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Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" But those women aren't wanting to put the baby up for adoption and trying to find a way to keep the dad from finding out about it so he can't fight for custody."</blockquote>




Oh please. I've seen at least 5 of those over the years.

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9328 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" Sorry everyone but this is just how I'm feeling, I should have mentioned that my mom is basically border ... [snip!] ... her while they are out and almost get hit by a car. I know emotionally she can do it but physically she can't take care of him."</blockquote>



Well I'm sorry but, raising a child is exhausting and it's never going to be easy. It's time to man up to the responsibility that you took on when you got full custody. Seek help for your depression and get back into school and make something of yourself, there are thousands of women who raise children on their own without help from the baby's father. You can do it, he's 3, he needs his father. Saying you can't do it because you're "tired" is a bullshit excuse.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" But those women aren't wanting to ... [snip!] ... out about it so he can't fight for custody."</blockquote> Oh please. I've seen at least 5 of those over the years."


Really? haha. I haven't I've seen TPers wanting to give them up for adoption, but never cuz they were tired. *kanye shrug*

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Really? haha. I haven't I've seen TPers wanting to give them up for adoption, but never cuz they were tired. *kanye shrug*"</blockquote>



Yeah, usually the whole thread isn't based around it but just a couple weeks ago that one chick wanted to give up her 5 year old. She was like 24 with six kids.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Really? haha. I haven't I've seen ... [snip!] ... based around it but just a couple weeks ago that one chick wanted to give up her 5 year old. She was like 24 with six kids."


Oh f**k. She should give up her uterus.



How does one pick which child they wanna give up? Choose you pikachu?

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Oh f**k. She should give up her uterus. How does one pick which child they wanna give up? Choose you pikachu?"</blockquote>




Lmao, I forget the deets. Pretty sure it was new bf related.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" Oh f**k. She should give up her uterus. How does one pick which child they wanna give up? Choose you pikachu?"


:D:D I loled

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Oh f**k. She should give up her uterus. ... [snip!] ... they wanna give up? Choose you pikachu?"</blockquote> Lmao, I forget the deets. Pretty sure it was new bf related."


:roll:

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" Really? haha. I haven't I've seen ... [snip!] ... based around it but just a couple weeks ago that one chick wanted to give up her 5 year old. She was like 24 with six kids."

If its who im thinking of thats not surprising.

AMR+3 Due August 7 (girl); 2 kids; North Carolina 791 posts
15th Mar '13

That sounds like a really tough situation... I'm sure if you call your local hospital they may have programs or group support(s) of some kinds to help with single parenting or a general idea of who may provide a list of programs to look into. If you have any family friends or any female friends who can possible help while you find a part time job for the time being and try out online schooling if that is an option for you. After having a child, life isn't about what a parent "wants" but what their child needs and sometimes it can be frustrating and stressful but it's a responsibility and sacrafice that holds the greatest outcome and that's a happy, healthy child. If you're seriously considering adoption, 3 is an age that may be difficult, but he may also thrive on a different life style, one that may be better for him in the outcome. Maybe looking into a open adoption could work out, that way you and your Mom may still see him occasionally but he can be better provided for. Putting him up for adoption doesn't make you a "bad" person... who cares what other people do and how they had it, point is, you're your own person and you know what you can and can't handle and whether you're being selfish or immature for whatever reasons, if your considering adoption, I say look into it and see how you feel about it. Good luck and I hope everything works out!

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59196 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" If its who im thinking of thats not surprising. "</blockquote>




I think she ended up leaving him at his dads across country?

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

Hey drankful maybe your right, I do suffer from bi polar and bad depression. I would get medication but can't afford it right now nor counseling. I feel bad even considering this maybe I am selfish :(

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Hey drankful maybe your right, I do suffer from bi polar and bad depression. I would get medication but can't afford it right now nor counseling. I feel bad even considering this maybe I am selfish :("

Do you have insurance? If not you should qualify for medicaid and they can help out with getting on the proper meds.

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9328 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" Hey drankful maybe your right, I do suffer from bi polar and bad depression. I would get medication but can't afford it right now nor counseling. I feel bad even considering this maybe I am selfish :("</blockquote>




Try getting on medical assistance, like Medicaid, that will be your best start.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" Hey drankful maybe your right, I do suffer from bi polar and bad depression. I would get medication but can't afford it right now nor counseling. I feel bad even considering this maybe I am selfish :("


Right now it's probably the bi polar and depression talking not you. Everyone has moments where they struggle as a parent and maybe even think of how much easier things were before but in the end you need to stick with it and battle on. Your life is not just about you anymore. It's about your child too.



This too shall pass.



Any chance your mother could lend you some money for some medicine/counselling? Or anyone else in your life?