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TTC?? Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13

How did you know it was the right time to TTC?



My SO and I have been talking a lot lately about having a baby. He is completely smitten with the idea and would like me to have my implanon taken out next week. Im a little more hesitant. I would love to have a baby but I worry a lot about the Ifs, Buts and Maybes. I worry that we wont have enough money, that our house isn

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yellow Diamond:</b>" How did you know it was the right time to TTC? My SO and I have been talking a lot lately about having ... [snip!] ... never let us struggle. Are these normal thoughts/fears or do I sound like I

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11735 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yellow Diamond:</b>" How did you know it was the right time ... [snip!] ... think there is ever a perfect time. There will always be reasons to wait. But if you are financially stable then go for it."

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user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
13th Mar '13

Like you said there will always be a reason not to.



We are in a financial position that we have a little extra money, it won't be enough, it will never be enough, but it will work.



Our kids are 8 and 4. So we will have a 1 year old a 5 year old and a 10 year old. We didn't want them much further apart than that.



It just felt right.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yellow Diamond:</b>" How did you know it was the right time ... [snip!] ... think there is ever a perfect time. There will always be reasons to wait. But if you are financially stable then go for it."


My best friend said pretty much the same thing to me and its kind of the conclusion I have come to. I just panic that we will need a lot more money than we think we will.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
13th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yellow Diamond:</b>" My best friend said pretty much the same thing to me and its kind of the conclusion I have come to. I just panic that we will need a lot more money than we think we will."</blockquote>




You will always figure something out if it came to that. Do you own your own home or rent?

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11735 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Yellow Diamond:" My best friend said pretty much the same thing to me and its kind of the conclusion I have come to. I just panic that we will need a lot more money than we think we will."


there are websites to help you get an idea on costs of having a child. Although it is never 100%.



All I know is.... I wasn't ready when I had my daughter but we made sacrifices and only had the necessities and lived in a small apartment for awhile with her and my eldest son, and we worked to achieve what we have now and now we live very comfortably. It sounds to me like you have more going for you than I did. Hope this helps.



If you don't feel ready yet then don't push yourself.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" Like you said there will always be a reason not to. We are in a financial position that we have a little ... [snip!] ... will have a 1 year old a 5 year old and a 10 year old. We didn't want them much further apart than that. It just felt right."


Yeah I guess I look at our spending money and think "wow we wont have enough" but forget that all our bills are paid and we will just have to do without our little luxuries.We will be able to make it work too.

I love my SO and nothing would make me happier than having our little family together.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yellow Diamond:</b>" My best friend said pretty much the same ... [snip!] ... we will."</blockquote> You will always figure something out if it came to that. Do you own your own home or rent?"


I own our home, and I also own another investment property. Our home could do with a new bathroon and kitchen, but thats just my preference, it doesnt need them. Yeah I guess the old saying come into it that you live within your means.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Yellow Diamond:" I own our home, and I also own another investment property. Our home could do with a new bathroon and ... [snip!] ... but thats just my preference, it doesnt need them. Yeah I guess the old saying come into it that you live within your means."


I am the same way. I really want to redo our master bath, but it's fine the way it is. And realistically another baby is way more fun =)

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Simply Mom:" there are websites to help you get an idea on costs of having a child. Although it is never 100%. All ... [snip!] ... to me like you have more going for you than I did. Hope this helps. If you don't feel ready yet then don't push yourself."


Im so afraid that I will never be ready lol! Another thing that scares me is that Im not particularly maternal. I dont have feelings towards other peoples babies, I dont pick them up etc, and I have never really thought about having my own children. Im relying on the instict kicking in when I have the baby lol.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
13th Mar '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" I am the same way. I really want to redo our master bath, but it's fine the way it is. And realistically another baby is way more fun =)"

Haha, all I see when I think of the future is a baby and making plans around our family. I just freak out when SO says go get your implanon taken out next week!

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7707 posts
13th Mar '13

IMO there will always be something you feel needs to be done before you have a baby. So there is never really a perfect time. We freaked when dd surprised us. But her timing wasn't all that bad. It's not like you are in debt and barely making ends meet, or at least it doesn't sound that way. If you want to go for it! But if you really feel that now is just not right for you and you don't want to, put the issue on the back burner for a few months and revisit it.