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JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9768 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:</b>" I'm sorry to be a downer but I'm ... [snip!] ... And your right if a mom can do it a dad can but not to be sexist but we aren't built with that motherly love and super powers"</blockquote>



Call your doctor, THAT'S how you get meds and counseling. And mother's don't have super powers, sorry but your excuses, are just that, excuses. I have a friend who raises his twins by himself, he had his rough times but he pushed through and got help because he loves his children more than anything.

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:</b>" theres no such thing as super powers when it comes to having children, its just the love we have for ... [snip!] ... it especially in ur situation... get wic for the baby... if u need a break maybe ask his mom to be a lil more involved...."</blockquote>



True and you would think from my mom being a single mother I would be more understanding of the situation..



I'll try that out before considering then I just need some kind of outside support and help that my mother just can't help me with.



I'm thinking about putting her on child support on Monday maybe that'll get her attention I've just always been stubborn, id hate to live off the government and hardworking tax payers money because I'm in a rut.



I thinks that's called pride lol

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting J+K=Bri+? :):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ ... [snip!] ... twins by himself, he had his rough times but he pushed through and got help because he loves his children more than anything."</blockquote>




I know my excuses are lame but it's just how I'm feeling right now and wow I couldn't imagine raising twins by myself. How does he do it financial wise and emotionally???

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9768 posts
status 15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting J+K=Bri+? :):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" ... [snip!] ... I'm feeling right now and wow I couldn't imagine raising twins by myself. How does he do it financial wise and emotionally???"</blockquote>




He did go through a dark time where he didn't think he could do it, but he got the help he needed, busted his ass to get through college and now has a great career where he can provide for them with no worries. There is assistance for single parents, not just moms.

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lilly'smommy5:</b>" This. As a single parent you will qualify for government assistance out the ass including housing, ... [snip!] ... to school. You CAN do it OP. You just need to fight this depression and kick it's ass for your childs sake as well as yours."</blockquote>




Thanks for the motivation that really means a lot and well said bluntly. Your response popped my eyes open and gives me hope. But like I said in another post I am stubborn when it comes to government assistance but I need to lay my pride aside and do what is right..

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lilly'smommy5:</b>" This. As a single parent you will qualify ... [snip!] ... in another post I am stubborn when it comes to government assistance but I need to lay my pride aside and do what is right.."


Glad I could help :) I am also extremely stubborn about being on government assistance because of my pride so I know how that feels. Still I'm glad you're understanding, like I have to be, that your child's needs come first. Pride means nothing if you have a child who is suffering because of stubbornness. Then what would we have to be proud of? Good luck OP :)

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lilly'smommy5:</b>" Glad I could help :) I am also extremely stubborn about being on government assistance because of my ... [snip!] ... nothing if you have a child who is suffering because of stubbornness. Then what would we have to be proud of? Good luck OP :)"</blockquote>



True and thanks again and also to many others who shared. I'm glad to fi

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lilly'smommy5:</b>" Glad I could help :) I am also extremely stubborn about being on government assistance because of my ... [snip!] ... nothing if you have a child who is suffering because of stubbornness. Then what would we have to be proud of? Good luck OP :)"</blockquote>



True and thanks again and also to many others who shared. I'm glad to find someone who can relate with the stubborn part :) and to all to bring ease to your minds from the support I've decided not to go through with it, I plan to put many of these suggestions into action next week Monday and stop wallowing when I know my son needs me. Again I thank you all this is a wonderful forum and I'm glad I found it. I will be sure to keep you guys updated on my progression as I fight this battle of parenthood and becoming a good stabled father for my son..

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R ... [snip!] ... he gets the third degree, I've read about some mothers/wives who hate their kids to the point of wishing they didn't exist."


It's rare to see single fathers without the mothers around. At least that I have seen. It's very foreign to me.

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
15th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R [37 WEEKS!]:</b>" It's rare to see single fathers without the mothers around. At least that I have seen. It's very foreign to me. "</blockquote>




That's very true I guess that's what was so hard for me to grasp because I became that 1 out if 10. Guess things happen for a reason..

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
15th Mar '13
Quoting Laidbackblkguy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting S+K=R [37 WEEKS!]:</b>" It's rare to see single fathers without ... [snip!] ... very true I guess that's what was so hard for me to grasp because I became that 1 out if 10. Guess things happen for a reason.."


You seem to be a very smart guy and I am SO glad that these ladies helped open your eyes the way that they did. This website is fantastic in that aspect and there's no harm in sticking around if you need further advice. I really hope you find the help that you need and that your baby gets to keep their daddy around!

Laidbackblkguy 18 kids; Myrtle Beach, South Carolina 27 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleBama582:</b>" Being there for your son should be your motivation in life. "</blockquote>




I agree he should and don't worry he will be :) you guys made me realize that I'm all he has right now as far as parent wise. Thank you

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:</b>" theres no such thing as super powers ... [snip!] ... id hate to live off the government and hardworking tax payers money because I'm in a rut. I thinks that's called pride lol"</blockquote>




but that's what its for, transitional aid is for, i pay taxes they screw us royally lol but i tell people all the time to use it if they sound like they need it and u and ur baby need it, id love to hear u got some treatment, put him in a good day care went back to school and bought him some awesome cookies with m&ms in them, because u used aid for what its for, :)
hang in there, no more excuses make moves, i was single mom at 1 time, in school, 2 jobs, it sucked bigtime but its worth it,

mephi 2 kids; Port Orchard, Washington 21 posts
16th Mar '13

I may be a little late in the game, but you can do this. You just have to get yourself help, and help for your son. I'm taking care of 2 boys on my own, with help from family while I'm at work. I have a good job, I have a house, I have a car...all those things that people say are important for some reason. I wouldn't have any of that if I hadn't gotten help when I needed it.



I've said this before. All the crap you are going through will pass. It may sound grim, but even you are here for a finite time. You child will most likely out live you, and his children will continue on after that. The greatest impact most of us will ever make on this world is through our children. They are our legacy. It is your job to shape and guide that legacy into the future. No one else will be able to do it just like you.

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9768 posts
status 17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laidbackblkguy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lilly'smommy5:</b>" Glad I could help :) I am also extremely ... [snip!] ... to keep you guys updated on my progression as I fight this battle of parenthood and becoming a good stabled father for my son.."</blockquote>



That's awesome! You CAN do this! It will be hard and you'll have to work the hardest you've ever worked but it will be worth it and your little boy will be so proud of you when he's old enough to understand all your hard work and dedicated to him.