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time between children *repost* Mom[Oh] Due January 7; 1 child; Indiana 580 posts
15th Mar '13

I always wanted no more than 2 years between children and my baby girl is almost one and my SIL is pregnant so I have babies on the mind. I wanted to know the pros and cons of having your children close in age and distant in age.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
15th Mar '13

Can't really give pros and cons for kids close in age. My DD is 8, DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 11 weeks.
I wish I had each of them 2 years apart. Best pro about having an 8yr gap between my oldest and youngest, is the fact that DD loves playing mummy. She is such a great help with LO

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
15th Mar '13

I think two to 4 years apart is ideal so they are close in.age and Malaysia in the same school. My brother is 7 years older and we had nothing in common.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
15th Mar '13

We will have 4 years between. I think it will be good because dd loves to help me and is a little independent now

Mom[Oh] Due January 7; 1 child; Indiana 580 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting naturally crunchy:</b>" I think two to 4 years apart is ideal so they are close in.age and Malaysia in the same school. My brother is 7 years older and we had nothing in common."</blockquote>




Yea. And I plan to Homeschool my children so I want them to be close in age considering contact with other children will be limited

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 429 posts
15th Mar '13

I have a 4 year, 2 year, and a 1 year old. I like the gap between my first two they are close enough in age that they like the same things and most of the time can wear the same shirts not pants tho my kids are all legs lol dont like the gap between my last two was kind of harder both in diapers both needed extra attention because they were still baby babies. But I think they will be closer because of hiw close in age. My sister and me are five years apart and was never close till I had kids. Good luck every family is different this is just how I feel

7 lucky charms Due February 28; 7 kids; Ireland 1935 posts
15th Mar '13

i have a 17, 16,14,12,11, 3 and 16 month old.
i think its better to have them close together,. the first 5 always played with each other and went to bed at the same time. you could hand down clothes and toys etc.plus you get used to the lack of sleep.
then when i had my 3 year old (4 in may) i had to get used to no sleep again,he was at home alone during the day and when the others come in they have homework to do, then they want to play the playstation and guitar or do older kids things and he just wants to play with them but is too young or small to do their things.
saying that they are old enough to help when i need to make dinner or do some chores while i feed or wash the 2 smaller ones. the eldest 2 boys will also put my 3 yr old to bed every evening. so they're are pros and cons. but i prefer closer together. it tough now trying to get everyone to school on time and all now.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
15th Mar '13

Since you're homeschooling I agree it's better to have them close. If I was homeschooling my kindergartner with a nb right now shed probably learn nothing haha but my kids are 5 yrs apart and my 5 yo is such a big help. She helps me with bath time and changings and holds her while I get stuff done. She's really good with her and its super sweet to watch them together.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
15th Mar '13

The best gap (for me) was 18 months. My kids are 7, 5, 4, and 2.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 7 lucky charms:</b>" i have a 17, 16,14,12,11, 3 and 16 month old. i think its better to have them close together,. the first ... [snip!] ... so they're are pros and cons. but i prefer closer together. it tough now trying to get everyone to school on time and all now."</blockquote>



Wow 7 kids!!!
Kudos to you mama....I struggle with 3 :)

Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
15th Mar '13

Mine will be 2 years & 4 months apart. They will be our only two children so we wanted them pretty close.



My Mom had my sister & I 5 years apart. She said it was HELL! lol