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user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
18th Mar '13

Absolutely. Even in families that spank, the purpose isn't to harm the kid, it's to punish. Using a belt goes way beyond that.

Jackie Burkhart ♡ 1 child; Wisconsin 7255 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" I want to talk to someone who doesn't think it is. I need help understanding this line of thinking. :/"


You want to talk to someone who doesn't think it's abuse?

user banned California 36390 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleDurple:" Then I guess I was abused half my whole life."


So you feel that you were abused because of it? Or you don't think it's abuse?

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
18th Mar '13

Yes that is absolutely abuse.
My parents ONLY spanked with belts, it was f**king horrible.

user banned California 36390 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Jackie Burkhart ♡:" You want to talk to someone who doesn't think it's abuse? "


Yes so that they can explain why it's not.

PurpleDurple 1 child; 41119 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" I want to talk to someone who doesn't think it is. I need help understanding this line of thinking. :/"</blockquote>




Well then what's your opinion on it ?

user banned California 36390 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting PurpleDurple:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" I want to talk to someone who ... [snip!] ... think it is. I need help understanding this line of thinking. :/"</blockquote> Well then what's your opinion on it ?"


I think it's abuse to hit a child with anything other than an open palm on their butt (and even then, I'm still wary.)

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
18th Mar '13

Damn! My parents abused me as a child then. I got hit with a belt so many times lololol.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
18th Mar '13

I think that spanking with anything other than a hand is over the line. THAT BEING SAID- if we're going by those standards, I was abused like no-other as a kid but other than a handful of instances, I feel like I probably deserved it :) the instances where I feel like my parents crossed the line definitely stand out in my mind clearly and remind me to control myself when I'm mad. Every time something "over the line" happened to me it was when my parents punished me while they weren't in control of their anger. I still don't think my parents were bad parents, however, and I wouldn't consider myself a child of abuse, in general.

PurpleDurple 1 child; 41119 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" So you feel that you were abused because of it? Or you don't think it's abuse?"</blockquote>




Honestly I don't know. When I did things to cross line, out came the belt. Other then that it was always a smack or a pinch. I did get beat bad enough by my grandfather once I ended up in the hospital.

Bri + One ♥ Due October 19; 1 child; Florida 4316 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleDurple:</b>" Then I guess I was abused half my whole life."</blockquote>




Same here. I would definitely not spank my child. Especially not with a belt.

cookie monster (a and p) 2 kids; West Virginia 4445 posts
18th Mar '13

I know from first hand experience how it feels to be beat upon every inch of your body with a belt, I know what it does to a person and I know how it makes you feel. I vowed to never lay a hand upon my children and my husband respects that and know he will not either. It is so easy to cross that line and I will never put myself in that position, my children deserve better.

user banned California 36390 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting The Pretender:" I think that spanking with anything other than a hand is over the line. THAT BEING SAID- if we're going ... [snip!] ... anger. I still don't think my parents were bad parents, however, and I wouldn't consider myself a child of abuse, in general."


Did your siblings all receive the same punishment? (Assuming, of course, that you have siblings.) Would that change your opinion?

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting PurpleDurple:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:</b>" So you feel that you were abused ... [snip!] ... Other then that it was always a smack or a pinch. I did get beat bad enough by my grandfather once I ended up in the hospital."</blockquote>




That's awful...

.free. 2 kids; Arkansas 36040 posts
18th Mar '13

Absolutely abuse.



I got "spankings", or so my parents called them.
But in reality I was being whipped with belts, extension cords, coat hangers....
A spanking IMO, is an open handed swat.
If you went up to someone in the street and smacked them with your belt, you'd be charged with assault, so why is it any different for a child?