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Cast Your Vote:

    • yes automatically makes you privelaged -- Votes: 16
    • no does not automatically make you privelaged -- Votes: 40
    • depends -- Votes: 26
Indiana Jones 2 kids; Texas 312 posts
15th Mar '13

I think it depends on the person/family/situation. I had placenta previa with my DD & quit work in my second trimester. She's 15 months now & I've been a SAHM since day 1. Now with my 4 month old son too. I cant wait to get back to school this summer & then start my career! It's been real. & it's been fun. But it hasn't always been real fun lmao. I enjoy spending time with my kiddos doin fun stuff but i NEED adult conversations & interaction. Lots of people don't see how stressful it can be. The grass is always greener on the other side...

Brit :) Due January 26; 1 child; Gainesville, Georgia 511 posts
15th Mar '13

i consider it a privilege to be able to be a sahm but i am no where near "privileged" as far as we have so much money i get to stay home etc. its the complete opposite. we decided to give up things that werent as necessary (just things we like/want) in order to make me being home with our son possible.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5422 posts
15th Mar '13

For some people who wish they could have been a sahm at some point would probably see sahm mothers as privileged. I do think I am more privileged then singled working mothers thats for damn sure..
But every person situation is different, and many people like myself give up alot to stay at home with there children, we drive a crappy little beater, dont have a cable tv, or smart phone, we lived in a 1bedroom until this past year. Everyone does what they need to do, do raise there children the way that feels right to them..



That person just sounds a little uneducated and bitter.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:" I don't feel privileged. The only time I get out of the house is to go grocery shopping. When I do ... [snip!] ... and I wouldn't make enough to cover the costs of it anyways. Please, ask your friend to tell me where I am privileged? "

Wait....if you worked you'd still have to show up with a headache or while sick, lolz. Life just sucks that way sometimes. There is no way around it.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
15th Mar '13

believe it's a privilege. Not everone is privileged enough to be able to afford that.


on a side note I did not know you could get disability for being pregnant

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30892 posts
15th Mar '13

It is a privilege when you can afford to take the time to be at home with your kids. (If that is what you want to do).
It sounds like this person is juicing of the system to be a SAHM, which I don't agree with.
Pregnancy is not a disability.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" Its a privilege. Being a SAHM is no one's right. Not everyone is able or wants to stay home with their ... [snip!] ... who says something negative about being a working mom or SAHM is fighting with a deep insecurity about their current situation."</blockquote>




that is how the girl came off. I took how she said it as an automatic assumption that I wouldnt knkw much because I am simply an SAHM. I feel that both SAHM and working moms have pros and cons but one is not above the other.

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
15th Mar '13

I don't understand. Are you asking if being a SAHM makes you privlaged in that its a privlage to spend the time at home with your kids, or are asking if only "privileged" (wealthy?) people are stay at home moms?



Anyways, it is a privlage to be able to be home with my daughter and step kids, I try to stay grateful for it because I know SO would love to be able to do it. On the other hand, we are mostly doing things this way, with me staying home and him working, because if I were to get a job right now it would probably just cover the cost of daycare.



Also SO doesn't want DD in daycare yet, but he very rarely admits it.



Anyways, I'm going back to school in the fall and I consider THAT a privlage too!

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
15th Mar '13

I think it's very circumstantial, and also very dependent upon the person's personality.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:" I don't feel privileged. The only time I get out of the house is to go grocery shopping. When I do ... [snip!] ... and I wouldn't make enough to cover the costs of it anyways. Please, ask your friend to tell me where I am privileged? "


Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."


:!:

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Wait....if you worked you'd still have to show up with a headache or while sick, lolz. Life just sucks that way sometimes. There is no way around it."


I agree you do. I was just using those as examples. :)



I do agree that it is a privilege to be able to stay home but, I in no way, shape or form feel privileged.

Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103283 posts
15th Mar '13

unless you work for other reasons than financial stability, I think it is a privledge.

otherwise, it's a choice.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."

/ded

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
15th Mar '13

ok so explanation on how I think she meant privelaged... that I have it in some way easier or better... and I also feel that she was in some way demeaning our knowledge about the work place when it came to me asking for an explanation on the disability thing.