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Buckeye Due August 13; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Mt Gilead, Ohio 882 posts
20th Mar '13

I agree with most of the others. I see nothing but trouble also. How could you stand knowing your husband is having sex and getting more pleasure from someone that is not you. I am way to jelous of a person. My man is mine an know one elses that is psrt of what makes marriage special. The commitnent to forgo all other and cling to each other. If you are having sexual issues bring someone else in will only make it worse as you are not solving the underlying issue(your lack of interest). What if this person and your husband decide to leave you out forever.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 44925 posts
status 20th Mar '13
Quoting Mom-moo:" There was a news report recently about a love triangle gone wrong. A married couple brought a woman into ... [snip!] ... killed them. Not that that would happen in your case, but I don't think it's a good idea to have that kind of relationship."


Ridiculous.



For every one of these stories, there are thousands that work out wonderfully.



That's like saying that because a husband murdered his wife, no one should get married.

user banned California 36390 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."


Your DH sounds like a great guy.

user banned Due November 7; 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."


Then tell him to rub one off.
That is not a good reason to open your relationship.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."

If he says it's OK, I am sure he means that. I agree with others that you should wait until you have the baby and can be active yourself.

TmA's mommy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" There is nothing wrong with being polyamarous! Don't listen to all these judgmental women. If this is something you both really want, talk about it. The hard part is finding the third person."


I think I will just wait till after the pregnancy and talk to him about it. I would at least like a t*******e at some point.

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
20th Mar '13

would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious...

TmA's mommy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Your DH sounds like a great guy. "


Hes a really great guy, I am very lucky to have someone so understanding.

user banned California 36390 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting #3dueOct*11weeks*:" would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious..."


Why does that matter?

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Ridiculous. For every one of these stories, there are thousands that work out wonderfully. That's like saying that because a husband murdered his wife, no one should get married."</blockquote>



I didn't say that's why she shouldnt do it. It just reminded me of a freaky story. I highly doubt it would go horribly wrong like that. I just don't think it would go over well, jealousy issues and such. But if it works for people, then awesome.

Kylie's👣Mommy. 1 child; Texas 3379 posts
20th Mar '13

Don't do it!!! We did it and it almost caused a divorce. He wasnt the jealous type at all. And now he is. It's not worth it.

TmA's mommy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting #3dueOct*11weeks*:" would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious..."


I would never ask because I have zero desire to be with another man. He did ask once if I would ever give oral to another man and I let him know that would never happen.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."</blockquote>



I'm high risk and haven't had sex since August. 2 weeks after DH got back from a deployment with 8 months of no sex.



Neither of us are terribly upset about lack of sex and we both have VERY high sex drives.

LayLu 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
20th Mar '13

If you have any sort of doubt in your mind (and it sounds like you do), you shouldn't do it.

Kiki's Mommy Due November 10; 1 child; Montana 3528 posts
20th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" My husband has never said anything about needing someone else. I am actually the one who brought it ... [snip!] ... and I don't want to give him oral or even a h*****b. But now reading responses I am seeing that its probably a really bad idea."</blockquote>



First never try to push another women in your husband. Do not let the guilt of not being able to give your husband sex drive you to something k**e that. I was guilty too...but think of it this way you are sacrificing so much to hace his child....it's fair for him to have to sacrifice too. . If you are the interested party wait until you can enjoy the benifits of a relationship with another women. Not my style and i fear it would negatively effect a relationship but it's not a bad thing....