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hurt... justsotired2013 Japan 66 posts
21st Mar '13

Hubby and i split for a year and a half in that time we had both moved on i had a baby with someone else and his now ex gf is pregnant.... he broke up with her over almost 2 months ago hooked up with a chick from work within 2 weeks the girl co signed for a truck for him but he dumped her for me amd we are now buying a house together and he had done everything i asked of him so far..... last week i asked if the chick at work has tried ti contact him he said no... well something seemed off to me so later that night.i checked his phone something i hadn't done since we had been back together amd sure enough she had text the day prior had he gotten off work yet he said finally she said ok ill see ya later the next day she text him saying get off the phone... he was on the phone with me and he text her back where are you... he has been very guarded of his phone the past couple days and acting off he says he is just tired which yes he works 12hr days and he has had pneumonia... looked in his phone this morning and he had called her saturday 24 seconds.... i already told him the other day if i find out he has been talking to her she will have a very bad day! I have her address and i told him what i would do i also have her.number..... i will not lose my family again! Im just really hurand pissed he would go through all the trouble of getting me back and do this to me... do i say something to her? She hooked up with him knowing he lived with his pregnant gf has a wife and 4 kids with 1 on the way. What kind of person does that?? Leaving is not an option i refuse to go back to my parents. I love him and have fought hard to get him back i cant lose him again. I know i may sound like a dumbass to some of you but love makes you do crazy things.... i know he hasnt done anything with her i have our only vehicle and when he isnt working he is with me... they dont text or talk once he is off work that i know of unless he deletes msgs... which i did make sure he knew i saw the msgs. Anyone with an iphonr knows when you click on a conversation and hit the button to the main screen that conversation will pop up next time you click your msgs.... please no harsh judgement...

Zeke's Mama Due September 26; 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5159 posts
status 21st Mar '13

Wait...did they or didn't they hook up? You said they did but then you said he didn't do anything with her...

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
21st Mar '13

If he's having contact with her, why is SHE the only one to have a very bad day? Your hubby sounds like a real winner there. It seems like he is honestly going to keep this up. You have to decide what you will and won't put up with. If your husband talking to other women and being with them is something you will put up with simply because you refuse to move back with your parents and you "fought so hard to get him back" then that's on you.



You should never have to fight to get someone back. Either they want to be with you, and so they will...or they don't really want to be with you in the first place.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
21st Mar '13

lol @ "no harsh comments" This sounds like a pattern for him, so you should not be surprised about his lying. Also, don't be surprised when he actually cheats again, because it will happen. If i were you, i would save up your own money till you can move out on your own and leave his ass, or just have an open relationship and that way he won't have to keep lying to you. Good luck girl!

......................... Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
21st Mar '13

Don't be pissed off at her. He's the one messing up and honestly you're a fool for getting back with him. He used his co workers and now he's using you.



Good luck with your "relationship"... if that's what you even want to call it.

justsotired2013 Japan 66 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zeke's Mama:</b>" Wait...did they or didn't they hook up? You said they did but then you said he didn't do anything with her..."</blockquote>




They had hooked up before but i know he hasnt done anything with her since we have been back together....

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 429 posts
21st Mar '13

Im sorry you are going threw all this bs with him. I guess I would bw pissed at the girl I hate that type of girl but you should be more pissed off at him. Where does he work at? How do you know they arent haveinf sex at work or on lunch. My husband works in the plants and he says married people are cheated at work in those nasty port a potties nasty right. Good luck but deep sdown you already know what ur going to have to do. Why would you have to move back with ur parents? If yall have a house and are still married then im sure when you go to get a divorce the judge will give u the house and child support and alimony would pay most of the note.

justsotired2013 Japan 66 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommakatof3:</b>" Im sorry you are going threw all this bs with him. I guess I would bw pissed at the girl I hate that ... [snip!] ... im sure when you go to get a divorce the judge will give u the house and child support and alimony would pay most of the note."</blockquote>



Im with him at lunch everyday and he calls me every break... i cant afford to live on my own not even with child support. I make too much money for assistance though go figure... i pay almost $1000 a month in daycare so i make enough to pay daycare van insurance and cell phone thats it... he is also going to be changing his phone over to my line so i can block her #. And dont get me wrong yes im super pissed at the girl but i am equally pissed at him. Im sure he told her some bs just like he told her he was dumping her because i was making him choose between her and his daughter which my fault i told him to say it... this is the life i chose... i guess i just needed to vent... i already know how all this looks and sounds... it is a pattern with him... he was always different with me but it looks as though im not anymore... how can you sit there and lie right in your wifes face and be able to look yourself in the mirror everyday :(

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 429 posts
21st Mar '13

Im sorry. Have you sat down and really really talk to him I mean no kids nothing going on. Just you and him like siting across from eachother without anything to distract yall. Let him no ur concerns and ask him whats going on with him. Maybe take the kids to ur parents or inlaws for the weekend and yall spend time together just yall. Sometimes me and my husband get stressed out and start fighting and we step back and have some us time and we feel a whole lot better

justsotired2013 Japan 66 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommakatof3:</b>" Im sorry. Have you sat down and really really talk to him I mean no kids nothing going on. Just you and ... [snip!] ... me and my husband get stressed out and start fighting and we step back and have some us time and we feel a whole lot better"</blockquote>




I have asked him if anything is going on that he doesnt feel he can talk to me about... keep stressing the honesty thing and he just says he is tired and not feeling good nothing is going on... i was gonna try to find a babysitter thid weekend....
I cant let him know i had gone through his phone... believe me i want to tell him so bad and ask him why!! I keep hoping she will text or call while im sittung next to him...

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting justsotired2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommakatof3:</b>" Im sorry. Have you sat down and really really ... [snip!] ... believe me i want to tell him so bad and ask him why!! I keep hoping she will text or call while im sittung next to him..."


Why can't you tell him you've gone through his phone? You say you keep stressing honesty, but by not telling what you did, you're not being 100% honest either. If you are hiding this, and knowing he's hiding something, too, you are not going to get ahead or be able to move on. Honesty is telling both the good and the bad, and it goes both ways.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 14995 posts
21st Mar '13

What do you mean, what kind of person does that? She's not the one who made a commitment here, your Husband is. Why on earth would you get back together with him and make a big decision such as buying a house together when you don't even trust the man?

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 429 posts
21st Mar '13

I dont think she will be stupid enough to do that. Why cant you let him know u looked at his cell? He shouldnt care unless he has sonething to hide. Guess make up something say you was looking for a number or sonething cuz you deleted on ur cell some how and his cell was already on his text and yous seen old girls name and couldnt help ur self at that point. Dont think ur ever gonna move on with out it coming out in open. Im a very jealous person and my husband knows it but he tells me I have nothing to worry about. But I tell him if I ever act like I dont care then you should be worried I dont share and never will he will be gone first. You have to know that you deserve better every women deserves someone to love them and to be there.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
21st Mar '13

Why the hell are you even with this loser? :?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15205 posts
21st Mar '13

You need to wise the f**k up.



He left you.



Knocked someone up.



Left her.



Got someone to get him a truck.



Left her.



Then got back with you and got a house.



Now he's cheating on you with his exes.



He's a user. He uses people for whatever he can get out of them and then leaves. He does not love you. He does not love anyone. You do not have a family with this man. This is not what family is and I sincerely hope you're not teaching this to your child.



You don't love him, you're just desperate and horrified of being along for any period of time.



Love isn't having to check someone's phone or having to deal with infidelity.



Get your shit together and find your self worth. Have a little respect for yourself. And stop allowing your child to learn from this kind of stupid.