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17th Mar '13

A woman who stays with a man that is a rapist or pedophile or knowingly starts a relationship with one, is just as vile as the man who committed the crimes.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56008 posts
status 17th Mar '13

True

and this is a huge point of contention between my mother and I.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
17th Mar '13

true.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
17th Mar '13

A couple moved in down the street, she is a SAHM mom with a daughter :shock: around the same age as my oldest, I have had a few people tell me it's absurd to hold his crimes against her. I have zero desire to have any interaction with their family. I don't even want him looking in the direction of my house when he passes by....

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59291 posts
status 17th Mar '13

Hmm. Define vile?



I mean, I'm sure in plenty of cases she is either in denial that he is that way, and/or one of his victims (possibly of rape or domestic violence herself)?



So... vile? I'm not sure. If she's staying with him as he actively harms other people and knows about it... eek. I would want to say she's vile... but without knowing why... I have a hard time saying that she's vile.



Starting a relationship and knowing this, then yes, I would say vile.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
17th Mar '13

I say true. But I do think in certain cases it's not. Like if there's abuse involved and she stays out of fear and fear alone, in that case I don't so much see her as being as at fault as he is. Kwim?

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59291 posts
status 17th Mar '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" A couple moved in down the street, she is a SAHM mom with a daughter :shock: around the same age as my ... [snip!] ... to have any interaction with their family. I don't even want him looking in the direction of my house when he passes by...."


See, I wouldn't want to have any interaction with them, either. That is completely understandable.

Ecstasy 18 kids; Cuba 7748 posts
17th Mar '13

Naive perhaps?



I dont think anyone in their right mind would go out of their way to fall head over heels for a pedo/rapist...



Suppose it'd depend if they found out after the relationship had been started?



But for me NO WAY and especially HELL NO if i had children.



Meh... not a great situation for anyone to be in i suppose.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22984 posts
17th Mar '13

Just as vile for being in a relationship? No. Personally, i think a woman is a loser and awful for being with said vile man who has abused people unknown to the woman.
BUT, they are nearly as vile if a mom knowingly is in a relationship with a man that she knows has threatened one of her kids or has abused one of her kids or kids that she personally knows and may not be related to.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15015 posts
status 17th Mar '13

Yes if she enables him. Otherwise no.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
17th Mar '13

To me I think it would depend on specifically what he had done. I knew a guy who was a registered sex offender because he was 18 and a girl lied and said she was to but she was really 16... I think that is just wrong on the girls part. He deserved to have a relationship. I met another guy who had a horrible relationship with his wife and he raped her... He did jail time and their divorced now. I don't know if he deserves to be alone forever... I mean he said his wife drove him over the edge and he would never harm anyone else... But I don't think any girl would go out with him. If someone did though and they know what he did I wouldnt judge her, maybe they would be meant to be together and be happy..

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" To me I think it would depend on specifically what he had done. I knew a guy who was a registered sex ... [snip!] ... If someone did though and they know what he did I wouldnt judge her, maybe they would be meant to be together and be happy.."


:shock:
he raped her, but she drove him to it?

Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Frankfurt, HS, Germany 16197 posts
17th Mar '13

i didnt read the responses, but yes.



someone i know is married to someone in my husbands old unit and she told me things about her past...she has 5 kids and doesnt have custody of any of them anymore because she got married to a pedophile, KNOWING that he was one.
she actually told me how she walked in on him molesting her youngest son. the only reason she got divorced is because he got caught and went to jail again and she got fed up with him being in jail all the time...disgusting.

He Who Must Not Be Named 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59291 posts
status 18th Mar '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" To me I think it would depend on specifically what he had done. I knew a guy who was a registered sex ... [snip!] ... If someone did though and they know what he did I wouldnt judge her, maybe they would be meant to be together and be happy.."


That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Someone does not "drive someone" to rape them.



Blaming the victim. Fun.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56008 posts
status 18th Mar '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" To me I think it would depend on specifically what he had done. I knew a guy who was a registered sex ... [snip!] ... If someone did though and they know what he did I wouldnt judge her, maybe they would be meant to be together and be happy.."


wait, did you really just say that "the wife drove him to rape her"? Cause it was her fault?

That's disgusting. How can you even think that!