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I need some ideas on my baby shower? mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13

Coed baby shower with Indians and american guests, my hubby is hosting baby shower for me. what games do i need to? i am gonna meet some people who i have not met (my husband's office staff, he is the boss) so how do we plan . yes i am also involved in it cuz i need some things the way i want, don't comment tacky n all..its my baby shower!! we will have lunch given to guests and return gifts too. But since its coed any ideaS?

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
12th Mar '13

No games at all? Most men don't really like getting involved in those kind of things.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
12th Mar '13

I'd recommend changing the plan a bit and having a close female friend host it....The expecting parents aren't supposed to host their own shower, and with him being the boss and inviting his staff....it's going to breed a strange sense of obligation. Typically, giving your boss gifts is quite frowned upon for obvious reasons.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" No games at all? Most men don't really like getting involved in those kind of things. "

that's why men will be men..i mean men will have drinks n stuff in a different room

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" I'd recommend changing the plan a bit and having a close female friend host it....The expecting parents ... [snip!] ... going to breed a strange sense of obligation. Typically, giving your boss gifts is quite frowned upon for obvious reasons."


You have a point. I completely missed the part where it said her husband was the boss and he's invited his subordinates. That's not a good idea to do.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" I'd recommend changing the plan a bit and having a close female friend host it....The expecting parents ... [snip!] ... going to breed a strange sense of obligation. Typically, giving your boss gifts is quite frowned upon for obvious reasons."

no friends will host everyone is busy lol. we are Indians so in our culture we throw our own baby shower (meaning we give a treat to all friends, family and relatives)

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" that's why men will be men..i mean men will have drinks n stuff in a different room"


Then why invite them if they won't really be involved?

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" no friends will host everyone is busy lol. we are Indians so in our culture we throw our own baby shower (meaning we give a treat to all friends, family and relatives) "


Honey, you may be Indian, but you live in California. People are going to find this very, very peculiar, and very, very tacky.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" You have a point. I completely missed the part where it said her husband was the boss and he's invited his subordinates. That's not a good idea to do. "

then? cancel the event lol?

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" no friends will host everyone is busy lol. we are Indians so in our culture we throw our own baby shower (meaning we give a treat to all friends, family and relatives) "


Your American guests will find it odd. Even odder that a boss invited his subordinates to a baby shower.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13

see the occasion is baby shower that's it. But his intention was to have a get together lavish lunch for everyone.

Elle With FOUR! 4 kids; Wichita, KS, United States 18964 posts
12th Mar '13

*facepalm*

I think it is apparent at this point that any conflicting opinion, is going to go in one ear and out the other.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleBama582:" Then why invite them if they won't really be involved? "

oh god things here are so different. in our culture, babyshower means we dont expect some one to throw, usually we arrange everything and invite every one and give them a treat , it's kinda celebration like a birthday party where we want everyone to get involved

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
12th Mar '13
Quoting mrssenorita:" oh god things here are so different. in our culture, babyshower means we dont expect some one to throw, ... [snip!] ... invite every one and give them a treat , it's kinda celebration like a birthday party where we want everyone to get involved"


But over HERE, it's usually understood that those invited bring gifts, and your husband can actually get in trouble because it looks like he's soliciting gifts from his employees. That's why, even in normal office showers, the boss is usually not involved except to show up and eat some food.

mrssenorita TTC since Jul 2012; California 468 posts
12th Mar '13

but i do visit his office sometimes and meet his staff , I knew his staff as we had been to newyork an dother places too for my husband's office party