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Mediation/rantish/story ♥Mizy ♥ 1 child; 5 angel babies; Far far away land, IA, United States 31148 posts
12th Mar '13

Anyone gone in for mediation? Any advice you have would be awesome.
I have been trying to get my daughters dad to go in for a couple months now he kept saying he can't afford it ect. well he makes twice as much as i do which i can make it work. Plus i was recomended a place that is only 125 per person. Any saturday he got the paper from child support now he's all wanting to go to see if he can get it lowered, or try and get an agreement on it so he doesn't have to pay it to me. Im thinking good luck, and as long as he pays for half of her expenses i really don't care. I have always covered her expenses 100% even while going to school. I also since i have had a job have had insurance on her. He didn't because she could always use the states insurance so why put her on his was his reasoning. He sees her every other weekend so 5 days a month since he drops her off at preschool every monday or is suppose to/majority of the time. I did offer him more time but he just wanted to keep it as is. Basically i want some help from him as a father for once, but what it feels like is that money is his main concern here and the fact he doesn't want to have to pay anything to me. Fine whatever then atleast pay half of her stuff. I'd give him the bills if he really wanted. Also with getting married and my fiance wanting to join the cost gaurd we have to discuss what would happen if one of use moved with visitation. He doesn't seem to mind the idea of either of us moving. I don't want to ask too much and have him go well since you won't give me this im not going to agree to this. I also don't want to be walked all over any more. So any advise again would be awesome and much appricated. :)
Thank you for those who read this. If it doesn't make sense just ask about what you have questions on. Its late, im working, and i feel like i am getting sick.<---- My excuse.

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
12th Mar '13

It all depends on the two of you and how flexible either of you two are. I went and it didn't work because he was stuck on what he wanted and so was I.

♥Mizy ♥ 1 child; 5 angel babies; Far far away land, IA, United States 31148 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Munchkin Maker:" It all depends on the two of you and how flexible either of you two are. I went and it didn't work because he was stuck on what he wanted and so was I."


Im flexiable about vistations, but not so flexable about him helping with her. The moving thing ya is another stickler for me since it will mean her health care is covered and a better quality in life. ugh i feel like im not asking for too much but who knows to him i could be asking way more then i should be. Of course to him i don't deserve the help with our daughter.

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
12th Mar '13

Then it might be best for a judge to decide and a court order to be put in place. I wasn't willing to budge on visitation (he has a registered sex offender living with him)
And he didn't want to pay child support, but the judge went in my favor on both parts.
Mediation is good for some people, but not for others.

♥Mizy ♥ 1 child; 5 angel babies; Far far away land, IA, United States 31148 posts
12th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Munchkin Maker:</b>" Then it might be best for a judge to decide and a court order to be put in place. I wasn't willing to ... [snip!] ... want to pay child support, but the judge went in my favor on both parts. Mediation is good for some people, but not for others."</blockquote>




Ya it probably would i have a lawyer just incase though.