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So his pedi thinks I'm nuts Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
21st Mar '13

At Connor's 15 month check up yesterday, I told the Dr. that his biting has gotten out of control. He asked what I do when he bites. When I told him that I've been making him bite down on his own fingers the last couple times he bit Cullen, he looked at me like I just told him I beat my kid with a belt. He said that I should tell him "don't bite" and then put him in his crib for a minute and a half. When he REALLY wants to get out of his crib, he will. And then he'll get hurt. Ok, a timeout MIGHT work. But IF it does, it's going to be a very slow fix. And what would you have me tell my 2 year old about his little brothers behavior while he's getting bitten up to 10 times a day? "Just be patient"? Cuz we all know that patience is something 2 year olds are famous for. *eye roll* Sorry Doc. I need to correct this behavior BEFORE Connor takes a chunk out of Cullen's arm!!! And would you believe he didn't bite ONCE yesterday, after he bit his own fingers only twice the day before?? Hmmm.

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Mar '13

Tbh you sound kind of nuts. No good doctor is going to recommend you physically hurting your child as punishment.

Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Tbh you sound kind of nuts. No good doctor is going to recommend you physically hurting your child as punishment."


But he would recommend that I let my 2 year old continue to get hurt. A 15 month old will not comprehend a timeout. It will take too long for that to work. And he draws blood.

nothing to see Due August 21 (boy); 2 kids; Japan 602 posts
21st Mar '13

i would have had the same reaction has his pedi.
i know having two kids is not easy but this is a little extreme.

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
21st Mar '13

You don't do time outs in their bed anyway. Makes them think it is a bad place and then they won't want to sleep in it.



When DD was little she bit,one day I went to bite her back (just playing) and I accidently bit her a little hard. It was a total accident and I felt horrible,but she never bit again.

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
21st Mar '13

Most pedis recommend redirection over anything else
Which doesn't work for some toddlers,if what you're doing is working then continue doing it. As long as you're not abusing him of course

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18778 posts
21st Mar '13

I guess I can't visualize how you make a 15 month old bite their own fingers either. If they can't rationalize why they shouldn't bite at that age, they probably won't follow a dimple instruction to bite themselves.



But if he isn't hurt and it works, *shrugs* I can understand why your doc would think that's a bit odd though because there is no way my son who turned one in January would willingly bite himself for punishment unless you forced his hand in his mouth or something nuts.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Tbh you sound kind of nuts. No good doctor is going to recommend you physically hurting your child as punishment."


:!: So if he starts punching his brother are you going to make him punch himself?

Nicole Mclovin 3 kids; Colorado 2784 posts
21st Mar '13

I don't think your nuts. Your son need to learn it hurts. Currently going through the same thing with my 14month old

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; South Land, CA, United States 116861 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Tbh you sound kind of nuts. No good doctor is going to recommend you physically hurting your child as punishment."


Agreed

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20282 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" But he would recommend that I let my 2 year old continue to get hurt. A 15 month old will not comprehend a timeout. It will take too long for that to work. And he draws blood."


I mean, honestly he's a medical professional. He can't really recommend you letting your kid physically hurt himself over recommending something like redirection. However, if it works for your kid then it works. Not every child takes to redirection, just like physical punishment (not always a spanking) does not work for every child either.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" But he would recommend that I let my 2 year old continue to get hurt. A 15 month old will not comprehend a timeout. It will take too long for that to work. And he draws blood."


Time outs in their bed is terrible suggestion!

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" But he would recommend that I let my 2 year old continue to get hurt. A 15 month old will not comprehend a timeout. It will take too long for that to work. And he draws blood."</blockquote>




Or you could keep them seperated and do time outs. They'll work eventually

Amber Mosher 1 child; Rochelle, Illinois 1860 posts
21st Mar '13

When my step-daughter was in her biting phase, she bit the hard part of my knee.....and never bit anyone again. I didn't punish her, except to stand her in front of me and tell me that she was sorry. Once she did that, I had her give me a hug and all was well.

.free. 2 kids; Arkansas 36040 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Tbh you sound kind of nuts. No good doctor is going to recommend you physically hurting your child as punishment."

:!:
At 15 months they are still practically babies...He doesn't understand why you're making him inflict pain on himself, that's ridiculous.



Redirection, and stick with it.