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How to forget again Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
19th Mar '13

Last week, my mom and I were going over her divorce papers when she divorced my ex stepdad [she is getting married to her long time boyfriend in 2 weeks]... and I had forgotten a lot, and blocked out a lot of memories that happened during the year and a half of off and on living in maryland. I started getting so pissed off at her when reading it. And then I started having flashbacks of things. I was so pissed off at my mom because she didnt leave even when I was suicidal and cutting myself [at 12 - 13!!!], she told me to keep quiet about it because she feared what he might do to me if he found out. I made up so many lies and different stories to get the school involved.. it finally worked but not after I got in some serious trouble with both of them.



I had thought I had put all of that shit behind me. And forgiven my mom.. but it makes me pissed off. How do you forget all about that?

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
19th Mar '13

You don't. At least I don't think you do. You just learn how to live with it. I'm glad your mom finally did mom on though, and hopefully you are all happy with her new relationship.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
19th Mar '13
Quoting Supercalifragil.......:" You don't. At least I don't think you do. You just learn how to live with it. I'm glad your mom finally did mom on though, and hopefully you are all happy with her new relationship. "


Well... she was a shitty mom up until I had my son.. But yeah. I love her new boyfriend. They have been together 8 years now. lol. He treats her better than both my ex stepdad and my dad combined.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
19th Mar '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Well... she was a shitty mom up until I had my son.. But yeah. I love her new boyfriend. They have been together 8 years now. lol. He treats her better than both my ex stepdad and my dad combined. "


I'm sorry about that. Sounds similar to my DH's mom. So I have an idea of how hard it must be to let go of all the memories and stuff. I am glad for both of you though, that you get along with her now boyfriend and that she canged. Better late then never right?

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
19th Mar '13

I don't think you really can. The best thing I can suggest is going to talk to someone about it. Therapy or counseling, to work through the issues you forgot about and tried to move on from it.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
19th Mar '13
Quoting Supercalifragil.......:" I'm sorry about that. Sounds similar to my DH's mom. So I have an idea of how hard it must be to let ... [snip!] ... I am glad for both of you though, that you get along with her now boyfriend and that she canged. Better late then never right?"


Yeah.. That is true. My mom may hate the fact that I got pregnant at 19.. but it was good for our relationship.