dislike him. I do still love him. I care about what happens to him and would NEVER take his children away from him. But I'm not IN love with him :(
I just wish I could figure out what to say to him so that he could accept it and not feel like the whole world is against him. :(

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I just hate it. He keeps asking me why I don't love him anymore. And I really don't have an answer for ... [snip!] ... just wish I could figure out what to say to him so that he could accept it and not feel like the whole world is against him. :("</blockquote>




My heart breaks for you, it really a does, you've been through so much :( I don't really have the words for you either, once you're done you're done, you can't really change that. The fights, the jealousy, the turmoil of the last few years has finally caught up with you, I think

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18835 posts
status 10th Mar '13
Quoting Angel [Mariah's Mommy]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I just hate it. He keeps asking ... [snip!] ... can't really change that. The fights, the jealousy, the turmoil of the last few years has finally caught up with you, I think"


Well thank you for being here non the less. I know you can't give me an answer to fix it all. I just wish I could do this with out hurting anyone.

KyliesMommy2012 Tokyo, Japan 1159 posts
10th Mar '13

It sucks when break ups are like that... Hardest thing to do is see the person you once loved hurt like that. But it is impossible to make someone else happy, when you aren't happy. Sometimes it's good to be selfish. It's needed to stay sane. You have to take care of YOU first. I know I don't know you, but I know what you're going through and it's hard. Who knows, maybe you guys just need some time apart and it will work out later. Reguardless, he will be just fine. Take care of yourself mama.

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" Well thank you for being here non the less. I know you can't give me an answer to fix it all. I just wish I could do this with out hurting anyone."</blockquote>




Unfortunately I don't think that's ever possible

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Uncle Obama's Banana:</b>" I just hate it. He keeps asking me why I don't love him anymore. And I really don't have an answer for ... [snip!] ... just wish I could figure out what to say to him so that he could accept it and not feel like the whole world is against him. :("</blockquote>




He's being manipulative.