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Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108824 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:" Right?! I always say that when I get to the point where having kids is hard (not like, why are you crying over too loose of a ponytail kind of hard, but actually unpleasent) I will stop"


I just don't see being a parent as work

I chose to be a parent, noone pays me money to do it

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108824 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:</b>" I invite you to work a week in ... [snip!] ... a break right now. It does depend on the job, I do agree. Jobs I've worked and can work right now? They'd be a break for me."


This makes me wonder why you are ttc another child.

I mean, I don't really care if you do, but it seems like a strange choice to make with your posts.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" This makes me wonder why you are ttc another child. I mean, I don't really care if you do, but it seems like a strange choice to make with your posts."</blockquote>




We're starting now because I do want another child (I love being a mom, just not being confined to the house all the time). I don't know how long it will take me. The boys will likely be going back to their parents this summer. It will take away a lot of the stress in our house.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" This makes me wonder why you are ttc another ... [snip!] ... take me. The boys will likely be going back to their parents this summer. It will take away a lot of the stress in our house."</blockquote>




Being a SAHM is not for me and that's okay. It doesn't mean I don't like being a parent whatsoever--which I never implied. But right now, being a SAHM is feasible for our family so I do what I have to do.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108824 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" This makes me wonder why you are ttc another ... [snip!] ... take me. The boys will likely be going back to their parents this summer. It will take away a lot of the stress in our house."

best of luck to you ttc'ing

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" best of luck to you ttc'ing"</blockquote>




Thanks. We put it on hold (like charting and stuff...i have 100-160 day cycles so it could still be years or not at all) for a while because we got the boys. But now they're going back. I have mixed emotions about it. I worry about them so much and would keep them if need be (adopt), but at the same time, it will be nice for it to be us-- and i feel bad even saying that. My son is going through counseling because he's just not adjusting well and my daughter may have to as well. I try to split my time up but I'm only one person. My nephews definitely have some special needs after what they've been through and it has affected my kids more than I thought it would.
We go to court tomorrow. The dad is getting his rights terminated.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" best of luck to you ttc'ing"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... and it has affected my kids more than I thought it would. We go to court tomorrow. The dad is getting his rights terminated."</blockquote>




They're going to their mom's (2 different ones) I should say.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108824 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" best of luck to you ttc'ing"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... and it has affected my kids more than I thought it would. We go to court tomorrow. The dad is getting his rights terminated."


Why are your cycles so long? :shock:

and while I don;t know the details, it certainly sounds like you are caring for them in a time of great need, they are lucky to have you.

I am sorry the situation seems to have effected your children, I hope you all can get through it :(

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Why are your cycles so long? :shock: and while I don;t know the details, it certainly sounds like ... [snip!] ... are lucky to have you. I am sorry the situation seems to have effected your children, I hope you all can get through it :("</blockquote>




Stupid PCOS.



I'm sure they'll be okay. They just want all of their mommy and daddy.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108824 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting ~Ice Princess~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Why are your cycles so long? :shock: and ... [snip!] ... get through it :("</blockquote> Stupid PCOS. I'm sure they'll be okay. They just want all of their mommy and daddy."

Ah, I have a friend who just successfully battled PCOS and has a daughter now. I hope you have the same luck.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" Physically I found it easier being a SAHM, I had all day to housework and cooking. Whereas as a working ... [snip!] ... I see her for 1.5hrs in the morning, 1.5hrs at night and every 2nd weekend. So it's not much but IMO it's quality not quantity"


This^. ALL of this applies to me as well.



......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" Ah, I have a friend who just successfully battled PCOS and has a daughter now. I hope you have the same luck."</blockquote>




Thank you :)

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20835 posts
13th Mar '13

I haven't read all nine pages yet, buti figured I'd stick in myfour cents anyway them go read. Right now I'm a SAHM/student and i really don't think some people realize exactly what goes into being home. It IS a full time job. On a daily basis i might have: my sons therapy, bills to pay, my sons school, housework, errands to run, grocery shopping, meal fixing, my own schoolwork, yardwork...i mean it all ads up. And when i was working I'd never have said, "you're JUST a mom". Even JUST a mom wears different hats everyday for the kids. Cook, teacher, maid, referee, the list goes on. I think we ALL play important rules to our kids no matter what we are doing.

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
13th Mar '13

I did 7 years as a Career-Mom then 8 years as a SAHM.....it depends on the person I guess. I initially thought being a SAHM was way harder tha being a working Mom, because when I worked I always had a housekeeper, and when it was all on me to do it i was wayyyy overwhelmed. I had become a SAHM to de-stress our lives, and ended up feeling like "what did i get myself into".



After I adjusted and learned what I was doing, I found being a SAHM to be much more low key and less stressful, some days are crazy busy but others I can just chill and enjoy my me-time.

rpgmomma8404 1 child; St Ann, Missouri 7591 posts
14th Mar '13

Lots of pros and cons for each side but I wouldn't look down on a working mom. Like I wouldn't want a working mom to look down on me because I don't work. Really couldn't hold down a job even if I got one. I have too many issues wrong with me and then my son is special needs on top of it. I don't see how it would be possible.