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Advice Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3246 posts
17th Mar '13

So lately DH has sort of changed his foreplay style. He starts rubbing on me like really hard and fast, right off the bat, which is really counter productive for me. I need to be teased a bit. At first I thought maybe he was trying something new, but I think this is just like what he does now? I am not sure how to bring it up, because I've let it go on for a while.



Also whenever we are having sex, and I am close he changes positions because he thinks that will be better, but it isn't.



We have been married over five years and are completely open and honest with eachother about everything. When it comes to sexual critiques, I am just clueless on how or when to bring stuff up.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
17th Mar '13

Why not take the reigns in the bedroom and show him what to do? And if that doesn't work, have a come to jesus meeting about it and tell him flat out that what he's doing isn't working for you. If SO is doing it wrong, I just tell him straight up.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17223 posts
17th Mar '13

SO does that sometimes. I have to just say "slower and gentle" and he paces himself. Men watch too much porn that is not realistic. :/

Kay Peezy Due October 29 (girl); 2 kids; Maryland 2062 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:" So lately DH has sort of changed his foreplay style. He starts rubbing on me like really hard and fast, ... [snip!] ... honest with eachother about everything. When it comes to sexual critiques, I am just clueless on how or when to bring stuff up."

You could lie and tell him you read about something in Cosmo you want to try... and give feedback to let him know he's doing it right. lol Good luck

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
17th Mar '13

Just let him know next time he's going hard, to slow down a little bit.Or stop him and show him the rhythm you want or need. Also if you're close, either don't say anything or tell him "Don't stop!"



I think if SO had the reigns and I was close, then he changed it, I'd flip his ass over and climb on top.