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Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4132 posts
12th Mar '13

Honestly, I think it's harder to be a SAHM than a working mom. I work part time, and the only time I stayed home was when I was on maternity leave. However, for the first few months I was back at work, it was only a couple days of the week. I went completely bat shit crazy on maternity leave and just slightly crazy during the time I barely worked. I love DD, but I would go nuts if I stayed home with her all day.



I'm a horrible house wife, too. I suck at keeping up with house work. I wasn't any better at it while not working, so I might as well be working and have an excuse. Lol. If DH and I are ever financially stable enough, I want to have a maid come in once a week to help with things.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8186 posts
status 12th Mar '13
Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:" Honestly, I think it's harder to be a SAHM than a working mom. I work part time, and the only time I ... [snip!] ... an excuse. Lol. If DH and I are ever financially stable enough, I want to have a maid come in once a week to help with things."


Lol. Yeah its not for everyone. My mom always worked. Even now if she has a 3 day weekend from work she gets stir crazy.



I'll clean for you. I honestly enjoy cleaning. Weird, I know.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
12th Mar '13

I am a SAHM. I cook, clean, bathe my son, handwash laundry(including diapers), & I budget our money so I feel like I do my part lol. I've had a lot of people judge me for being home but when I first got a job I started passing out about a month later. I had terrible dizzy spells, I even ended up with concussions. This continued until I finally quit my job a couple months into my pregnancy. I feared for my sons life. I still don't know what caused those things to happen but I feel privilaged that DH doesn't expect me to work & is more comfortable with me being at home. I'm scared to go back to work. I narrowed it down to possibly narcolepsy though after a good 12 hospital trips

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4132 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Nicola.:" Lol. Yeah its not for everyone. My mom always worked. Even now if she has a 3 day weekend from work she gets stir crazy. I'll clean for you. I honestly enjoy cleaning. Weird, I know."


I love my weekends. I wish I had 3 day weekends. I think that would be perfect for me. 4 days of work. 2 days for chores, errands, and other misc. things (birthday parties, spending time with friends, etc.). 1 day to sit on my butt and do nothing. Lol. I also work on my feet, so sitting is always nice.



I don't mind cleaning and chores when they are kept up, so it's fast and easy. But when we fall behind, I dread it all so much.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
12th Mar '13

I think it has a lot to do with the individual mother's personality. I have a good friend that was a SAHM for the first 6 months of her daughter's life, and then got a job. She said she LIVED to go to work for the break because it was easier working than staying home. She's 100% single mom with no help so she does it all and works alone and she's even said no one can say staying home is easy. But with being a SAHM you are literally on duty 24/7. You don't get a break like you do when you're working. Even during naptime, something always needs to be done, and you have to decide to do what's needing done, or enjoy your bit of peace.

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I think it has a lot to do with the individual mother's personality. I have a good friend that was a ... [snip!] ... naptime, something always needs to be done, and you have to decide to do what's needing done, or enjoy your bit of peace. "</blockquote>




I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I think it has a lot to do with ... [snip!] ... your bit of peace. "</blockquote> I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have."</blockquote>




The commute? Lol

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have."</blockquote> The commute? Lol"</blockquote>




Oh lord I have severe road rage and have to drive through a million school zones. Nothing peaceful about it

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Oh lord I have severe road rage and have to drive through a million school zones. Nothing peaceful about it"</blockquote>



I work at a school so I always hit the school zones lol

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8186 posts
status 12th Mar '13
Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I think it has a lot to do with ... [snip!] ... your bit of peace. "</blockquote> I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have."


Lol. I thought maybe she was referring to a break from the kids?

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" Lol. I thought maybe she was referring to a break from the kids?"</blockquote>




I just find it hard to believe that there isn't room for a break. I am on spring break right now and I was able to relax and mess around on Pinterest and babygaga for like an hour today. The kid was right in front of me playing her ponies.

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... million school zones. Nothing peaceful about it"</blockquote> I work at a school so I always hit the school zones lol"</blockquote>




Same here. My commute is me freaking out on how late I am going to be that morning lol. I am not a morning person

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I think it has a lot to do with ... [snip!] ... your bit of peace. "</blockquote> I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have."


She meant a break from chasing kids nonstop, a break from poopy diapers, a break from screaming, the ability to pee/poop in peace at least once a day... So on.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" She meant a break from chasing kids nonstop, a break from poopy diapers, a break from screaming, the ability to pee/poop in peace at least once a day... So on."</blockquote>




Lol that's my job at work too.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" I think it has a lot to do with ... [snip!] ... your bit of peace. "</blockquote> I need to find out how to get a break that people keep assuming working moms have."


And when you work you do get like legitimate breaks, lunch breaks, 15 minute breaks so on.