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Laurahyatt Due September 11; Sterling Heights, Michigan 58 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" When my grandpa died last summer, I decided to leave the kids at home with DH. It isn't really appropriate ... [snip!] ... afterwards. That's just what I would do if I were you. I'm very sorry for your loss, btw. I went through this last June. :("</blockquote>



I told her he would be there after because idk if I want him around all the emotion and she started screaming at me saying i'm horrible for not taking him its making me sad that she's so upset over it but i'm not going to go against SO and his parenting that's not right so
she's just going to have to deal

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
16th Mar '13

I take my kids to everything. Idk if we had any funerals when she was that young. But she went to my grandpas when she was 3. My cousins when she was 4. And my friends when she was 5. Shes been fine at all of them. I would have taken her at 11 mos too. My Family loves to see kids and they don't care if they're playing and laughing and running around. Everyone enjoys them and it brings a happy aura to a sad event. I believe my deceased relatives would like to look down on us and see happiness not sorrow. That's how my whole family is. We laugh and share memories during the social times and grieve during the funeral service. I believe in Celebrating life and that's what kids bring to a funeral.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting Laurahyatt:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo
Laurahyatt Due September 11; Sterling Heights, Michigan 58 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" When my grandpa died last summer, I decided to leave the kids at home with DH. It isn't really appropriate ... [snip!] ... afterwards. That's just what I would do if I were you. I'm very sorry for your loss, btw. I went through this last June. :("</blockquote>



I told her he would be there after because idk if I want him around all the emotion and she started screaming at me saying i'm horrible for not taking him its making me sad that she's so upset over it but i'm not going to go against SO and his parenting that's not right so
she's just going to have to deal

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurahyatt:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mamakye_:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laurahyatt:</b>" ... [snip!] ... that everyone wants him to attend. All the great grandchildren will be there but him because SO is dead set on him not going"</blockquote>



Did he say why?!?! Some people would be appalled by my family's funerals. You won't see a wake of crying people. You'll see people talking and laughing. During the funeral service there's tears. The at the dinners afterwards there's more talking and laughing. We share funny stories and reminisce.

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6007 posts
status 16th Mar '13

It depends. A lot of people like the distraction of a little person. My cousin brought his little girl for a while to my grandpas visitation and it was a nice break from the crying and everything. I wouldn't bring your child for the whole time, but that's just cause i wouldn't want to be focused on the baby the whole time.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
16th Mar '13

I have already had to take DD to two funerals. For my granny's, it was mainly b/c people requested it, I had offers from several not-so-close (blood wise, I mean) relatives offer to take her to the back/outside for a minute if she got fussy. It was not needed. She was 4mos. When my great aunt died, I had no sitter but wanted to go and decided I would step out if I had to with her. I did not have to then either. She was 10mos. I am very sorry for your lose, I know it is rough. I am also sorry you have to deal with your SO and mom being so dramatic and such in this difficult time, putting you through unneeded exyra grief.

*isaiahs_mama* 1 child; McKinney, Texas 287 posts
16th Mar '13

When we were kids they would send pretty much everyone 12 and under to the basement or an extra room in the church and have some of the teenagers watch us and the babies during the funeral. The wake was a lot more relaxed and personal everyone wanted the children their to lighten the mood. I though it was a pretty good setup. I can't imagine my 11 month old being quiet for the entire time.

Nessa Grace 18 kids; Nebraska 347 posts
16th Mar '13

my DD was 3 or 4 months at her first funeral, DS went to one on monday,at 12 months fist one was great great grandma second was great grandma, but it was in my grandmas wishes that all the kids come to hers because she loved them so much...

Ace of Bace 1 child; New Bern, North Carolina 1657 posts
16th Mar '13

Yes I would. People like baby's. baby's make people happy in a sad time. Everyone was so happy to see my baby at my great grandmothers funeral

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16811 posts
16th Mar '13

LO was 13 months at his first funeral. He was very well behaved. In fact people turned around and said Has he been here the whole time? I said yes, they could not believe how well behaved he was.