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Porn with your partner *warning* Excited for mommyhood! Due June 13; Bakersfield, California 54 posts
16th Mar '13

WARNING you guys, this may be considered too honest or too much info for some of you so if your sensitive to stuff maybe you shouldn't read on.



So it seems like a lot of couples watch porn together. not to make anyone uncomfortable but my bf is veryyy well endowed an he knows he is the biggest I've ever had He's Mexican I'm Irish an black, (this'll be sort of relevant later)
but when we tried watching porn after being together for a while he completely flipped on me! it was bree olsen an some black man, I wasn't masturbating or getting turned on just sitting watching an he starts accusing me of wanting to be with a black guy instead of him an saying I think he's small, now I've never been with a black guy an I don't really care when it comes to color but I didn't understand why it was such a big deal if I were to get with one if him and I didn't work out. it totally backfired on us an sex was weird for like a month after that, I don't really understand what this could have been brought on by when I never saw a hint of insecurity from him. has this happened to anyone else or does anyone have any ideas as to hat this could be?
please don't reply saying I'm racist or anything like that negative just looking for opinions on what this could have been from an if porn will ever be something we experience positively together. how do you and your partners do it, was it his or your idea an how do you decide what to watch an what type do you watch?



alright guys thanks!

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
16th Mar '13

Maybe an ex cheated on him with a black guy? Or he's insecure about his size and he was uncomfortable watching it with you.

Housewife & Co 1 child; Washington, District of Columbia 600 posts
16th Mar '13

I think he's just insecure. Maybe an ex left him for a black guy? Or maybe someone made him feel like he was inadequate. It sounds more like a self esteem issue rather than a porn issue

*Soon 2B G0rda* Due December 24 (boy); 3 kids; Mexico 8906 posts
16th Mar '13

hmm.. don't see how the color plays a role in anything... It just sounds like he's insecure/jealous type

Mason & Carmen's Mommy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 3355 posts
16th Mar '13

I dont watch porn, just don't have the time or any private time at all but SO watch s porn all the time and most of it is anal with big booty girls lol, I have a little butt and dont do anal but it dons't bother me he watches it as long as he is not cheating and gives me what I want which isn't much.



but I do believe he would get mad at me for watching certain types of porn yes

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20543 posts
status 16th Mar '13

Maybe the black guys in the porn were bigger than him, and he is insecure because you might have been with a black guy in the past? Although if it makes him feel better, yeah that stereotype is bogus from my experience lol. Maybe you can watch porn, but not interracial porn? Or maybe black chicks and white guys? Or lesbian porn. That might make him feel better

Excited for mommyhood! Due June 13; Bakersfield, California 54 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" Maybe the black guys in the porn were bigger than him, and he is insecure because you might have been ... [snip!] ... watch porn, but not interracial porn? Or maybe black chicks and white guys? Or lesbian porn. That might make him feel better"

haha really? ive never been with a lack guy so I wouldn't know an he knows ive never been with one like I said not against it just haven't, but yeah I think the lesbiend porn might help it doesn't nothing for me but if it works for him lol

Excited for mommyhood! Due June 13; Bakersfield, California 54 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting *Soon 2B G0rda*:" hmm.. don't see how the color plays a role in anything... It just sounds like he's insecure/jealous type"


I didn't get why him being black effected anything either like I wondered if it had been a Mexican/white guy if he would've reacted the same maybe if I had been with nothing but blacks in the past but since I've never been with one it totally threw me. that's true because he is very jealous but since he suggested it I didn't think it'd be like that lol

Excited for mommyhood! Due June 13; Bakersfield, California 54 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting Mason & Carmen's Mommy:" I dont watch porn, just don't have the time or any private time at all but SO watch s porn all the time ... [snip!] ... and gives me what I want which isn't much. but I do believe he would get mad at me for watching certain types of porn yes "

wow that's really cool of you not to be bothered by him watching something you don't have like if he watched girls who had huge tits id be upset lol your very secure an mature I have some growing up to do I guess haha

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20543 posts
status 16th Mar '13
Quoting Excited for mommyhood!:" haha really? ive never been with a lack guy so I wouldn't know an he knows ive never been with one like ... [snip!] ... against it just haven't, but yeah I think the lesbiend porn might help it doesn't nothing for me but if it works for him lol"


It honestly sounds like an insecurity issue versus a problem with porn issue. I think if it were white guys and girls, or lesbian porn, he would be fine. Did you tryto talk to him after he calmed down and ask?

Excited for mommyhood! Due June 13; Bakersfield, California 54 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" It honestly sounds like an insecurity issue versus a problem with porn issue. I think if it were white ... [snip!] ... if it were white guys and girls, or lesbian porn, he would be fine. Did you tryto talk to him after he calmed down and ask?"


yeah I tried to but it just started to get him upset again, an hes the type to just drop it an never talk about it as solving the problem, I think your right if it were white or lesbo he'd be okay but I have been too scared to try again. any thoughts on bringing it back up into the relationship smoothly?

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20543 posts
status 16th Mar '13
Quoting Excited for mommyhood!:" yeah I tried to but it just started to get him upset again, an hes the type to just drop it an never ... [snip!] ... lesbo he'd be okay but I have been too scared to try again. any thoughts on bringing it back up into the relationship smoothly?"

I got nothin, sorry :( I'm a talker, so we would HAVE to have that conversation at some point. Unless you want to initiate some sexy time, and then just turn on some different porn and let him walk into it and gauge his reaction. That has the potential to start an other fight though, but if you're willing to risk it then go for it.