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Uninterested SO? Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13

Is it normal for when you're pregnant that your man just has no interest in sex? I asked if it's because of the baby and if it makes him uncomfortable and he said no and he doesn't know why he has no interest. Is it like.. biological? Or can I assume he really has no interest in me?

Sour Daisy 1 child; Kennewick, Washington 7215 posts
11th Mar '13

Some guys are weird about the belly. Talk to him more and maybe try seducing him. Give him a blow job, get sexy underwear or a new outfit for him. Otherwise he just might be one of those guys weirded out by thinking a pregnant woman is sexy. My sons father was the latter, and it sucked.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19455 posts
status 11th Mar '13

My husband lost interest while I was pregnant and is just coming around now, and our son is 14 months. I think I transformed into "mommy" from sexy partner in his mind and it was weird for him. It came full circle though.




Don't worry, I am pretty sure that is normal.

Regina George ♡ 1 child; New York, New York 20756 posts
11th Mar '13

It was opposite for BD and I. I was the uninterested one. Mostly because I felt weird having sex with a huge round stomach.
I know a few guys who are weirded out by the thought of having sex with their pregnant girlfriend/wife lol

mommymassey 3 kids; Fort Worth, Texas 378 posts
11th Mar '13

some men just have a decreased libido during pregnancy. I guess sort of like they have "pregnancy" symptoms. It doesnt mean he is not interested in you, so dont worry momma. Maybe talk to him again and see if there are things you can do to spice things up.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Sour Daisy:" Some guys are weird about the belly. Talk to him more and maybe try seducing him. Give him a blow job, ... [snip!] ... just might be one of those guys weirded out by thinking a pregnant woman is sexy. My sons father was the latter, and it sucked."


I've asked and he said it has absolutely nothing to do with me being pregnant. I have tried blowjobs, he enjoys it, but that seems it be as far as it gets. The only thing I can think is something biologically is telling him he doesn't need to breed right now? or that he's just annoyed by me. I have no idea.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" My husband lost interest while I was pregnant and is just coming around now, and our son is 14 months. ... [snip!] ... sexy partner in his mind and it was weird for him. It came full circle though. Don't worry, I am pretty sure that is normal."


Maybe that's it...

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting mommymassey:" some men just have a decreased libido during pregnancy. I guess sort of like they have "pregnancy" symptoms. ... [snip!] ... not interested in you, so dont worry momma. Maybe talk to him again and see if there are things you can do to spice things up. "


I have talked to him :[ He said that "he's just not interested" or "not in the mood"
I've tried getting him turned on and he just.. doesn't care. Lol.
But thanks. I really hope it's not me.

::Nikki:: 1 child; Arkansas 2624 posts
11th Mar '13

If it is any consolation, I have less than zero desire for sex with my SO and I have no clue why. I'm not even pregnant :-/ I want to want to, but just can't. It has nothing to do with him at all, it's completely me. It really does happen for no reason, so I wouldn't worry.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting ::Nikki:::" If it is any consolation, I have less than zero desire for sex with my SO and I have no clue why. I'm ... [snip!] ... can't. It has nothing to do with him at all, it's completely me. It really does happen for no reason, so I wouldn't worry."


I was that way when I was on birth control but when I got off that completely solved the problem. Are you on BC?

::Nikki:: 1 child; Arkansas 2624 posts
11th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting That one chick.:</b>" I was that way when I was on birth control but when I got off that completely solved the problem. Are you on BC?"</blockquote>



No...I really have NO clue what the deal is and it is really just killing me

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting ::Nikki:::" <blockquote><b>Quoting That one chick.:</b>" I was that way when I was on birth control ... [snip!] ... the problem. Are you on BC?"</blockquote> No...I really have NO clue what the deal is and it is really just killing me"


Hmm. Okay, makes me feel a little better.

AshWinsMomma 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 161 posts
11th Mar '13

My ex was that way in our second pregnancy... during our first, he wanted me all the time, but when i was pregnant with our second, he wouldnt touch me. i literally went 9ish months without sex whatsoever. but once our son was like 5 weeks old, he wanted me again. it made me feel crappy and was hard to deal with, but some men are scared of hurting the baby(even if they say thats not true) and so just arent "into" the whole pregnant look...

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
11th Mar '13

My DH lost all interest in sex when he heard the heartbeat for the first time. I understand it does hurt your feelings, but it doesn't mean he is getting it somewhere else or is unattracted to you. It probably is the baby, he just doesn't want to admit it.

Elizzabeth Baker Due July 26 (boy); 1 child; Norman, Oklahoma 21 posts
12th Mar '13

Consider yourself lucky. My husband wanted it ALL thru my pregnancy, and I pretty much lost my sex drive. In the beginning I still wanted it, but was too sick. Now every time he tries to get me to do anything, I immediately give him the "Ugh, do I HAVE to?" look. I'm 37 weeks, 4 cm dilated & lost my mucous plug, and uncomfortable as hell. Sex & freakin blowjobs are the last things on my mind.