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Poof Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4164 posts
14th Mar '13
☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13

It's normal. I'm the same way with my guy. I'm insanely insecure. I take little comments he makes and completely take them out of context and I end up crying.



It's hard.

.Sweet Dee. 1 child; New York City, NY, Hong Kong 4418 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting norah's.momma✿:" Recently I decided I need to change for my husband. The beginning of our relationship was really rocky, ... [snip!] ... when I saw r*****e. I would love to watch porn with him and not care that he does it.. Idk. I just needed to get this out."


I am the same way. Are you by chance a cancer?



We decided we could both watch porn but there's really no need to watch it together. I'm too insecure....I don't care when or if he does it on his own. I don't check his history.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4164 posts
14th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" It's normal. I'm the same way with my guy. I'm insanely insecure. I take little comments he makes and completely take them out of context and I end up crying. It's hard."</blockquote>




It is very hard. I wanted to cry just typing this post out. I hate that I am like this.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting norah's.momma✿:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" It's normal. I'm the same way with ... [snip!] ... It's hard."</blockquote> It is very hard. I wanted to cry just typing this post out. I hate that I am like this."


Dude, I'm crying right now because of something my guy said about himself. Insecurities are the hardest to deal with.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4164 posts
14th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting SaraSaraBoBara:</b>" I am the same way. Are you by chance a cancer? We decided we could both watch porn but there's really ... [snip!] ... no need to watch it together. I'm too insecure....I don't care when or if he does it on his own. I don't check his history."</blockquote>




I'm an Aquarius.



See I feel differently. I think it would upset me more if he was watching it without me.



I even avoid watching movies together that have nudity. :( Ugh.

Norah&Ellie's Momma 2 kids; Kentucky 4164 posts
14th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Dude, I'm crying right now because of something my guy said about himself. Insecurities are the hardest to deal with."</blockquote>




They are. I'm sorry :(

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 74407 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" It's normal. I'm the same way with my guy. I'm insanely insecure. I take little comments he makes and completely take them out of context and I end up crying. It's hard."


I seriously thought I was the only one who did this, lol.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting norah's.momma✿:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Dude, I'm crying right now because ... [snip!] ... of something my guy said about himself. Insecurities are the hardest to deal with."</blockquote> They are. I'm sorry :("


I'm sorry for you too. :(

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting bia.:" I seriously thought I was the only one who did this, lol."


I'm crying right now because when I told him he was my personal Captain America he said "ha, yeah right." I cry when he dogs himself. Wtf? When he dogs himself it makes me feel insignificant because he's accomplished so much in his life and I can't even compare my "accomplishments" to his. If his aren't good enough, why are mine?



:cry: It's a vicious cycle.

Blank™ Beverly Hills, CA, United States 5264 posts
14th Mar '13

I think working on the trust is more important than even thinking about wanting to watch porn with him. Do you guys go to church? Maybe you can sit down with a pastor, or whomever your religious leader is. Or look into some couples therapy it sounds like you both may benefit from it to have a healthy relationship.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17269 posts
14th Mar '13

http://www.shockmansion.com/2013/03/11/its-all-lies-adult-actresses-before-and-after-makeup-90-photos/#.UUCN8QecZv4.facebook




This might make you feel better about it. :D



But OP, I understand where you are coming from, but honestly, watching porn with you might make him feel a little awkward. I know I don't watch porn for entertainment, I watch it to just get turned on quick and in a hurry.



I never compliment girls in front of my SO for that reason. I don't think you should have to. If he notices a nice looking guy, he doesnt point him out, does he? If he did and you responded that you thought the same and he got upset about it, that wouldnt be fair at all.



I believe there is an option you can go to to delete the browser history everytime you click out, however, seeing that he doesnt do that is SUCH a good sign that he trusts you and doesnt want to hide anything.

peekin3 Racine, Wisconsin 289 posts
14th Mar '13

Let me start this by saying it is not meant to be negative in ANY way... But...



Are you insecure because he is watching other women? Or because you are comparing yourself to those women? Is it really a trust issue? Or a self worth issue? A lot of times we women confuse the two. We marry, have babies.... The body isn't the same as it used to be... Things have MOVED from where they used to be and no matter how much we work out we can't get back to where we started.



Try focussing on you and not so much him. Figure out WHY it bothers you... Try doing a little something for YOU to make you feel better about you. A lot of the time it really has nothing to do with the man.



And when all else fails... Do like I do... Crack jokes at the porn lol it doesn't even turn on SO anymore, he's started cracking jokes now too... We still try to watch it but now it's more for comedic relief lol

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" http://www.shockmansion.com/2013/03/11/its-all-lies-adult-actresses-before-and-after-makeup-90-photos/#.UUCN8QecZv4.facebook ... [snip!] ... you click out, however, seeing that he doesnt do that is SUCH a good sign that he trusts you and doesnt want to hide anything. "


I'm a makeup artist.. I have some insane before and after pix of models I've worked with. :lol:

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
14th Mar '13

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I love her herp lip.



But I really love her hair.