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Cast Your Vote:

    • Younger than 6 years old -- Votes: 6
    • 6-7 years old -- Votes: 1
    • 8-9 years old -- Votes: 7
    • 10-11 years old -- Votes: 17
    • 12-13 years old -- Votes: 15
    • Older than 14 -- Votes: 0
    • I do not intend to have a talk unless there is an issue -- Votes: 0
j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
17th Mar '13

I think if they ask, you tell. You keep in mind their age. I mean..my 3yo knows about body parts, that he grew in my belly, that mommy and daddy made him, and the doctor took him out of my belly (he did ;) )



But, I think that by 9/10 they should know all about bodies and functions of both sexes..and about sex.



Theres a great book my mom bought us when we were little called "Where did I come from?" that has cartoon drawings and explains everything. Its great, it isnt vulgar(and the drawings are hilarious lol)

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32450 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Naaxi:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" I think it's totally inappropriate ... [snip!] ... about sex doesnt need to be shameful or taboo. Just be honest with your kid. You would be amazed how much they already know."


I'd be all super realist and be like "Because there are lots of nerve endings in that part of your body, so you feel things more than other places" It doesn't have to be all "Because you use them to rub on other people's parts". Kids don't care that much, they just want a simple answer.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
17th Mar '13

Other than answering questions that are asked, Inappropriate touching is something they need to be aware of as soon as they are going places with out me or their father, periods I will discuss with her at around 6 or 7, I wouldnt want to chance her getting her period earlier than I expected and not knowing what she should do. I think sex, especially safe sex and alternatives to having intercourse should be discussed at between 10 and 11. 12 year olds are having sex now and that's a scary thought but I hope that I can make my daughter comfortable with her body and knowledgeable about sex so she at least waits as long as I did.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Naaxi:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" I think it's totally inappropriate ... [snip!] ... about sex doesnt need to be shameful or taboo. Just be honest with your kid. You would be amazed how much they already know."


Exactly. Be honest. Don't make it shameful. Don't make it taboo. Children will take cues from you. If you are uncomfortable, they will be uncomfortable. And you can bet that they won't want to talk to you about it, but they still want their info. So don't you want them to be getting the info from the source that loves them the most and wants the best for them, rather than someone misinformed or who wants to take advantage of them?



Start early. Establish a dialogue. Keep shame out of it. Be honest. And you can bet that it will pay off, when your child is thinking about sex later and decides to talk to you about it, or at the very least is informed enough to be safe because you've talked about it, openly, honestly.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26889 posts
17th Mar '13

I remember experimenting with other kids when I was very young..my mom was too late at 8.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27481 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" I think it's totally inappropriate to be talking to a 6 year old about sex."


Why? You can make it age appropriate. When you make it shameful, THAT is when its inappropriate. You don't need to get to the nitty gritty but you don't need to say "The stork brings a baby to Mommys belly" :p

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" :!: :!: :!: My son is 3 and I explain our bodies and how they work fairly often. We haven't gotten ... [snip!] ... grown up yet. He also knows what a period is and that a baby will come out of my vagina and she will have a vagina and such."


This is essentially how I treat it, too. We haven't talked about the act of sex. He is 4 and he has not brought it up. But he knows that he grew in my belly, and that he breastfed.



He doesn't believe me that he came out of anywhere but my mouth, but I've told him otherwise. He just doesn't believe me. lol

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" I remember experimenting with other kids when I was very young..my mom was too late at 8."


So true! And if they have any exposure to older kids, older kids could take advantage of their lack of basic knowledge. My friend's 12 year old big-brother tried to get me to have sex with him based on some things kids had told him at school. I was 9. My mom hadn't had the talk with me (I got my period at 11, she barely glossed over it then), so I told him no just based on exposure to my older sister (she was 14 and not a virgin) and listening to what she had said. I knew I didn't want to be worried if I was pregnant and sex could mean pregnancy----my sister's BFF was 15 and had had a pregnancy scare, so I was like :shock:

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Autumn Whisper:" This is essentially how I treat it, too. We haven't talked about the act of sex. He is 4 and he has ... [snip!] ... He doesn't believe me that he came out of anywhere but my mouth, but I've told him otherwise. He just doesn't believe me. lol"

I showed my son a pic of him coming out, haha. He was like 'DUDE! THATS ME?!?"



Then we watched a couple birth videos and such (he was asking questions about how sister will come out and whether it would hurt and such, so we watched a couple of crunchy natural birth videos because he's already asked to be in the room when sister comes---and I'm cool with it. He was there when we delivered his brother (a very sudden premature delivery and we hadn't made plans for a sitter with him or anything and had just moved to town and knew no one, so we didn't have anywhere else to send him or a way to get him there ASAP when I went into preterm labor VERY suddenly).

JΔ$ Georgia 76362 posts
17th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Naaxi:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:</b>" I think it's totally inappropriate ... [snip!] ... about sex doesnt need to be shameful or taboo. Just be honest with your kid. You would be amazed how much they already know."</blockquote>



You tell them that it's something they do in private and leave it at that. My 4 year old has went through that phase. It wasn't an indication that she needed to learn about sex. My 4 year old knows nothing about sex nor should she.



Sex and touching yourself because it feels good are two different things by the way.

Roo & Sophie's mama 2 kids; Denton, Texas 9318 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Autumn Whisper:" It is not "the talk." It is an ongoing conversation about their bodies, care for their bodies, and respect ... [snip!] ... that starts young and doesn't really end. Questions should always be answered promptly, honestly, and age-appropriately."

This is what I believe. When they are 10 or 11 though I plan to tell them the more indepth infortmation because I was faced with a sexual situation at 12 and was never talked to about anything sex related before that point.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
17th Mar '13

Any where between 8-10 or older is appropriate, in my opinion. Not that I plan on only having one conversation where I tell him what sex is....I hope I have an open relationship with him where we can talk about these things whenever he wants to know or learn, without feeling awkward or embarrassed.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" I showed my son a pic of him coming out, haha. He was like 'DUDE! THATS ME?!?" Then we watched a couple ... [snip!] ... one, so we didn't have anywhere else to send him or a way to get him there ASAP when I went into preterm labor VERY suddenly)."


My son's seen pictures of me pregnant and him immediately after birth. He told me he needed a bath. lol



He's seen birth videos, too. And yet...he still says he came out of my mouth. Hmm.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Autumn Whisper:" My son's seen pictures of me pregnant and him immediately after birth. He told me he needed a bath. lol He's seen birth videos, too. And yet...he still says he came out of my mouth. Hmm."

I'd call that denial :wink:

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" I'd call that denial :wink:"


LOL Yes. I think I agree with you.