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this is going to sound bad but..... Serenla TTC since Mar 2013; 49 kids; Oroville, California 61 posts
18th Mar '13

if you are going to say i am a horrible person dont bother commenting i am just wondering if any one eles feels this way. i dont need any drama




I am freaking out about having another girl... we dont know what the sex is yet but i want a boy so bad.... SO wants a girl but wont mind if we have a boy but i feel like my heart would break if i had another girl... SO has two girls from his last marrage and we see them every saturday and i love them but i really want a boy. Does any one else feel this way

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
18th Mar '13

No.



I was generally just happy having a healthy baby.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
18th Mar '13

I think it's normal to be worried about gender disappointment. I wouldn't even let myself go there. I convinced myself I was having another boy so that I wouldn't be disappointed. Turns out I got my girl. It doesn't make you a bad person. You will love the baby no matter what.

Serenla TTC since Mar 2013; 49 kids; Oroville, California 61 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:" No. I was generally just happy having a healthy baby."

well the most important thing is that this baby is healthy and makes it to term. i just really want a son

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
18th Mar '13

Not bad at all....I cried when we found out our second was a boy. Like full on hormonal breakdown. Gender disappointment happens. And although your feel this way, even if you end up with another girl, you'll get over it and be happy. That's what happened to me lol

peekin3 Racine, Wisconsin 289 posts
18th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:</b>" No. I was generally just happy having a healthy baby."</blockquote>




!!

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
18th Mar '13

No. I was having a baby because I wanted a child not because I wanted a certain gender.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
18th Mar '13

We're not pregnant, but I want a girl next. I freak out at the thought of having another boy. I feel like DS is my only boy, I'm scared that I would treat a second boy differently...or I wouldn't know how to work it out. I can't really find the right words, but I understand.

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Serenla:" well the most important thing is that this baby is healthy and makes it to term. i just really want a son"


It's completely normal to want one sex more than the other.



Really no reason to freak about it though.

Laura [Syltherin] 3 kids; Florida 12072 posts
18th Mar '13

Yes.



With my first i wanted a boy so badly. I swore up and down it was a boy....even after the ultrasound. It took me about 2 months to accept that it was a girl. I literally cried and refused to talk about my pregnancy.



Looking back now, i feel silly. I'm crazy over Audrey but gender disappointment is a real thing.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
18th Mar '13

At first I wanted a girl. Had a name picked out and everything. Then I found out J was a boy. I was a little disappointed, but got over it.



I think it's completely normal to feel that way once you have one baby of a certain sex. As long as you are willing to love the baby regardless, of course.

La~La 4 kids; Houston, Texas 22034 posts
18th Mar '13
Quoting Serenla:" if you are going to say i am a horrible person dont bother commenting i am just wondering if any ... [snip!] ... from his last marrage and we see them every saturday and i love them but i really want a boy. Does any one else feel this way "


I almost cried when I found out I was having a third boy in a row. My BD sat there the entire gender scan laughing at me

Serenla TTC since Mar 2013; 49 kids; Oroville, California 61 posts
18th Mar '13

i know i will love this baby just as much as my DD, i already love my lil bean

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
18th Mar '13

I would not freak out but be disappointed if number three is a girl. I want at least one boy with my DH. my son is from my ex. My DH and I have a girl amd this next pregnancy may be my last so I understand what you are saying.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3308 posts
18th Mar '13

It's called gender disappointment and it is a very real, and normal, feeling. And yes, it will make you feel like shit. All I have ever wanted is a daughter... when I envisioned myself as a mommy, I only ever saw little girls. Well, I had a boy first. When pregnant with my second, I cried at the ultrasound when I was told it was another boy. Felt horrible about it. Third time around, I decided I wasn't going to find out the gender until birth because I was so scared of it being another boy. I actually had nightmares about not wanting to breastfeed, and not bonding with the baby if it was a boy. I had a third boy. I love him to absolute pieces, and we are going strong at 8.5 months with breastfeeding. Sometimes I still feel little twinges of disappointment when I realize I still don't have my baby girl, but my husband and I are going to try one more time in a couple years and we're going to try the Shettles Method for getting a girl. Point is, you will love your baby and you shouldn't feel guilty over a normal feeling.