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If I could turn back time Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
10th Mar '13

Is there something you wish you did during labour, but didn't?
Or is there anything you would have changed?



I really wish I had a video of at least one of my labours. Iv seen so many videos on here, and it's such a beautiful moment that you can have forever. SO was going to video our last labour, but it all happened so fast he didn't have time.
I also wish I got to have a water birth like I wanted with my last, but couldn't due to being "high risk"

Amanduuuh Due March 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Texas 4435 posts
10th Mar '13

Video taped, more pictures, no epidural. I wish I didn't have to be induced.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
10th Mar '13

There's a lot I wouldn't even know where to begin. I was robbed with my second birth and my first I was young and took a lot for granted.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
10th Mar '13
Quoting J&T+3:" Is there something you wish you did during labour, but didn't? Or is there anything you would have changed? ... [snip!] ... he didn't have time. I also wish I got to have a water birth like I wanted with my last, but couldn't due to being "high risk""


There are a lot of things I wish I could change about my actual labour, and I'm not going to get into them because they will just upset me.
But I wish I allowed SO to take pictures of me and DD when she was born. I have a picture of me a few hours before I had her in my hospital gown with huge belly, but none of us as a family or me alone with her. I have ONE of us together in the hospital but it's a weird angle and of me kissing her forehead, not a full on view. I just, looked and felt like shit so didn't want any but when I think back now about it I feel so guilty and wish I wasn't so stupid with caring about how I looked.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Manda❤Alayna:</b>" Video taped, more pictures, no epidural. I wish I didn't have to be induced."</blockquote>



Definitely more pictures. I had an epi with my first and went natural with my 2nd and 3rd. Kinda glad I got to experience both.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" There's a lot I wouldn't even know where to begin. I was robbed with my second birth and my first I was young and took a lot for granted."</blockquote>




Oh I just read your story about 10mins ago. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. It must have been so hard. Glad your baby girl is here and healthy though :)

Mamitita 4 kids; Louisiana 720 posts
10th Mar '13

There was alot that I wished I had done with all of mine, With my first I was just young and agreed with what ever happend, went with the flow I guess. With my second I had a plan of natural birth and SO cuttin the cord and the baby laying on me right after birth for skin to skin.. that didnt happen, I had an epi, my doc cut the cord without askin SO if he wanted to and they took her to the warmer (nothing was wrong with her during labor or after birth) well with my third I did everything I wanted, taped the birth, skin to skin right after she came out and SO cut her cord I was so happy with her delivery and with this one Im making a birth plan and hoping to follow it.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:</b>" There are a lot of things I wish I could change about my actual labour, and I'm not going to get into ... [snip!] ... didn't want any but when I think back now about it I feel so guilty and wish I wasn't so stupid with caring about how I looked."</blockquote>




I totally get what you mean. I felt like that with my first pregnancy. I was only young, and didn't really care for pictures and stuff. I don't have any pictures of me pregnant, or any from the hospital once she was born.

Mommy2Kay Due April 20; 1 child; Florida 4235 posts
10th Mar '13

I was high risk as well so I didn't get to do any of the things I wanted to. I don't have any but 2 pictures of my labor and when BD was going to record and take lots of pics, the doctor stopped him telling him it wasn't allowed. I wish I had delivered in another hospital...they were too strict in the one I did.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mamitita:</b>" There was alot that I wished I had done with all of mine, With my first I was just young and agreed with ... [snip!] ... came out and SO cut her cord I was so happy with her delivery and with this one Im making a birth plan and hoping to follow it."</blockquote>



I wanted my second to be my "healing birth". But it only got worse than my first. If I ever have a third I am praying that will be my healing birth. Otherwise I may be tempted to get preg again. I think I wouldn't have feelings for a third had I gotten satisfied with how it went. I may not even have wanted a second had I been completely happy with my first. Like it always feels like I'm incomplete for some reason. I feel so selfish.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mamitita:</b>" There was alot that I wished I had done with all of mine, With my first I was just young and agreed with ... [snip!] ... came out and SO cut her cord I was so happy with her delivery and with this one Im making a birth plan and hoping to follow it."</blockquote>




I was like that with my first. I was 19 and didn't really care for a birth plan or anything like that, so just went with the flow. My 2nd I had really rude nurses and doctors, so that really ruined it for me. My 3rd was prob the best out of them all. My midwife was so laid back and didn't rush anything. SO, baby and I got to stay in the delivery room for 2 1/2 hours, just the 3 of us having bonding time and skin to skin.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
10th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" There's a lot I wouldn't even know where to ... [snip!] ... I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. It must have been so hard. Glad your baby girl is here and healthy though :)"</blockquote>



Thanks sweetie :)

Mamitita 4 kids; Louisiana 720 posts
10th Mar '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mamitita:</b>" There was alot that I wished I had done with ... [snip!] ... second had I been completely happy with my first. Like it always feels like I'm incomplete for some reason. I feel so selfish."


Your not selfish mama! Every woman has there own hopes of how the birth of their children go and sometimes it doesnt go according to what we want and in return its a little dissapointing. We dont love our children or ourselves any less its just a part of life that we wish we could have had better memories. <3

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
10th Mar '13

I'm always the pic taker so I have no labor pics of me with dd1. I have some from the OR with dd2. But unless I ask nobody takes pics of me and if course that was the last thing on my mind while in labor. My mom apologized later when I cried about not having any pics when I made a scrapbook page and had no labor pics :(

*KatteyBug* Due November 18 (boy); 1 child; Madison, AL, United States 2414 posts
status 10th Mar '13

I wish I would have kicked my doctor in the head when he was being an asshole instead of just letting it go....And I wish I wouldn't have been induced. lol