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Potty Training. I am really stressing out. Crystal Gulbranson Due October 3 (boy); 1 child; Ames, Iowa 61 posts
18th Mar '13

My 3 and 1/2 year old daughter refuses to poop in the toilet. No matter what I say or do she will not go in the toilet. I have even threatened to take all her favorite things away if she keeps pooping in her diaper. I have even told her that she is not gunna go to school next year if she keeps pooping in her diaper. I have even given her treats for potty and smiley stamps. I put underwear on her and she just poops in them. I am getting tired of cleaning her up every time she poops. She keeps saying that she wants to go to school and I keep telling her that she can't if she poops in her diaper cuz they will not let her. I even keep telling her that she is a big girl and big girls don't poop in there diaper and underwear, that they poop in the toilet. And I keep asking her if she wants to be like me and she says yes and I tell her that she needs to poop in the toilet. I have done everything. I have an almost 6 month old son and I am getting tired of dealing with two dirty diapers. I am bout ready to give up, I have done everything that I can think of.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
18th Mar '13

Stop pushing her she just isn't ready yet.

whitneynator 1 child; Iowa 4114 posts
18th Mar '13

I know it doesn't help, but my son isn't potty trained (he is almost 4 and autistic) and goes to school at the public school, and they change him.

firefighterswife2007 34 kids; California 3813 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Stop pushing her she just isn't ready yet."</blockquote>




This!

[Gryffinwhore♥] Due March 3; 34 kids; Poulsbo, Washington 32852 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Stop pushing her she just isn't ready yet."


:!:
Yup, this.
It can be frustrating, but each kid learns in their own time. And at that age, forcing it on her is only going to have the opposite effect. You should never punish a child for an accident. That's only going to make it worse.



Encourage her to use the potty and praise her when she does. Positive reinforcement is the key.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
18th Mar '13

im in same boat with jade...



she was soo proud of herself that she took her shitty diaper off and tossed it in trash, when i went to bathroom there was shit everywhere,
:(

Brity Brit 2 kids; Bedford, Pennsylvania 4844 posts
18th Mar '13

The more you push it the worse it going to get. But personally I wouldn't threaten my daughter I'm going to take her Favorite toys away because of it that's just mean.

chubbie2hubbie 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Wisconsin 86 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:</b>" :!: Yup, this. It can be frustrating, but each kid learns in their own time. And at that age, forcing ... [snip!] ... only going to make it worse. Encourage her to use the potty and praise her when she does. Positive reinforcement is the key. "</blockquote>



This!!

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Stop pushing her she just isn't ready yet."


:!::!::!:



That's it... there is no hidden agenda for a 3.5 year old... she's just not ready.



My oldest didn't fully potty train until a month before his 4th birthday. My youngest is 3.5 years old now and he won't poop on the potty either.



Yes it's frustrating as hell, but making them feel ashamed about it, is so wrong, IMO. The ball will drop soon & until then, it's not that hard to change a pair of undies.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
18th Mar '13

I disagree with everyone else. I would have the same approach. Keep her in undies. Don't go back and forth to diapers or pull ups. Tanner eventually hated the feeling of having shit in his undies. And I would supervise but make him help clean it up. It worked like a charm and he was fully trained by 2.5

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" I disagree with everyone else. I would have the same approach. Keep her in undies. Don't go back and ... [snip!] ... shit in his undies. And I would supervise but make him help clean it up. It worked like a charm and he was fully trained by 2.5"



Who said to take her back out of undies?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" I disagree with everyone else. I would have the same approach. Keep her in undies. Don't go back and ... [snip!] ... shit in his undies. And I would supervise but make him help clean it up. It worked like a charm and he was fully trained by 2.5"

Nobody said to take her out of her out of undies. Diapers and pull ups just cause more confusion. But punishing her for an accident isn't helping anything.

Crystal Gulbranson Due October 3 (boy); 1 child; Ames, Iowa 61 posts
26th Mar '13

Thanks everyone. I will stop what I am doing. I just don't know what I am going to do if she runs out of underwear. I don't have a washing machine. Thanks again. And I do praise her when she goes potty. I use positive reinforcement all the time too not just negative. But I will stop the negative.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
26th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Gulbranson:</b>" Thanks everyone. I will stop what I am doing. I just don't know what I am going to do if she runs out ... [snip!] ... praise her when she goes potty. I use positive reinforcement all the time too not just negative. But I will stop the negative. "</blockquote>




You can hand wash them and hang dry.

Crystal Gulbranson Due October 3 (boy); 1 child; Ames, Iowa 61 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Gulbranson:</b>" Thanks everyone. I will stop what I ... [snip!] ... all the time too not just negative. But I will stop the negative. "</blockquote> You can hand wash them and hang dry."


Yea I could do that. Thank you.