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Military wives / moms ready for baby number 2 2 kids; Murrieta, California 887 posts
14th Mar '13

Hi everyone so my husband is leaving to Missouri for his military police..Right now we are currently staying with his family due to the end of are lease and not knowing what we were going to do yet.So my debate is to have him help me move out before he leaves to an apartment. We will deff have first months rent but the next month would be like May 25..His pay probably wont be coming in yet..Would You stay with your family in till you got a steady pay checks coming in? I love my mother in law but she drives me completely bonkers sometimes. Im also due with baby number 2 in July so i want to have everything ready.He wont be home for the birth and another option people are telling me is to just suck it up and stay with his mother in law in till he gets back Sept because he will be stationed again and i will have help and stuff.When did your husbands pay start coming in bah money and actual pay check after they started? Right now we have his unemployment coming in and im still working..Sorry its all over the place im on my phone but let me no your options thanks ladies..

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4920 posts
14th Mar '13

It usually takes three weeks from his start date to start receiving pay on time.

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65275 posts
14th Mar '13

I'd stay until you have steady pay. And it's not a good idea to post dates. It would be a good idea to get in the habit of not posting them. I'd delete the dates you posted if I were you.

armymommyof3 3 kids; Texas 276 posts
14th Mar '13

We got lucky and got paid right away....most people say they had to wait 3-4 weeks......honestly wouldn't move until you got your duty station save the money for the move. Even if MIL is annoying you'll be happy to save money. We moved 13 hrs away and it costed us 500$ in gas food and hotel you will be refunded but that can take awhile so moving 2x could be a financial burden not to mention they only pay you back for the move they station you to. They wouldn't pay you for the first move

Monica♥YASDYARDFR 17 kids; Beverly Hills, California 57063 posts
14th Mar '13

I would stay with the in laws. It is going to be helpful to have them around when the baby arrives and just think of all of the money you can save. My sister did this when her husband deployed and while there were times it sucked majorly (parents trying to tell her how to parent, etc) they saved enough money to get out of debt completely.

ready for baby number 2 2 kids; Murrieta, California 887 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting Monica♥YASDYARDFR:" I would stay with the in laws. It is going to be helpful to have them around when the baby arrives and ... [snip!] ... times it sucked majorly (parents trying to tell her how to parent, etc) they saved enough money to get out of debt completely."

yeah this is were im so stuck .. I want to save money because it will be allot and it will deff be nice not to stress.. With not having a husband and having help.. It just seems like so long i already miss my independence and its only been 3 weeks lol.. But thank you i just have so much to think about..

ready for baby number 2 2 kids; Murrieta, California 887 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" I'd stay until you have steady pay. And it's not a good idea to post dates. It would be a good idea to get in the habit of not posting them. I'd delete the dates you posted if I were you."


Thank you im new to everything..

MrsRoo07 Due November 11; 17 kids; Twentynine Palms, California 381 posts
14th Mar '13

Personally I would stay with the in laws. Actually, I would stay until he got orders, and then have the military move me once the duty station is all said and done. While it may drive you a little nutty for a bit, take the help and save $ while you can.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
16th Mar '13

Personally I would stay with the in laws until you have the stability of his pay check! Also, it can be frustrating, but if the in laws help you out with Aubree I'm sure that can be good and bad, but being pregnant the extra help especially being away from hubby for the first time would be positive imo. Especially if it's only temporary!

ready for baby number 2 2 kids; Murrieta, California 887 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting I'm actually a virgin:" Personally I would stay with the in laws until you have the stability of his pay check! Also, it can ... [snip!] ... the extra help especially being away from hubby for the first time would be positive imo. Especially if it's only temporary!"

Yeah we have decided that i would just stay.. Build a huge savings account its only 20 weeks ill survive lol..And the help will be nice since ive never been apart from him especially once the babies born thanks everyone :)

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ready for baby number 2:</b>" Yeah we have decided that i would just stay.. Build a huge savings account its only 20 weeks ill survive ... [snip!] ... survive lol..And the help will be nice since ive never been apart from him especially once the babies born thanks everyone :) "</blockquote>




Good:) sounds like you're happy withyour decision!