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Ryloonjimama Australia 18873 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Going out a couple times doesn't make you a bad parent. End of story."


Nobody in here said it did, to my knowledge.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting ღ Heidi ღ:" I think some of you need to realize that this is indeed debate & discuss so as called for as it is to ... [snip!] ... is a bit hypocritical if we all minded our own business there wouldn't be shit to talk about in debate & discuss. Dumbasses..."



Sorry but no dice. The OP phrased the question as a judgmental b***h. If she had phrased the discussion as "Do you think it's too soon to go out when you have a one week old", as in something GENERAL, no one would have been SPECIFIC in saying "Mind your own f**king business" KWIM?



Let me enlighten you sweetcheeks, D and D was not designed for people to hop on their high horse and debate and discuss the merits of particular people, gossip, and talk shit. That's what TDC is for. D and D was designed to discuss general topic and broad ideas in an intelligent manner. Not shit talk and slam other parents.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting -()-()-()-:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" This is debate and discuss. Asking ... [snip!] ... choose to have a child, your life now revolves around them and their needs above your own & a one week old needs it's mother."


I didn't see you justify your opinion with anything but circular reasoning. IE. "I feel this way because I feel this way". Not "I feel this way because studies show...." or "I feel this way because I believe it facilitates...."



Of course your life revolves around your child when you have one. But taking care of yourself is also taking care of your child. You don't take care of yourself, your children will suffer. Happy and fullfilled parents with interestes/ activities outside of their children provide a more balanced approach to parenting. I feel this way because I suffered from severe PPD after I had my son and struggled with it after I had my daughter. I felt as though I lost myself in becoming mommy. Had someone told me back then, shook me maybe and said "Dude, your kids aren't the center of the universe, take care of yourself as well" I think that I would have done better with it.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting Leilani Allyssa's Mommy:" Exactly what I was thinking. Being a good mother IMO is all about making sacrifices for your child. I ... [snip!] ... abusive parent thinks they are a great parent. Everyone wants to believe they are a good parent even if in reality they aren't."


Being a parent is not all about making sacrafices. Being a parent is about raising a well balanced child. It's important for children to realize they are NOT the center of the universe and that mommy/daddy/little sister have needs and wants as well. Whether your child realizes it or not delayed gratification is good for them.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Mar 19th '13

I love bar hopping.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I love bar hopping. "


I read several pages of this and this sums it up for me just fine.



*sips beer*

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting Derp:" I read several pages of this and this sums it up for me just fine. *sips beer*"


LOL, I have nothing else to contribute to the conversation, just that I like bar hopping.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
Mar 19th '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" LOL, I have nothing else to contribute to the conversation, just that I like bar hopping. "

I have enough to contribute but my opinion has already been stated by other people and I'm being lazy right now.



You know, because of all that alcohol I'm consuming.



And my 18 month old, let me tell you... He has suffered soooooo much the times I've gone out. I'm just an awful person, especially for going out before he turns 18.

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18574 posts
Mar 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting -()-()-()-:</b>" Nobody in here said it did, to my knowledge."</blockquote>




It was quite clearly implied

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting Derp:" I have enough to contribute but my opinion has already been stated by other people and I'm being lazy ... [snip!] ... He has suffered soooooo much the times I've gone out. I'm just an awful person, especially for going out before he turns 18. "


I know, my kid is going to need to be in therapy too. I went out a lot. I even went out when she said "Hey Mommy, can you leave the house tonight?" Why baby? "Because I'm getting kind of sick of you. I need a grandma night." LOL WELL OKAY THEN!



But lemme tell ya, she is so traumatized from it... from going to a rave 3 1/2 weeks after she was born, to going to bars when she was sleeping, to going out when she is sick of me ;) freaking traumatized man....




OH WAIT! I know what the real deal is... she was asking me to leave because my Mom was more motherly to her... cause ya know, if you go out then you aren't being a parent and it's a big no-no... so yup. She just was thinking my Mom was her REAL Mom, amirite? ;)

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I know, my kid is going to need to be in therapy too. I went out a lot. I even went out when she said ... [snip!] ... out then you aren't being a parent and it's a big no-no... so yup. She just was thinking my Mom was her REAL Mom, amirite? ;)"

You quite clearly irreparably damaged your child, you selfish b***h.



:lol:

OohlalaHeidi 1 child; Canandaigua, New York 222 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Sorry but no dice. The OP phrased the question as a judgmental b***h. If she had phrased the discussion ... [snip!] ... D and D was designed to discuss general topic and broad ideas in an intelligent manner. Not shit talk and slam other parents."


I think you should read the orginial post, she did say "Do you think..." can you read? So she incorporated her opinion into the question oh my god, someone call the administrator, next time we will be sure to indent, start a new paragraph and entitle it "My opinion" so you don't get your panties in a bunch :)

The Icebox {MBRD} 17 kids; New Mexico 18574 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting ღ Heidi ღ:" I think you should read the orginial post, she did say "Do you think..." can you read? So she incorporated ... [snip!] ... time we will be sure to indent, start a new paragraph and entitle it "My opinion" so you don't get your panties in a bunch :)"


I'm not quite sure you understand the concept of D&D..... usually childish remarks and name calling aren't welcome

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11613 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" I'm not quite sure you understand the concept of D&D..... usually childish remarks and name calling aren't welcome"

But it's so much easier than making a decent point, b***h :lol: