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1st time DAD needs help San Diego, California 7 posts
17th Mar '13
Quoting Jenna1234:" I may have been reading this in a different way than you intended, but it did seem that you told her ... [snip!] ... sounds like it could be, but sadly it could be she just doesn't feel for you right now. Good luck, I hope it works out for you!"

2 days before we broke up we were talking about getting married. I don't know anymore. I have suspected it to be hormones and only asked her mother via private email. I haven't made the mistake of saying it to her. What I did say was that all her past issues combined with the pregnancy had her scared and that I wouldn't leave or let her down.

Jenna1234 1 child; Iowa 509 posts
17th Mar '13
\Quoting 1st time DAD needs help:" 2 days before we broke up we were talking about getting married. I don't know anymore. I have suspected ... [snip!] ... I did say was that all her past issues combined with the pregnancy had her scared and that I wouldn't leave or let her down."


Saying that to some people can hit quite a few nerves. Some people don't want to really think about that type of thing (the past issues), some times for some people thinking about their problems or thinking that they have them is hard to accept. :?

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4293 posts
17th Mar '13

I wouldn't ever point out that it is her hormones to her, that during my pregnancy when SO would say something like that, I would flip out on him. I am sorry you are going through this. there is a possibility that it could be her hormones, but there isn't a for sure way to tell right now. Hormones during pregnancy can make not only the women who is pregnant crazy but the people around her can be affected as well. I hope things get better for you. I would honestly just let her know that you have a right to be in this babies life as much as she does, and that you will be a part of his/her life whether or not she wants to accept it. You can continue to try to with her if you like, no person can promise you that things will change but hopefully they will.

mrs.bedell 2 kids; Grand Forks, North Dakota 747 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting 1st time DAD needs help:" 2 days before we broke up we were talking about getting married. I don't know anymore. I have suspected ... [snip!] ... I did say was that all her past issues combined with the pregnancy had her scared and that I wouldn't leave or let her down."


all I can say then is just stay as involved and present as you can do not walk away.

Samantha Grice 18 kids; Sunshine Coast, Australia 240 posts
18th Mar '13

pregnancy hormones make us crazy plain and simple, if you try to stay by her as much as you can im sure when she realizes she doesn't want to be a single mum and maybe she was being silly and she does really love you everything will work out, patience is key just try your hardest and if she still pushes away just do what ever you can for your bubba.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18554 posts
18th Mar '13

I'm gonna say this because I have been in abusive relationships.... She may actually be pushing you away on purpose to see if you will leave her.... That being said, it's not right for her to treat you like shit in the process, or because she's got pregnancy hormones! If you were a girl being treated like this by a man, we would all be telling you to run. It's a double standard and it's really not fair....
My advice would be: Let her know that you love her and you want to be there for the baby. Ask her if you guys can try to work it out and if you can go to the babies appointment again. Tell her how you feel when she's treating you like shit. If she continues to be abusive with you, then you need to take her to court.

GHHGFHGFHG Due October 24 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 63 posts
18th Mar '13

When I was pregnant with my first (hell, even now, while pregnant with my second) I was a royal b***h to my boyfriend. It's even worse this time around.



I'm not saying it is her hormones, because none of us can be sure, but maybe just send her an e-mail, or a text message...telling her that IF (and make sure you emphasize the IF) she doesn't have any desire to be with you romantically, you are still going to be there and do everything you can do to be a good father to the child that you both share. Court is an option, but it's always nice if things can work themselves out. She can't be forced to let you go to the doctors appointments, but tell her how much it would mean to you if you guys could work it out enough so you can be actively involved in the pregnancy, while she's carrying the child you both created. Don't push her too much, but make sure you make it clear that you want, so badly, to be there for your child, and her as well. But let her know that if she really doesn't want you as a part of her life, romantically, you will respect that and still remain civil enough for your child.
If you need anybody to talk to, you can PM me. I know how rough it is when you're having relationship problems and want so badly to fix them, but the other person refuses.