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Cast Your Vote:

    • yes automatically makes you privelaged -- Votes: 16
    • no does not automatically make you privelaged -- Votes: 40
    • depends -- Votes: 26
Brit :) Due January 26; 1 child; Gainesville, Georgia 511 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" lol it's cool you can never tell on here haha but thanks again"


you know thats the truth haha

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" take my friend for instance: Her husband pretty much refuses t let his kid go to daycare. so he told ... [snip!] ... cover bills so the kid didn't have to. that's what he wanted but now that I think about it he doesn't see the baby that much."

Sounds like he has control issues.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Sounds like he has control issues."


That may be part of it too.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Simply Mom:" I was on fb and a friend ( lets call her A) posted she got onto disability and is seven mnths pregnant. ... [snip!] ... being a SAHM automatically mean I am privelaged? side note: I worked for awhile when my son was 1. was not always an SAHM."


If you can live comfortably on one income (meaning well above poverty level) then yes, I do consider it a privilege to stay home. Having that privilege is one of the most important reasons we delayed child bearing.

LoveMyBubbaBoy 2 kids; Michigan 3187 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Working mothers raise their children too. And why does your husband have TWO jobs so you can stay home? The hell..."


Raise was the wrong word... Sorry to everyone. I just meant stay home and do it alone I guess.



But he works 2 jobs (Teaching then at a tutoring place) which are both things he loves to do because it is what we want. I totally understand that not everyone can and I'm lucky. I misunderstood what was meant by "privileged" I guess.



Also, I'm lucky (I feel) to be able to stay home. Any job I could get (which we don't want as a family) would not be worth it for us with the cost of child care and stuff.



I know some women love to work or have to work. I was just explaining our situation. That's all.

Anna Kopp Ohio 303 posts
15th Mar '13

Yes, it is a privilege. It does not, however, automatically discredit anyone's opinions, feelings, questions, or advice. Calling it out like that was unnecessary and inappropriate. If the US had sufficient mandatory paid maternity leave like EVERY OTHER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD, women wouldn't have to use disability to get time with their baby. And there's the problem.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" I am a SAHM because it was the best option for our family. I don't consider it a privilege."


:!:

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30868 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Anna Kopp:" Yes, it is a privilege. It does not, however, automatically discredit anyone's opinions, feelings, questions, ... [snip!] ... EVERY OTHER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD, women wouldn't have to use disability to get time with their baby. And there's the problem."


We have more leeches than we can afford. The last thing we need is to compensate people for breeding. Maternity leave is available for all women.



Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Destinite:" We have more leeches than we can afford. The last thing we need is to compensate people for breeding. Maternity leave is available for all women. "

Maternity leave might be, but not pay.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30868 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Maternity leave might be, but not pay."


You're correct. I am a planner, so you bet your bottom I will be compensated for 6 months with my next child.
Having a great job with lots of vacation time, plus an Aflac Policy makes things very smooth.

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
15th Mar '13

i worked up until may of last year 40+ hours a week, and did not see my kids as much as i'd like...the extra money was nice but i do consider it a HUGE privilege that my husband makes enough that i can stay home with my LO's..I truly love it..when they go to school i will go back to work but i will get a job to where i am home when they are home. =]

Anna Kopp Ohio 303 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Destinite:" You're correct. I am a planner, so you bet your bottom I will be compensated for 6 months with my next ... [snip!] ... for 6 months with my next child. Having a great job with lots of vacation time, plus an Aflac Policy makes things very smooth."


Your privilege is showing.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
15th Mar '13

It is a privilege, and any SAHM who disagrees is sorely mistaken and needs a reality check.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30868 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Anna Kopp:" Your privilege is showing."

I won't deny that I have a privileged life. I worked very hard to get where I am, so yes that's something to be proud of.

Amelia [26 wks Boy!] Due July 20; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 14362 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Anna Kopp:" Your privilege is showing."


Are you implying she shouldn't be proud?