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usernametx Texas 19750 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" My husband has never said anything about needing someone else. I am actually the one who brought it ... [snip!] ... and I don't want to give him oral or even a handjob. But now reading responses I am seeing that its probably a really bad idea."


I was meaning more that it seems to be coming from low esteem from you, and that if you realized you should be and are enough then you might feel differently.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" I was meaning more that it seems to be coming from low esteem from you, and that if you realized you should be and are enough then you might feel differently."


It really isn't a self esteem issue. It is something I have wanted for a while, I was the one who brought it up to my husband and at first he wasn't too sure about it. I have not said anything to him about it lately but I had just been thinking that it is something that I want anyways and maybe now would be a good time since I am not really interested in having sex right now and he wouldn't have to go without sex and I wouldn't feel bad for not giving it to him. I know I am enough for him and he would be fine going without sex for as long as it took for me to decide I wanted it again.

one of each 4 me Due January 8; TTC since Mar 2014; 3 kids; Ohio 6210 posts
22nd Mar '13

Since u r feeling like this is something that needs to happen because of your pregnancy then I would not say its the right time. Later on you might resent him for it because you are pregnant an not feeling good or whatever and he was still able to act like things were before if that makes sense. Or you might worry that she was doing things better or you might get jealous bc you don't want to have sex and feel she is giving him something you can't.
I am not against multiple ppl in a relationship. I could never do it but right now just seems like a bad time IMO

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
22nd Mar '13

I've always wanted to include another woman but I know I wouldn't be able to do it with my SO. I love him too much and I know I'd get way too jealous, I also know he'd probably wonder if I wanted a woman more than him (I dated women before I met him so he's always been a little insecure about me leaving him for another woman, but I never would). There's just too many things that could go wrong.. I'd rather just go without than live out a fantasy and ruin my relationship with the man I love.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting one of each 4 me:" Since u r feeling like this is something that needs to happen because of your pregnancy then I would ... [snip!] ... you can't. I am not against multiple ppl in a relationship. I could never do it but right now just seems like a bad time IMO"


Yeah, I agree now after really thinking about it that it is a bad time. It could get ugly with all my crazy pregnancy hormones.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" I've always wanted to include another woman but I know I wouldn't be able to do it with my SO. I love ... [snip!] ... things that could go wrong.. I'd rather just go without than live out a fantasy and ruin my relationship with the man I love."</blockquote>



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