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Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" Yeah, because I also work. I'm not with them 24/7. My husband watches them, my mom watches them, my ... [snip!] ... and a 7 year old. I have a house to clean, homework to do and other stuff. I can't sit in their room with them ALL THE TIME."


Wow.....

HappyMomTo2 2 kids; Maine 360 posts
21st Mar '13

6. Don't bite back. "But the child needs to learn that biting hurts," you may reason. Yes, but there's no way your child will decide that she shouldn't bite if you bite. Try this alternative tooth-for-tooth method: Take your child aside and ask her to let you show her how teeth feel on skin. Press your child's forearm against her upper teeth as if she were biting herself, not in an angry revengeful way, but as a parent making a point, "See, biting hurts!" Give this lesson immediately after he bites you or someone else. You want your child to learn to be sensitive to how others feel

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" Yeah, because I also work. I'm not with them 24/7. My husband watches them, my mom watches them, my ... [snip!] ... and a 7 year old. I have a house to clean, homework to do and other stuff. I can't sit in their room with them ALL THE TIME."


Stop letting them play in the room, have them play where you are...

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" Yeah, because I also work. I'm not with them 24/7. My husband watches them, my mom watches them, my ... [snip!] ... and a 7 year old. I have a house to clean, homework to do and other stuff. I can't sit in their room with them ALL THE TIME."</blockquote>




Can they play wherever you are? Or whoever is watching them?

Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting HappyAndPregnant:" 6. Don't bite back. "But the child needs to learn that biting hurts," you may reason. Yes, but there's ... [snip!] ... in empathy. http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipline-behavior/bothersome-behaviors/biting-and-hitting-16-ways-stop-it"


That was my thought. I've had people tell me to pop him in the mouth and to use MY teeth to bite him back. I'm not doing that. And I'm not pressing his fingers HARD to his teeth, Just enough so he can feel it. And he seems to have grasped the point. He didn't bite yesterday and he hasn't bitten today.

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" Yeah, because I also work. I'm not with them 24/7. My husband watches them, my mom watches them, my ... [snip!] ... and a 7 year old. I have a house to clean, homework to do and other stuff. I can't sit in their room with them ALL THE TIME."</blockquote>




You and all these people should be watching them. That is part of your job as a mother.

Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting i made a vagina.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" Yeah, because I also work. I'm not ... [snip!] ... sit in their room with them ALL THE TIME."</blockquote> Can they play wherever you are? Or whoever is watching them?"


Sure, if we lock them out of the bedroom.

HappyMomTo2 2 kids; Maine 360 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" That was my thought. I've had people tell me to pop him in the mouth and to use MY teeth to bite him ... [snip!] ... Just enough so he can feel it. And he seems to have grasped the point. He didn't bite yesterday and he hasn't bitten today."


I've done it the Dr. Sears way also. My daughter was constantly biting people and this way showed her that people can feel pain. You aren't making him chew on his fingers. I think when people hear bite they are thinking that you are making him chomp down on his fingers.

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10858 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:" But he would recommend that I let my 2 year old continue to get hurt. A 15 month old will not comprehend a timeout. It will take too long for that to work. And he draws blood."


This is no "quick fix" when correcting behavior.

I agree with doing a time-out, but not in his bed. I think making your son bite himself is just reinforcing that behavior.

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" Sure, if we lock them out of the bedroom."</blockquote>




...:?

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
21st Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stephanie Onyembi:</b>" That was my thought. I've had people tell me to pop him in the mouth and to use MY teeth to bite him ... [snip!] ... Just enough so he can feel it. And he seems to have grasped the point. He didn't bite yesterday and he hasn't bitten today."</blockquote>




I'm glad you found something that works for you and your son. I hope he decides that he is done with biting soon.



I think kids bite when their mouths hurt from teething.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119086 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting HappyAndPregnant:" I've done it the Dr. Sears way also. My daughter was constantly biting people and this way showed her ... [snip!] ... him chew on his fingers. I think when people hear bite they are thinking that you are making him chomp down on his fingers."


What else are we suppoesd to think when she says it hurts him?

HappyMomTo2 2 kids; Maine 360 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" What else are we suppoesd to think when she says it hurts him?"


I didn't read where she said it hurts him. When I posted that the thread was already 3 pages. lol

j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
21st Mar '13

My almost 14 month old bites.. most commonly he bites his brother. Occassionally, he bites me, and himself. One, he is a baby and he doesnt understand, two, he is teething, it feels good to mouth and bite things.



I cant always prevent him biting but I mostly redirect him.. I tell him no, we dont bite, and I remove him. I dont commonly leave them unattended. I spend most of my life correcting and redirecting him lol



You need to give your oldest a safe place his brother cant get to him, he needs time to himself. He also needs an explanation that his brother doesnt know better and youre sorry he bites him..that youre trying to teach him not to. My oldest yells and says no biting and moves out of the way. That way I know whats going on..and his brother knows he shouldnt do that to him.

Stephanie Onyembi 2 kids; Duluth, Minnesota 1514 posts
21st Mar '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" What else are we suppoesd to think when she says it hurts him?"


I pressed 2 of his fingers down on his teeth JUST ENOUGH for him to feel it. But when he bites his brother, he draws blood and bruises him. I'm still waiting for someone to tell me what I should tell my 2 year old to make him understand that until the redirection and timeouts work, he's going to get bitten. Because despite what some super moms may think, they can't be in my sight every second of every day.