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Anja[VBA2C GRADx2!] 5 kids; Illinois 3576 posts
20th Mar '13

My dad was there for the birth of my first child (as I was a minor , he was my only parent that cared, it was scary, blah blah blah) . They even let him stay with me during the c-section and make sure I was alright during it. I felt like it was a great thing because he really helped me feel less nervous about it all. He also was there during my recovery and stayed with me like entire time we were in the hospital. Dad was the best pillow propper lol. My dad's like my best friend in my life, that might sound pathetic, but we helped each other get through my mother's drug addiction so he's a comforting person to me.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26776 posts
status 20th Mar '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Then why would it not be okay? My dad did my sister's b**b job. Not necessarily a childbirth kind ... [snip!] ... daughter's nudity would be for sexual reasons, which of course would not be an issue for a healthy person/healthy relationship."


Exactly. I don't get the comments of it not being appropriate, or it being weird. It's just a body. Honestly, your family should be the FIRST people in the world are comfortable with being around naked.



My family and I have NO issues with nudity. My Mom can walk in while I take a shower (clear shower walls) and I don't care. My child walks around naked and really can't stand clothes. I used to walk around nude, the cops once thought I was being molested as a child because of it. I just liked being nude. All throughout highschool I wore just boxers and a bra in front of my stepdad. Once he was gone? Those clothes were off and I was down to undies/boxers in front of my Mom. Even as an adult. My sister can come over and change in front of me and I dont care.



I just don't get how a simple human body in a non-sexual setting is weird... it's family. Seriously... just... how is that not appropriate?

Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2568 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Exactly. I don't get the comments of it not being appropriate, or it being weird. It's just a body. ... [snip!] ... get how a simple human body in a non-sexual setting is weird... it's family. Seriously... just... how is that not appropriate?"


I don't really get it, either. I mean..he's my dad..he helped raise me from birth and we have a good/healthy relationship. Now I don't walk around in my bar and underwear in front of him or anything, but I do with my mom. I just don't see the big deal at all. The human body has been made out to be this sexual thing that's supposed to be covered up at all times. It's just a body, that's it.



And if I had been able to breastfeed I would have no issue doing it in front of anybody in my family, even the males.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26776 posts
status 20th Mar '13
Quoting CaityCakes:" I don't really get it, either. I mean..he's my dad..he helped raise me from birth and we have a good/healthy ... [snip!] ... it. And if I had been able to breastfeed I would have no issue doing it in front of anybody in my family, even the males. "


Yeah I covered up for the first week then I said f**k it and breastfed in front of everyone, lol.



I walk around in a sports bra all the time. I walk around in boxers all the time. I dont care.



The other day I had to have my stepdad and Mom feel to see if I wasnt imagining this bump on my pelvis (I have some medical problems). They felt my lower groin area and I had no issue. When I needed help cleaning up my csection incision and my other abdomen surgery my parents helped. It's family. Nothing more, nothing less.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
20th Mar '13

I wouldn't have cared if my dad was but he had walked in while I was having an internal exam done and it bothered him so he stayed out. He was physically in the hospital when I gave birth for the first time.

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5352 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CaityCakes:</b>" Ha, I wanted to, I was just so taken back that she would say something like that."</blockquote>




You should have lol I just don't understand people's issue with it. Sure if they are personally uncomfortable with it then that is fine but to assume it is weird for other people too is just stupid. If a person is thinking it is odd for a man to see the beautiful birth of his grandchild then IMO it is the person thinking that who has sole kind of weird perverse issues going on :?

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5352 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" An infant's vagina is definitely different than a woman's vagina, and I made it clear in my initial ... [snip!] ... that I see no reason for it...when you are an infant and need your diaper changed, then that becomes a reason for it to happen."</blockquote>




There is a reason for it, to be there to see his Grandchild come into the World. You have repeatedly stated the issue with it is he is seeing this grown woman's vagina, you have called it inappropriate and weird and I have asked you to explain why you think it's wrong and to give a reason that has nothing to do with thinking of it in a perverse way as you claim it isn't for those reasons you don't agree with it. You completely ignored that even though you were conversing fine prior, over and over again all you can talk about is a Father seeing his grown daughter's vagina, you are completely fixated on her vagina. You seem to think there is something sexual about a Father being there for the birth of his Grandchild, it is perverse.

Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2568 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting xTJ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting CaityCakes:</b>" Ha, I wanted to, I was just so taken back ... [snip!] ... birth of his grandchild then IMO it is the person thinking that who has sole kind of weird perverse issues going on :?"


I definitely understand being uncomfortable with it, especially if they aren't close with their dads. But to say that it's "wrong" just implies that giving birth is somehow a sexual situation. It's just silly.

TrixieGirl Due July 4; 1 child; Maryland 1175 posts
20th Mar '13

I dont think its "weird" but it is not something that I would ever do. When my son was born I only had my husband in the room with me and I demanded that he stay up by my head and not see what was going on. I am very modest, not to say that people who have other family members in the room are not modest but for me, having that much of my body exposed during such a difficult time did not make me comfortable. I can't say that I understand the appeal of having parents and friends or other family members in the deliver room but I dont think that people are weird for doing it. To each their own. I would also never say something like that to a friend and put down their birth story.

Freespirit Due August 29; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Michigan 3415 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Allys_mommy:</b>" I wouldnt want my father in the delivery room and we are very close i had a c section anyways so it was ... [snip!] ... been my mother also. But I dont think its weird to have him in there. It s about what you want and what makes you comfortable"</blockquote>




This!

michele is expecting Due October 28 (boy); New York, New York 319 posts
20th Mar '13

i know right cause mine want to be in my room

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5352 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting CaityCakes:</b>" I definitely understand being uncomfortable with it, especially if they aren't close with their dads. ... [snip!] ... with their dads. But to say that it's "wrong" just implies that giving birth is somehow a sexual situation. It's just silly. "</blockquote>




Yes absolutely, it is all down to what individuals are comfortable with and that is their personal choice. However to project your personal feelings onto another's individual, beautiful experience they are sharing with their family and imply that it is wrong and be fixated solely on the idea that the Father of the woman giving birth is there to look at her vagina is completely perverse and shows the person thinking that has some really sick ideas going on their head. To take a special shared moment like that and make into something sexual, yes the person with those thoughts must have some really sick things going on in their head :?

♛Queen Boo♛ 2 kids; United Kingdom 2526 posts
20th Mar '13

I could never do it but it's up to each person. I don't have a close relationship with my father though so my mum was with me!

BrittanieY 18 kids; South Carolina 16634 posts
20th Mar '13

I could have had a marching band in the room while I was pushing and I would not have cared. I'm not keeping top secret information down there. Just my vagina and the occasional kid.



My Dad would not be in the room because he's super iffy on that sort of thing. In fact, if you want to see him make this face: :? just say the word nipple...I do it for fun just to freak him out sometimes :lol:.



However, I have nursed babies in the room with him and he did not say a thing or even blush; that's pretty big for my Dad.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting xTJ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:</b>" An infant's vagina is definitely ... [snip!] ... vagina. You seem to think there is something sexual about a Father being there for the birth of his Grandchild, it is perverse."


I have stated over and over my reasoning, and it has nothing to do with any perversions. You are the one fixated on it being perverse. I stopped responding to you because you keep asking me the same question, and my answer does not change.