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Cast Your Vote:

    • Should try to BF -- Votes: 41
    • Don't need to try -- Votes: 14
~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
11th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Naturally Alternative~20w:</b>" Lactating is easy, breast feeding is not. We as a society have moved away from it so much that it's ... [snip!] ... to us anymore... we aren't exposed to it our whole lives, we dont' have Moms/aunts/sisters/etc who did it to ask advice from."</blockquote>



Seriously lol I battled internal thrush for over 6 weeks with no help along with latching issues & bruised nips. It took 10 weeks for my nipples to toughen up so it was painful & hard for the first 3 months

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Naturally Alternative~20w:" Lactating is easy, breast feeding is not. We as a society have moved away from it so much that it's ... [snip!] ... to us anymore... we aren't exposed to it our whole lives, we dont' have Moms/aunts/sisters/etc who did it to ask advice from."


Other mammals don't need advice. It's instinctual. Newborn babies are born with the instinct to suckle; if you put a newborn on his mother's chest, he'll even wiggle himself toward the nipple. If anything, it's a mental/emotional block that causes BFing struggles, it's not because humans are losing their natural ability to feed their young. More people in the world breastfeed than formula feed anyway.

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6148 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" Other mammals don't need advice. It's instinctual. Newborn babies are born with the instinct to suckle; ... [snip!] ... humans are losing their natural ability to feed their young. More people in the world breastfeed than formula feed anyway. "


Yes but other mammals were also breast feed and exposed to it with younger siblings (if the family stays together).



It's not the baby's lack of instinct. It's the mothers who don't know better or are given bad advice by Drs/family/friends and sabotage their own relationship.



Other countries tend to have no problem partly because the children are exposed to it growing up. They themselves do it until well into their toddler years (the average age of weaning is what? 7?). Not to mention they see their siblings/cousins/friends/etc do it. And again, they have the help from their mothers or aunts or whatever.



Breastfeeding is gaining popularity again, but honestly, Hubby's family didn't do it. My family didn't do it. I had no one really to turn to for advice or help had I needed it.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Naturally Alternative~20w:" Lactating is easy, breast feeding is not. We as a society have moved away from it so much that it's ... [snip!] ... to us anymore... we aren't exposed to it our whole lives, we dont' have Moms/aunts/sisters/etc who did it to ask advice from."


true story. i am the ONLY woman in mine and my husbands families to breast feed my children.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30604 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" Other mammals don't need advice. It's instinctual. Newborn babies are born with the instinct to suckle; ... [snip!] ... humans are losing their natural ability to feed their young. More people in the world breastfeed than formula feed anyway. "


They may have the instinct to suckle but they don't always get it right and sometimes the mother may not also know what to do which makes it harder on the baby too. I hope you don't think it is always as easy as put the baby to the breast and wah-la the baby automatically bfs perfectly (some cases are like that but not most).



There are a lot of other issues that can happen. My daughter was in the NICU the first week of her life, I had to pump every 2 hours but my b**bs are weird and the pump doesn't get much of anything from them....when my DD came home from the hospital I thought I wasn't making enough because she would nurse for hours and still be hungry so I would fix her a bottle of formula. Luckily after a month & a half she was able to be fully satisfied from the breast. It was deff tiring & emotionally draining at the beginning, I felt like giving up a few times but I kept on it. And if you think about it, if breast feeding was sooo easy from the start there would be more women bfing.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30604 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" true story. i am the ONLY woman in mine and my husbands families to breast feed my children."


Your doggy is super cute!! Makes me want another pit lol.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting IDGAF ❤:" Your doggy is super cute!! Makes me want another pit lol."


thanks ya! he's my 3rd baby lol and most times more of a handful than my human children! LOL

Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3576 posts
11th Mar '13

Doesn't hurt to try ...well this kinda sounds bad since it does hurt at first when you don't know what you're doing, but it's always worth trying to breastfeed. If it doesn't work out, you're not a failure, and trying is good enough. That's my thoughts on it.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
11th Mar '13
Quoting Anja[VBA2C GRAD]:" Doesn't hurt to try ...well this kinda sounds bad since it does hurt at first when you don't know what ... [snip!] ... worth trying to breastfeed. If it doesn't work out, you're not a failure, and trying is good enough. That's my thoughts on it."


That's how I feel too. Or you don't need to try if there are medical reasons or you needs meds, etc. At least once, and if you don't like it, at least you tried. But that's if I made the rules of the world. Lol

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" Other mammals don't need advice. It's instinctual. Newborn babies are born with the instinct to suckle; ... [snip!] ... humans are losing their natural ability to feed their young. More people in the world breastfeed than formula feed anyway. "</blockquote>




I understand what you are trying to say and just curious.....have you ever breast fed a baby?



The obstacles we ( my bubs and I went through) were latch ( pinched latch led to bloody nip) dehydration ( he wasnt getting enough)....over supply ( after milk came in FINALLY )...and sensitivities from the food I would eat that caused temporary colic (dairy,gluten )



I think alot of the obstacles are from the drugs they push in the hospitals and the unnatural American diet....at least mine definitely were.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
12th Mar '13

To answer OP's question I think it would be doing a great disservice to the baby to refuse to breast feed for reasons like ( its gross or I'm lazy).



Colostrum is extremely important to a young nb's immune system....its only real protection against diseases...couple that with being born in a hospital full of sick people....you are taking some risks not bfing your baby.



I would never bash a Mom out right for this...just giving my honest opinion



Eta- for those who weren't aware...colostrum and even just regular bm provide baby with mom's antibodies to fight diseases...same for all mammals :)

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
12th Mar '13

I think BFing is great and I'm a huge advocate for it but a woman should choose to do whatever she is comfortable with doing. If that means she doesn't even want to attempt breastfeeding, she shouldn't be made to feel bad for it.

♥ laura-marie + 1 1 child; Stalybridge, United Kingdom 1339 posts
12th Mar '13

I tried so damn hard to breast feed.
3 weeks of constantly trying to get him to latch on.
He only drank breast milk becuase I expressed it but he is on formula now.
I really tried and was gutted I couldn't breast feed him naturally =[