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SAHM resentment? InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Mar '13

Do any of you other SAHMs deal with some friends who act very jealous towards the fact you are able to stay home?
We don't make TONS of money but we live comfortably.



I have friends that get really pissy about it. Like if they ask me to go do something, I say I just have to wait for DH to get home and I can see and they get pissy and say OH it must be nice. Well... sorry? what am I supposed to be single and struggling like all of you? or working my ass off somewhere when I don't need to be?
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It just gets irritating sometimes, I get that not everyone is able to stay home but why be a dick to me because we're able to afford it?

Aiden,Jared&Olivia's momm 35 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 686 posts
18th Mar '13

Yup, I get it from some people too the "must be nice" and then a giant eye roll. It gets on my nerves really.

user banned California 36390 posts
18th Mar '13

No because I don't have any friends with kids that aren't SAHMs.

October2011 Due April 3; 1 child; Pennsylvania 6494 posts
18th Mar '13

If anyone acted like that to me i'd b***h out. lol. I never get out of the house. I dont have people to watch my son...so sometimes i think "it must be nice" to get out once in a while. I wouldnt have it any other way though...i like being the one to be with my son everyday.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Aiden,Jared&Olivia's momm:" Yup, I get it from some people too the "must be nice" and then a giant eye roll. It gets on my nerves really."


Same here! They act like all we do all day is sit on our asses and watch tv.
I am a full-time student ON TOP of staying home with my kids and taking care of everything around the house.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
18th Mar '13

That sucks. :(



I'm definitely jelly, but it's not right for your friends to treat you any differently because you are able to. <3

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
18th Mar '13

Yes!! It happens to me quite often or they say bad things about SAHMs in front of me. I call em out on it and they give me the typical "I wasn't talking about you" excuse lol. I don't let it get to me...very often.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
18th Mar '13

The few people I still talk to, when they ask to hang out and I say I'm busy they always say 'with what? Don't you just sit home all day'. Yeah that's all I do :roll:

Waiting on Sunshine 81 kids; Tuvalu 12346 posts
18th Mar '13

sahms are really common in my area. I just deal with more shock that no I'm not going to go back to my career.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting October2011:" If anyone acted like that to me i'd b***h out. lol. I never get out of the house. I dont have people ... [snip!] ... be nice" to get out once in a while. I wouldnt have it any other way though...i like being the one to be with my son everyday."


Agreed. I love being home with my children, being the one to see all of their milestones, teach them things, watch them grow. It's just nice to be here all the time. I plan on getting a job or something when they are all in school but until then I will enjoy everything around here :D

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting InkDMomma:" Same here! They act like all we do all day is sit on our asses and watch tv. I am a full-time student ON TOP of staying home with my kids and taking care of everything around the house."

I am to. That's why I hate that people act like I do nothing all day.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting The Doctor:" That sucks. :( I'm definitely jelly, but it's not right for your friends to treat you any differently because you are able to. <3"


DH works his ass off and they act like I put him on a pedestal and do whatever he says.
Well I kind of do... but what the f**k. He works his ass off every single f**king day of his life so we can have nice things, why wouldn't I?!
"you can't ever do anything because he's always working"
yeah? whats your f**king point?
We have our own house, own 2 cars, feed/clothe our children, and make our house look nice.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
18th Mar '13

I have a few friends who think DH and I are 'rich' because I don't work or because I was able to have a PT job and go to school before we had DS. They also seem to think that I have it really easy with DS because I'm married (I have DH to help me out). But, in reality they get more breaks than I do.

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27601 posts
18th Mar '13

Yep and when people get snippy I just say: Ok well maybe Ill go to work and you can handle the 5 drs, 3 therapist, countless ER trips and illnesses and meds on top of being a moody/loving 4 y/o. *shrugs* that usually shuts them up



But I also hate how Im the go to person to watch anyones kid. I mean yah sometimes I dont mind but they see it as Im just at home sitting on my ass so whats a few more kids? Uhgg >.<

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" I am to. That's why I hate that people act like I do nothing all day. "


They all think I'm "stupid" for going to school. WHY?! I want a degree and why not do it while I have some time, I mean I do not have TONS of down time but I have enough to be able to do 18 credit hours a semester without issue.