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Why does that bother me? Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5551 posts
20th Mar '13

I never bitch about SO because he's pretty great but there's one thing that kind of bothers me about him and it's the fact that he's not really a jealous guy at all. How stupid is that? I'm not really too much of a jealous girlfriend either but this dude just doesn't get jealous. Is that weird? I asked him why he's like that and he said he used to be a really jealous guy in previous relationships and it's always bit him in the ass. He said if I wanted to cheat on him, I would do it whether he was some jealous asshole or not. I guess it just makes me feel bad like he's "not afraid to lose me". I'm being stupid, aren't I?



Leave it to me to have a perfectly good SO after all my shitty ones and still be nitpicking.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
20th Mar '13

Yes you're being silly. He trusts you. Trust is a good thing in a relationship. Be happy! Lol.

Elle&Cole 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 23215 posts
20th Mar '13

No I totally understand- joe is like that too. I've decided it's a blessing...but in college I used to wish he would have cared a little more what I was doing ya know? But it's because he trusts me. I in the other hand- used to be a jealous biddy

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5551 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" Yes you're being silly. He trusts you. Trust is a good thing in a relationship. Be happy! Lol. "


Right?! I am definitely crazy sometimes.

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5551 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" No I totally understand- joe is like that too. I've decided it's a blessing...but in college I used to ... [snip!] ... cared a little more what I was doing ya know? But it's because he trusts me. I in the other hand- used to be a jealous biddy"


Same. Not really with Dave, but with asshole BD. Except when SO's ex kept trying to contact him saying they still had a "connection" and was saying a bunch of shit about him on stupid twitter. Then I turned into Satan. :evil::twisted:

jo-jo 2 kids; ..., SA, Australia 2304 posts
20th Mar '13

I totaly get what he is saying because that is kind of what I am like. My dh thinks I dont care because I dont get all bitchy when girls talk to him etc, but I trust him, if he ever gets to the point where he wants to mess with what we have nothing will stop him as it will mean (to me) that he is beyond caring.
As your so said if someone is going to cheat on you they will do it with or with out you being jelous.
My dh is crazy jelous and it kind of puts me off lol.

Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5551 posts
20th Mar '13
Quoting jo-jo:" I totaly get what he is saying because that is kind of what I am like. My dh thinks I dont care because ... [snip!] ... going to cheat on you they will do it with or with out you being jelous. My dh is crazy jelous and it kind of puts me off lol."


That's how my ex was. It drove me nuts.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5786 posts
20th Mar '13

When i was with my previous SO, i have him everything i had and fell head over feet in love with him. I thought we were perfect together even though it was very clear we were not and in the end? I found out he cheated on me with 7 different girls. Since then, i swore that I'd never fully give myself to someone. Now current SO, I've been with for 3 years and even he knows that he doesn't have "all" of me. I'm not talking about physically i mean obviously I'm only physically with him but mentally i refuse to give him so much of me that if anything happened between us, I'd feel broken.
Which overall means, i don't get jealous at all and i don't take things to heart. He left me in the summer time and called off our engagement. It hurt but i went out and met someone new. I don't know if that's how it is for him but i had my heart broken and refuse to let it happen again.
It doesn't mean I'm not afraid of losing SO, just that IF he for whatever reason left, i wouldn't struggle trying to put myself back together.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
21st Mar '13

My fiance's the same way.. he's super laid back, doesn't like confrontation and isn't jealous at ALL. Sometimes I just wanna know he'd beat a guy's ass for trying something with me, ya know? I mean.. I love the man to death, I feel safe with him and I'm glad he's not crazy jealous (I've dated those before and trust me, they're no fun), I just wanna know he's willing to protect what's his, I guess. So.. I get where you're coming from, but trust me, it's better that they're not jealous at all than be one of those crazy assholes who always thinks you're talking to some other guy or you're going to hook up with someone behind his back..