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Done Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5416 posts
16th Mar '13

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user banned Logan, Utah 3594 posts
16th Mar '13

I know when I hold out from DH its because of self conscience issues I am having and when he asks I make up excuses like I don't feel well or whatever.

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 8630 posts
status 16th Mar '13

Have you tried ASKING him why he doesn't seem to want to have sex? Maybe he's just the type who thinks you don't have to have sex all the time for a relationship?

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59191 posts
16th Mar '13

Has he given you reasons?
Cos i honestly wouldn't consider that normal either with out reasons like health, distance, etc :oops:

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
16th Mar '13

Is he depressed? Stressed from work? Getting enough sleep? How's his diet? I'm sorry if this is going to sound rude but I mean it with good intention-do you take care of yourself/have you let yourself go since you've been together?

Empty2.0 Ohio 488 posts
16th Mar '13

Im the type who doesn't like to have sex, I look at is a s chore lol But if my husband comes on to me, to a little for play, or just plays around with me then things lead from one thing to another. But I don't like it when he justs asks or whips out his peepee. its a turn off to me. maybe try new things with him?

Dr. Angelface 2 kids; California 8230 posts
16th Mar '13

welcome to my world.



it sucks.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5416 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~AngelEyes~*:</b>" Have you tried ASKING him why he doesn't seem to want to have sex? Maybe he's just the type who thinks you don't have to have sex all the time for a relationship? "</blockquote>




Yeah, I've asked him and he never really gives me a reason. He just tells me no. And we've been together for 5 years, it's only been like this for the past year maybe so I don't think that's what it is.

1 child; Houston, Texas 850 posts
16th Mar '13

Has he always been that way? Or is it just all of the sudden?

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 8630 posts
status 16th Mar '13
Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~AngelEyes~*:</b>" Have you tried ASKING him why he doesn't ... [snip!] ... no. And we've been together for 5 years, it's only been like this for the past year maybe so I don't think that's what it is."

well, he could be getting bored with sex. My husband gets like that sometimes. (here lately since I've been a raging horndog, so has he really...) But guys do tend to get bored with it sometimes. Try mixing it up some; give him a nice sensual massage one night. Surprise him with something a bit romantic; just to get that little spark going! :)

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1538 posts
16th Mar '13

I don't know any guy that refuses sex when it's offered. DH sounds like me lol. I'm fine with getting it only once a month.. if he doesn't give you a reason why, that's strange :/ I would just keep asking him until he gives you a valid response.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18295 posts
status 16th Mar '13

Yeah, that makes no sense, unless he's depressed.



The only time I've ever dealt with that, dude was cheating. But I'm sure if you thought that was a possibility you would have mentioned it. So i have no idea:(

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5416 posts
16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Is he depressed? Stressed from work? Getting enough sleep? How's his diet? I'm sorry if this is going ... [snip!] ... sound rude but I mean it with good intention-do you take care of yourself/have you let yourself go since you've been together? "</blockquote>




A couple months ago he started a new job. It's basically his dream job as he says and he kinda makes his own hours pretty much. (He runs a 4x4 automotive shop). He gets more sleep now than he did with the job he had prior to this and he hasn't made any changes in his diet, he eats healthier than me :lol:. And as for me, I do still keep myself up like I always have. I'm definitely not as small as I was before I had DD but its not like a major difference. I've even been going to the gym and have seen progress with that, so I don't think it's just me, even though I do feel that way sometimes.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18295 posts
status 16th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Is he depressed? Stressed from work? Getting ... [snip!] ... going to the gym and have seen progress with that, so I don't think it's just me, even though I do feel that way sometimes."</blockquote>



Is your marriage good besides the sex issue? Do you still feel love from him?

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
16th Mar '13
Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Is he depressed? Stressed from work? Getting ... [snip!] ... going to the gym and have seen progress with that, so I don't think it's just me, even though I do feel that way sometimes."


The only other thing I can think of then would just be plain old boredom. Unless he's hiding some erectile dysfunction issues or something. He might just be reaching comfort peak and doesn't see sex as appealing as he did before, but it's still weird to me that he flat out says 'no'. I would definitely insist on having a sit down conversation about it, simply because it seems to be bothering you so much and you don't need to have that bottled up.



Oh, and I'll come make love to you :wink: