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SO is such an ass S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13

when I'm finally honest with him about how I feel with the whole "I work all week at a job so that excuses me from being a dad and a husband."



he gets angry and flips and says all about how I piss him off. da faq??



He wants breakfast, and I don't feel good so I didn't feel like cooking food. I say if he wants it, he can cook it. His excuse, AS ALWAYS, "I work all week."



I do too! I work as a mother, homemaker, and a full time nursing student! He thinks I have it so fucking easy because I don't work at a job, my job is at home.



So I tell him, you give me grief if I ask you one night a week to put the baby to bed so I can shower, you do it - but I can tell it's a bother to you. You're still a dad and I don't care if you work all week, it's called being an adult and manning up to ALL of the responsibilities you have.



It's just old and annoying now. Everything is "I can't because I work all week." or "I work all week so you should do it." just like I do it 7x a week to begin with. He can rest and be lazy all day, but GOD FORBID I want to do it.



He was cooking breakfast and was mumbling shit just now. Going off about "You make it seem like I don't do shit. I do everything!" Okay babe. Okay.



my response: "I never said you don't do anything, I get it - you do work hard. but you do try to get out of a lot and think you working is an excuse not to do a lot. If I ask you to put the baby to bed, put him to bed and just do it. I need you help if I'm asking. Or I need a break."



Don't get me wrong, SOMETIMES he'll do everything generously. Sometimes. It's rare.



So I told him I don't want the breakfast anymore and he told me to go fuck myself. Yep, he's mature.

Addi&Aria'smama Due January 23 (girl); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5732 posts
17th Mar '13

Sounds like DH. He use to pull that crap all the time. Now I work full time and I still do everything like when I was a SAHM. His excuse now is he works more hours. I think guys are just insanely lazy.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Addi's Momma:" Sounds like DH. He use to pull that crap all the time. Now I work full time and I still do everything ... [snip!] ... and I still do everything like when I was a SAHM. His excuse now is he works more hours. I think guys are just insanely lazy."


agreed. He always thinks because he pays the bills, works at a factory, and pays for my things automatically makes him God and he doesn't have to do anything else. And it was his idea for me to be a SAHM and just focus on school. Sometimes I regret listening to him and I should have went back to work after my maternity leave.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13

He doesn't understand what a SAHM is. And just because he college classes came easy to him, he doesn't realize how hard mine are.

Addi&Aria'smama Due January 23 (girl); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5732 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" He doesn't understand what a SAHM is. And just because he college classes came easy to him, he doesn't realize how hard mine are. "

DH never did either and I was in nursing school until we moved. It is a completely different kind of school. Good luck with your classes. How much longer do you have?

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19254 posts
17th Mar '13

What does your husband think families with two working parents do? My husband and I both work full time, so should our kids and house have to fend for themselves because it's not our "duty". HA.



Your husband needs a wake up call. If he didn't want the responsibilities that come with having kids, he shouldn't have had them. He needs to suck it up and grow up. Act like a damn man. Does he want his kids to grow up thinking you can be lazy as a man at home if you find the right woman to walk all over? *smh*

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Addi's Momma:</b>" DH never did either and I was in nursing school until we moved. It is a completely different kind of school. Good luck with your classes. How much longer do you have?"</blockquote>



2 years :(

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting pilot Jess:</b>" What does your husband think families with two working parents do? My husband and I both work full time, ... [snip!] ... Does he want his kids to grow up thinking you can be lazy as a man at home if you find the right woman to walk all over? *smh*"</blockquote>




Exactly! I think he wanted me to be "his version" of a SAHM just to clean up after him, cook, clean the house, and take care of DS.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Addi's Momma:" Sounds like DH. He use to pull that crap all the time. Now I work full time and I still do everything ... [snip!] ... and I still do everything like when I was a SAHM. His excuse now is he works more hours. I think guys are just insanely lazy."

we are living the same life!

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3838 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazyhazel89:</b>" we are living the same life!"</blockquote>



Ugh we all are! Haha

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting pilot Jess:" What does your husband think families with two working parents do? My husband and I both work full time, ... [snip!] ... Does he want his kids to grow up thinking you can be lazy as a man at home if you find the right woman to walk all over? *smh*"


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You're not the only parent, he needs a wake up call..