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*********************done J WOWW Due October 30; 34 kids; New York, New York 3836 posts
22nd Mar '13

Thanks for responses xoxoxo

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
22nd Mar '13

Did you lose custody of your other children?

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18566 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" Did you lose custody of your other children?"</blockquote>




This! Will you be a single mom of 3, or 1?

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59981 posts
22nd Mar '13

I believe you said your parents have custody of your two children? Why not start by trying to get custody of them? ETA: Their father. Sorry, my misunderstanding. Do you get visitation at all?



Just, IMO, it seems odd to be completely invested and think that this pregnancy is going to change anything with your addiction or mental illness when your other kids didn't. I'm not trying to be snarky.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
22nd Mar '13

KUDOS for getting the help you need and rebuilding your relationship w/your children. I will pray for you , that you stray strong and focused on your road of recovery and count the new life growing inside you as the blessing that it is.....

Nicole Mclovin 3 kids; Colorado 2784 posts
22nd Mar '13

Do what you think is right. But if you don't have custody of your other children. Do you think it going to be any easier to raise this baby? If your not fully committed to rasing the baby then I would say give it up for adoption or abort

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting The Doctor:" I believe you said your parents have custody of your two children? Why not start by trying to get custody ... [snip!] ... is going to change anything with your addiction or mental illness when your other kids didn't. I'm not trying to be snarky."


I agree with this.
And be prepared for CPS or whatever it is called in your state, to step in right after birth, if they removed your other children. In this state, you wouldn't ever leave the hospital with the child.

Nicole Mclovin 3 kids; Colorado 2784 posts
22nd Mar '13

Also I think your two living children should be your main focus.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I believe you said your parents have custody of your two children? Why not start by trying to get custody ... [snip!] ... is going to change anything with your addiction or mental illness when your other kids didn't. I'm not trying to be snarky."</blockquote>



This.




Also, not trying to be rude at all, but if this is your 3rd pregnancy this year, don't you think charting your period isn't working and it's time to invest in some better birth control? Stop putting yourself through this, you're going to make recovery even harder on yourself hun.

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20227 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting The Doctor:" I believe you said your parents have custody of your two children? Why not start by trying to get custody ... [snip!] ... is going to change anything with your addiction or mental illness when your other kids didn't. I'm not trying to be snarky."


:!: this



And about your SO, if he really doesn't want more children and you don't use BC, you both should be doing more than charting your period to try and prevent a pregnancy. It obviously isn't working.

yo moyo 1 child; Ishim, Russian Federation 1335 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Nicole Mclovin:" Also I think your two living children should be your main focus."


I agree.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I agree with this. And be prepared for CPS or whatever it is called in your state, to step in right ... [snip!] ... in right after birth, if they removed your other children. In this state, you wouldn't ever leave the hospital with the child."</blockquote>




Do you know why her other kids aren't in her care? Because from what I know, your last statement about the hospital not letting her leave with the baby isn't correct unless she is using drugs..



OP, if you want to keep this baby it's understandable. But you should also knuckle down and focus on your life in this next 9 months. Figure out how to get your kids back or be there for them more. It won't be easy but it is doable. If you don't want to put in the massive amount of work its gonna take then if suggest adoption(I know you said you can't but..) or abortion.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I agree with this. And be prepared for ... [snip!] ... want to put in the massive amount of work its gonna take then if suggest adoption(I know you said you can't but..) or abortion."



like I said in my response, it IS true in this state. If were children were taken from her, they will take this one as well. I don't know what her state laws are.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 666 posts
22nd Mar '13

I dont really believe in abortion so I cant help you there but, Im wondering why your other 2 kids arent with you??? And if they were taken away then maybe you should not be having kids if you cant take care of the ones you already have (Im just assuming).. As for him.. he disgusts me.. He's having all this unprotected sex (fully knowing that he can get these girls pregnant) and not learning to wrap it... He needs to man up and take on his responsibilties and stop being a loser.. He may not have wanted another child but he sure didnt do anything to prevent it...

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49151 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I agree with this. And be prepared for ... [snip!] ... want to put in the massive amount of work its gonna take then if suggest adoption(I know you said you can't but..) or abortion."


here cps will take them if ur other children have been removed no questions asked.