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Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32321 posts
status 17th Mar '13

I wouldn't allow pornography in video form, it'll become addictive and create expectations for when they really have sex that will make it less rewarding.



Plus most 13 year olds aren't responsible enough to protect the computer. I'd ignore the innitial so they avoid embarrassment, but write a letter so they can read without confrontation about being responsible and natural tendencies, safe sex blah blah. If he got a hold of a playboy? I don't care. But not on the internet.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
17th Mar '13

I wouldnt say anything about masturbating, I started doing it before that, and I would have already had a talk with my child about safe sex before 13. Not sure how I feel about porn though... I know that after watching softer porn a lot some people start looking for more and more provocative types of porn and that it can cause problems and if they are looking at porn I would worry that they could be in chat rooms ect. online talking to strangers, sending inapropreate pictures to strangers ect. Because if they are watching porn they obviously have no internet restrictions.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
17th Mar '13

And when I say "I" I mean his dad, that's not a conversation any 13 year old boy wants to have with his mother. I would do as suggested earlier, pretend I hadn't seen it and talk with his Dad. Then put search locks on the computers while they are talking, lol

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
17th Mar '13

As long as he is using free sites and my anti virus software is up to date, its fine. Id never shame my son for something natural, just educate him about it.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 3 little monsters:</b>" I wouldn't let him watch anything, there's some disturbing porn out there. I would probably give him ... [snip!] ... porn sites are sensored, lol. Nudie pics are enough at that age IMO, not likes it takes a lot to get them going anyways, lol"</blockquote>




This. Theres just some weird shit online that I wouldn't want my kid exposed to. But they wouldn't be punished for masturbation. That's a natural thing.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13909 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Umm, you best be having that talk looooong before age 13!!!"


eh, that's your opinion. I wasn't ready for the talk when I was like 10 or something.
I got the period talk before the sex talk.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3279 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" What? Why?"


Do I sense sarcasm? In this day and age, 13 is far too late to start talking about sex. I already talk to my 6 and 8 year old's about it. Age appropriate and honest conversations, as they come up, not forced.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13

That talk would have happened WELL before 13 years old. In fact, there would have been many talks over the years, age and developmentally appropriate.



But if I found him looking at porn, he'd be chastised for violating computer usage. Not because I object to him masturbating and using porn to facilitate that, because I don't care, but because online porn is a great way to compromise a computer and that is unacceptable.



I wouldn't say a word about the masturbation, or using porn, other than we don't view internet porn. Period.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70787 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Do I sense sarcasm? In this day and age, 13 is far too late to start talking about sex. I already talk ... [snip!] ... sex. I already talk to my 6 and 8 year old's about it. Age appropriate and honest conversations, as they come up, not forced."


How can asking why be sarcastic?? 6 and 8 are wayyy too young for the sex talk. My daughter is about to be 6. She's no where near ready for any sort of sex talk.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 117331 posts
status 17th Mar '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Do I sense sarcasm? In this day and age, 13 is far too late to start talking about sex. I already talk ... [snip!] ... sex. I already talk to my 6 and 8 year old's about it. Age appropriate and honest conversations, as they come up, not forced."


My son is 5 and I cant imagine having a sex talk with him in a year or so. Or at 8 I mean really

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
17th Mar '13

Plus don't most porn sites have chat rooms? Yeah no thanks, 13 is NOT old enough to have that kind of unsupervised porn access.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
17th Mar '13

1) Lock down my computer and tell him that porn is absolutely forbidden on computers/phones. Print-version porn doesn't bother me, although I hate that it promotes stereotypes.



2) Tell him to do ALL he wants, but do it IN his room or the bathroom with a LOCKED door (he'll have a younger sister).



3) Tell him he can come ask me or his dad any questions he has about sex or pornography and we'll answer him honestly and openly and help him find information about those things online via safe websites if we can't answer his questions.



NOT in that order, but you get the idea.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" How can asking why be sarcastic?? 6 and 8 are wayyy too young for the sex talk. My daughter is about to be 6. She's no where near ready for any sort of sex talk."


It all depends on how you talk about it.



Explaining the basic conception in an age appropriate way, and teaching the message of respecting your body, staying safe, and keeping it healthy, is perfectly appropriate. Even my 4 year old and I talk age appropriately about it. It is not sexualizing him. At this stage, it is teaching him about his body, how to take care of it, and not become a sexual victim.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" Do I sense sarcasm? In this day and age, 13 is far too late to start talking about sex. I already talk ... [snip!] ... sex. I already talk to my 6 and 8 year old's about it. Age appropriate and honest conversations, as they come up, not forced."</blockquote>




I had to talk to my 8 year old about sex recently because she told a boy at school she had a sleepover with her best friend who is a boy and he told her that meant they had sex. She just went with it not knowing was sex really was except people that love each other do it and she loves her best friend! It was not a fun day with the school counselor, lol. Anyways I can see having a sort of sex talk at 8 but not masturbation or the nitty gritty details. More like a where babies come from talk and more on good touch bad touch. An 8 year old doesn't need to know the mechanics of sex and self pleasure IMO.

one of each 4 me Due January 8; TTC since Mar 2014; 3 kids; Ohio 6196 posts
17th Mar '13

Granted my son is only 4 but if I see him playing with himself (he says it feels good) I tell him its okay just to do it when he's alone. I hope if I ever catch him later I will have the same attitude