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user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Pusherman:" I need to look into life insurance. I talked to my husband about it but he thinks it's stupid. I think he's stupid for not considering it. :P"


Ours only pays out for accidental death, so he never takes all those threats to kill him seriously :P

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31619 posts
status 21st Mar '13

Not only should they hold a job, they should complete their education (if possible). But if they don't that's fine too b/c it is their life & they'll have to deal with what happens if 1) husband leaves or she wants to leave 2) dies or whatever unforseen incident occurs
I am fond of planning for the worst and being able to stand on your own two feet. If my Dh passes away, I know I can take care of us & not just from a life insurance policy. I think it is very important to be independent and self reliant.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
21st Mar '13

I have a question for those who say that women should have had a job before having a child in case hubby leaves or dies. Do you also think that her job experience should be one that pays enough to support the family by herself? Because it seems pointless if not. I'm a hairstylist and I couldn't support my family on my own if something ever happened. If DH died, I would have to get an entirely new career that could support us, and I wouldn't have any experience in that field. It would be just like not having had a job because it wouldn't be relevant work experience, which is what employers look for. If you feel that's the case, though, then that would seriously limit who would be able to TTC.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31619 posts
status 21st Mar '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" I have a question for those who say that women should have had a job before having a child in case hubby ... [snip!] ... is what employers look for. If you feel that's the case, though, then that would seriously limit who would be able to TTC."


You would need an insurance policy to suppliment for the gap in pay or you'd have to make a lifestyle change. Plenty of people are hair stylists and can support their families on that income.
Not everyone can make what their spouse does, though. I have the capability in my career to exceed his income, but I don't rely on that aspect of my earnings.
My job is unique b/c I am salaried as well as an independent contractor that recieves commissions.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108810 posts
status 21st Mar '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" I need to look into life insurance. I talked ... [snip!] ... we don't want to have it anymore, like when the kids go to college, we can borrow against it or cash out what we have put in."

It is a good safety net to have.

CountingBlue+3 3 kids; Bridgeton, MO, United States 3551 posts
21st Mar '13

I don't think it should be mandatory that a woman needs to have a job before having kids, but some education past high school seems like a good idea to me. Even a class or so at a time. It adds up eventually, and even without work experience, at least you wouldn't be without a degree/some higher education and only eligible for lower paying jobs. Although I know there are people who don't have degrees and make more money than those that have them...
I make more money than my husband, not a lot, but more, and if something happened to him, I would be fine on my own. It is not something that I think of all the time, but I feel better knowing I would be able to take care of my kids alone, if needed.

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 13472 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I think it is extremely important for a woman to have skills. While I don't necessarily think it has ... [snip!] ... think a woman is dumb if she doesn't want to ensure she has something to fall back on. ETA: Be it education, job skills, etc."</blockquote>




Nailed it.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
21st Mar '13

I am not judging anyone but if you are truly disabled how on earth can you take care of a child. I work an office job and it is much easier than taking care of a small child. Plus we have people working here in wheelchairs and who can barely walk working full time! Makes no sense why you can have a kid and do active things with a kid and can't work....

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Mar '13

Yeah. I think so. And I'm also going to go on a limb and say that being a mom doesn't count. It's not a job, it's not a marketable skill unless you're a nanny, doing daycare, etc.



All women need a skill set that doesn't include breeding.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Susan Schultz:" I am not judging anyone but if you are truly disabled how on earth can you take care of a child. I work ... [snip!] ... who can barely walk working full time! Makes no sense why you can have a kid and do active things with a kid and can't work...."

I don't get it either.



Especially when it comes to "disabled" women who claim being a mom is the "hardest job ever." well i being an SAHM is so damn hard, why are you too "disabled" to do an easier job?

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" so if a woman gets pregnant unplanned while young (while in school) they have to abort??? i had my first ... [snip!] ... my oldest was born (i was 15) im just curious if this includes teens who end up pregnant or just women who are older (over 18)"


they shouldn't be made to, but clearly it's the best idea.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31619 posts
status 21st Mar '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I don't get it either. Especially when it comes to "disabled" women who claim being a mom is the "hardest ... [snip!] ... being a mom is the "hardest job ever." well i being an SAHM is so damn hard, why are you too "disabled" to do an easier job?"


Easy..they want that disability check so they can stay home.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Destinite:" Easy..they want that disability check so they can stay home."


I could respect someone who could just admit that more than the whole bullshit, "Oh, well I'm too depressed to work/I have a bad knee"...etc. Just own up to being lazy.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31619 posts
status 21st Mar '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I could respect someone who could just admit that more than the whole bullshit, "Oh, well I'm too depressed to work/I have a bad knee"...etc. Just own up to being lazy. "


Pretty much. I can appreciate honesty. lol



Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108810 posts
status 21st Mar '13

I can see it from both sides.

If you are only in the market for flipping burgers or cashiering, it's not going to help you get a job that will support your family.
Education and/or specialized experience is what is needed to be attractive in the workplace today and to obtain a decent rate of pay.

But I do think every woman should have a skill to be self supportive.