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PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
15th Mar '13

Why don't you get a Power of Attorney for your mom(a general one, so she can make decisions for your son), and let her raise him. You can go back to school, get a good job, and take care of your son on your own in a couple of years. However, simply being exhausted mentally and physically is a pretty crappy reason to put your son up for adoption.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
15th Mar '13

Leave him with grandma then....



im tired all the time... i have 3 children... somehow magically i managed to get 2 degrees and ive been single in college with a child and 2 jobs, people do it all the time... and if u know she'll fight u for custody why not give it to her...



oh and don't knock strippers... lol

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
15th Mar '13

Your child needs you. Don't do this to him.

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border line disabled :( she had a neck injury so she can't get around to well like when he runs she can't chase after him, there has been times she told me he would run from her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border ... [snip!] ... her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him."


Then I'm sure a judge will take that into consideration. You can't leave your baby like that because you are tired and upset. Maybe seek some counselling....

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
15th Mar '13

You should seek some help for your depression. Once you are depressed it can make little things worse. Every parent is tired, but that isn't a reason to give up.
I would get some help, meds and maybe a support group for single parents. If you do want to give you kid up for adoption I would highly consider giving him to you mom. He knows her and is familiar with her. It will be less emotionally damaging to be with someone he already knows. Give yourself some time to get your life back on track while you can still watch him growing up.

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

Dean she wasn't a stripper when we met we were high school sweethearts she became one after we broke up that's when I got full custody of him. At the time I thought I could handle the responsibility.

armymommyof3 3 kids; Texas 276 posts
15th Mar '13

Not to be rude but there are way more single mothers out there that manage all of those things and find a way.....i am married and have managed all of those things at any point of my marriage and when my husband is gone because the army has him away for weeks or months i get tired and lonely and sad i have 2 kids and one on the way and know at any point in time it will be harder than i think i can handle but i dont want to give my kids away be cause of it. When we make a child our needs come last plain and simple if every mother or father just thought giving our kids away was the answer who would raise our society? Parenting is difficult single or not and sounds like you have a support system and are not 100% alone. Let your mother help maybe have custody while you get it together.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border ... [snip!] ... her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him."

Then I would get help for your depression and figure out how to parent. Thats the choice you made was to parent. We all have rough patches where not having kids would probably make life a lot easier and more manageable but it doesn't work that way. You can just drop your kid after 3 years because you're in a rough spot. Think of how that would affect him and you. Think abut the future for both of you. There is help out there you just have to get it.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 120719 posts
status 15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border ... [snip!] ... her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him."


I'm sorry to be a downer but I'm going to talk to you like I would anyone else. How do you think single moms do it all the time? You can do this you just have to want to do it, and I can tell you do otherwise you wouldnt have made this post. There has to be government programs you can apply for to get him into childcare so you can take some college courses or get a job and save up for both. Has to be. If single moms can do it you can.

Legendary 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 59518 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R [37 WEEKS!]:</b>" First off, why wouldn't you want your mother to have custody? Secondly, what did you think having a child would consist of?"</blockquote>




Rude. Women get overwhelmed all the time but its seen as totally normal :?

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border ... [snip!] ... her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him."


I know things are really rough on you right now. I can only imagine what you're going through. But don't do this to your child. They would be scarred for life from that experience. If you care about them then you should focus on getting yourself some help. Talk to your doctor about your depression. Maybe medicine or some therapy. Trust me it'll make all the difference in the world. I've been to the point where I don't want to do anything but sit on the couch and cry forever but things can get better for you and your family. You are a father now and you have to stand up and take charge. It's not easy but you have to.



Worst comes to worst, even with the disability, your mother is still a muuuuch better option than throwing them into foster care. Your mother will love them way more and it'll give you the chance later to pick up where you left off after your get your life in order. If you throw away your child into the system where there is a better option out there, you will regret it for the rest of your life.



OP I wish you the best of luck. I hope you get the help you need and you keep your child with people who love them.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70799 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R [37 WEEKS!]:</b>" First off, why wouldn't you want your ... [snip!] ... a child would consist of?"</blockquote> Rude. Women get overwhelmed all the time but its seen as totally normal :?"


But those women aren't wanting to put the baby up for adoption and trying to find a way to keep the dad from finding out about it so he can't fight for custody.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R [37 WEEKS!]:</b>" First off, why wouldn't you want your ... [snip!] ... a child would consist of?"</blockquote> Rude. Women get overwhelmed all the time but its seen as totally normal :?"


I wasn't trying to be rude...

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" I'm sorry to be a downer but I'm going to talk to you like I would anyone else. How do you think single ... [snip!] ... childcare so you can take some college courses or get a job and save up for both. Has to be. If single moms can do it you can."


This. As a single parent you will qualify for government assistance out the ass including housing, food, and child care while you go to school. You CAN do it OP. You just need to fight this depression and kick it's ass for your childs sake as well as yours.