I found out on Thursday that I'm pregnant with #3 and me and my husband are unsure how to tell family. In January we both lost our jobs and had to borrow money to pay our rent but since then my husband has returned to work. With our family if you mess up once your always gonna be irresponsible. How would/did you tell family if you knew they'd be mad?
"Hey so, listen. I'm pregnant and we're adults. We've got everything covered so you can either be happy for us or you can not be and keep it to yourself."
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" I found out on Thursday that I'm pregnant with #3 and me and my husband are unsure how to tell family. ... [snip!] ... our family if you mess up once your always gonna be irresponsible. How would/did you tell family if you knew they'd be mad?"
Just come out and say it. If they're not happy, who cares. You're adults and your business is just that. Everybody struggles from time to time, and that should not be held against you.
First, Congratulations! Second, Just tell em. The longer you worry about what they'll say/how they'll react, the more it stresses you out and the harder it will get to tell them. I know from experience. I waited until I was 16wks to tell my judgmental family. It was hard for me to be excited and happy. I found out it was a girl 2 days before I told everyone. It sucked. I wish I had said something sooner, the worse that can happen is they talk crap. I mean you're married, getting back on your feet and you're not a 15. They'll get over it and eventually be excited for the new LO. Good luck.
You both lost your jobs it happens. Its not like you both sat around and refused to look for a job. Everyone needs help from time to time. Jua t tell them and dont worry about what they say.
Thanks ladies I just worry about everything :/
This one is number 5 for us. but IMO if you are paying your own bills and supporting yourself and your children. Then tell them they can keep their comments to themselves. Its your choice if you want 1 or 100 babies.. As long as you can afford them, more power to ya!
We were kinda in the same boat. I work full time, and so did SO. But he lost his job over a year ago. Im 18weeks pregnant and he has only been working a little over a month. I knew my family would be worried, not mad more worried. I never asked them for money or anything but still with one income and three kids, its something to worry about.
Anyways, I had an ultrasound and waited till I was 10weeks. Got a cute card announcing a new baby to the family and put a picture in there of the baby. I also wrote a cute note that said
"mommy and daddy, and soon you will get to meet me in August 2013. Please accept me just like you have accepted my sister and brother, I might have not been planned but I a baby/ a blessing! Cant wait to meet you all!"
My family was surprising happy, they were/ are excited to have a new baby in the family. Good luck!
<blockquote><b>Quoting TheyCallMeMOMMY♥:</b>" We were kinda in the same boat. I work full time, and so did SO. But he lost his job over a year ago. ... [snip!] ... wait to meet you all!" My family was surprising happy, they were/ are excited to have a new baby in the family. Good luck!"</blockquote>
Im glad it worked out for you! Congrats!
Quoting mommy2thing1&thing2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheyCallMeMOMMY♥:</b>" We were kinda in the same boat. ... [snip!] ... were/ are excited to have a new baby in the family. Good luck!"</blockquote> Im glad it worked out for you! Congrats!"
Thank you! I hope it all works out for ou as well! Congrats!
I waited until i was about 24 weeks to tell my family. Which was really hard because my mom is like my best friend, but also my family is super judgmental and i was afraid of them disowning me and never speaking to me again. I couldn't deal with the fact that they might never be in my sons life, but i finally worked up the courage (mostly because i couldn't wait any longer or else my fiance would've said something to them). I sent a text to my mom first explaining that i was pregnant, and i understand what that means. I told her i didn't want any financial support i just want her to know i love her and want to keep her in my life. She sent me a text back telling me she loves me and will call me when she's ready (2 days later). She helped me tell my dad, and he told everyone else. Everyone handled it a LOT better then i expected. And everyone's super excited. My mom said she was only mad that i waited so long to tell her, since she missed out on most of my pregnancy.